I have this issue and wondering how other women feel. A coworker who has a gut, kinda boring and not attractive keeps messaging me asking for "lunch date" and I can't help being bothered he thinks I'd be interested. I'm very fit, better looking among other things. Does he think that I'm in his league and I'm deluded about mine or do men just go for anyone and hope for the best? Do you get offended if a man like that pursues you?