I often feel like I'm a social retard. I've put a lot of work into my body, cut down 100lbs, bulked up the gains, now in cutting down to 10% bf again. But something I've realized is that while putting so much effort into my appearance I've neglected other parts of myself like social skills, personality. To cope with that I started just being a douche and pretending to never give a fuck about anything. I basically became a "gronk". It worked and got me laid pretty easily. Yet I still lack in actual social skills. I'm too in my own head all the time and if I try to approach a girl I just flub my words and get all shaky like a nervous dog.

Would you guys say the best way to start on this is to just experience more social stuff and focus on acting the way I want until it becomes who I am? Unlike weights in a gym, I don't know how I'm supposed to work on this aspect of life