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Newbie needs advice

yoktoboss · 2017-09-02T12:22:41+00:00

hi i am a high schooler and i have been wondering how i can apply game to my life. since i was in middle school i have always been a nerd(smart but little...

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September 2, 2017

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Title	Newbie needs advice
Author	yoktoboss
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	September 2, 2017 12:22 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/6xlkzq/newbie_needs_advice/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/newbie-needs-advice.113586 https://theredarchive.com/post/113586

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Does that make sense though? So many times when I meet "beta" guys I think "man, if you were in my circle of friends we would eat you alive" from the things they wear to the things they say/do. Men do a lot of stupid shit bc of scarcity mentality and pedestalizing women. "Happy wife happy life" type shit. "She wanted to wear matching outfits so I'm wearing this clown shirt" .. Grow a backbone dude. I'm not saying don't so something bc your friend might make fun of you, I'm saying that if you wear a stupid shirt and you friends make fun of you, own that shit, make fun of yourself, who cares. This way when a girl says "you probably have a little dick" it won't crush your soul and make you cry. Instead you'll smile, chuckle and say "so you're thinking about my dick huh? If you play nice maybe I'll introduce you" Or some other smart ass remark

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[–]alittletoosmooth0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

At school its so much easier actually. There is always plausible deniability as long as you can read social cues. Invite girls to do stuff with you. Like i said before you should work on your hobbies and as is said around here "Live a cool life". If you're going rock climbing, then invite a girl (assuming you've already - you know - talked to her before this invitation). If she comes, that doesn't mean she wants to suck your cock, but it doesn't mean she DOESN'T either. Only one way to find out - escalating.

That being said, don't be so focused on hooking up. You're going to put too much pressure on yourself. Just focus on doing what you need to at school and in the gym and if you have extra time practice going to the mall and talking to strangers or just throughout your day. If you're the lunch line, talk to the people around you, guys, girls, everyone. You have to practice your conversation skills. If you have social anxiety- watch some Jordan Peterson videos- they highlight some helpful points to get over it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijdr4eJcdHQ

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