The guy is me haha. I'm 31.

My partner is 29 and has never said I love you to anyone before. She's had 3 serious relationships and lots of casual dating. I estimate that she spent 5 years in relationships and 5 single, and in the single years probably had 6-7 casual dating partners in that time + a few more one night stands. She never said I love you in the serious relationships all of which were 1 year plus.

I am the first. I don't know what to make of this.

Is this good news? Or does it mean something else? I honestly don't know. I think it's good to be someone's first and I know that she means what she says about loving me, her actions match her words. She lets me have complete sexual control over her and we've engaged in very intense dom sub fantasy. She's extremely sexual. She also is obviously very into me.

I want to know what the internet thinks. I'm sure I'll regret posting this.

I feel like there are a lot of points to be made in favor of both sides of an argument.

Argument that I'm an AF / in a good situation:

  • She gives me complete sexual dominion. She lets me do whatever I want and has told me she's let me do things past partners couldn't. She's told me that we've had more sex more quickly than past partners. She cums every time we have sex frequently 2-3 times.
  • One of her long term relationships couldn't have sex, and she stayed in that relationship. So she's willing to stick with someone where sex isn't on the table at all.
  • She's bonkers for commitment from me. She's nuts for me. Her actions prove it.
  • Argument against BB is that she makes a shit ton more money than I do

Arguments that I'm BB / in a bad situation:

  • She obviously let a significant amount of men have sex with her without any commitment. She has told me she feels the clock ticking and now she's all commitment crazed. The timing isn't ideal.
  • She's made sure several times to overly ensure that I am willing to get married and have children and has sought very mild commitments to this.
  • She has moved our relationship extremely quickly. Unnaturally so. It sort of reeks of wanting to just settle down with a warm body and not necessarily that there's anything specific to me that drives her to want this.
  • She raises her age and the fact that she's "not 24" all the time. She makes a consistent marching drum towards commitment in a way that's way too fast.

What do you think?