Hi all,

back story: Met girl, went on 1st date. Went out, had a great time, midway she told me she has a bf and starts complaining about him to me. Told her that he can entertain her when I'm not around. she initiate again, I ask her out, she gave excuses. Told her I'm not interested in being a back up and give me a call when she made up her mind. Went no contact and next her.

fast forward 8 months she contacted me again, asked me out for drinks with her friends. I asked about her bf and she dodged the question and told me she's available. Went out had fun, dancing and lots of kissing. We drove separate cars and went back.

She initiate again asking me out, took her out to dinner and desserts, again lots of kissing, I escalate a little by touching her. She subtly told me she's on her period, I drop her back home after.

She initiate again and I asked her out, this time she was ovulating. Went for dinner and then to desserts. Again lots of kissing and touching, she doesn't allow neck kisses for reasons she doesn't want to share. Tried to escalate to sex few times after backing out when she refuse, she lives with parents and so am I. Suggested to go to a hotel and she didn't want to. drove back to her place and started making out again and lots of touching in front of her house and just said good bye.

My thoughts: This girl is setting me up as the next guy to jump ship. Not sure if the environment I'm from matters, I'm from Malaysia where people here are more conservative. She has no problems making out, hand holding, butt grabbing and teasing but says no to sex. Should I soft next her and go no contact? Play it cool and try again next date when she approaches me again? Make it clear what I want and have a take it or leave it stance?

My goal is for the long term with her and have meaningful intimacy. What are your thoughts and suggestions for next move? I'm new to red pill, roast me if need be for me to learn.