I’m just - fucking out of solutions.

Wife has had our third kid, suffered an injury with birth which means we can’t have sex. We stopped having sex for 2 months before baby was born.

I work, self-employed and do well, but not well enough for her not work at all. I want to change my career and need to train, but can’t stop working to make ends meet in order to do so.

She wants to take her work back to zero and has openly threatened to “on paper, leave you so I can claim benefits” - but that’s divorce isn’t it - that’s just a weird way of calling for divorce in order to avoid work and get some money.

She says “not really leaving me” but fuck her, obviously that’s just leaving me cos I can’t make enough money, no matter how she slices it.

So, work is max, sex is nil- I’m not sure what else I can do; I don’t want to leave her (to stop the children hitting the single mom shit show) - as a quick primer - I do lift, I am naturally cocky/funny and make her laugh, I earn fairly well (about 50k) as a self employed heat engineer.

Downside, to be honest, I don’t do well without sex and this might be skewing my take on this.

At this point - I’m just stuck, to be honest; I’m getting sick of her lack of work ethic, motherhood being her whole personality and recent sexual removal.

Anyone got any advice before I smash my head up against a wall cos this dickhead is driving me nuts. (To score My wife, she’s a solid 8)

Thanks anybody