Any advice for those of us simple enough to have done it again? Now divorcing (a DV case is pending and not against me) and a child is involved, so there will be child support. I feel fleeced, but the question is how to navigate. Can I lower my spousal support from first marriage given the child support I will pay for second one (adopted)? Anyone with this experience? No, it can't be worked out. There is abject refusal to be personally accountable for DV actions.