I'm having a hard time figuring this one out. Although I'm alright in the looks department, I'm 6'1, got athletic body, doing team sports on weekends, just applied for a college got a decent paying job, I'm 21 years old but I've got frame issues. Due to being unable to stay calm and focused most of the times I begin to rationalize that it is probably my genetics and I'm hard-wired that way. I have this validation-seeking behavior I want to get rid of, I feel like I gotta prove my worth to everyone which makes me anxious and fucks things up for me, I just can't not give a shit, it's so intense at times. It could be related with some past issues during high school when I got mocked for a while and didn't stand up for myself and some failed relationships. I'm not necessarily talking about getting laid but in general. Sometimes I feel that I'm confident and I kinda feel that I'm keeping my frame and everything is fine until some minor shit happens and my mind is in a negative feedback loop probably due to my past experiences and my frame is shattered so easily.

EDIT: My dad has always been a beta bitch without a backbone as well so I would like to do anything in my power to prevent that from happening with me.