I left my son in Utah but no way I wanted to raise my son there. There are many reasons why I left Utah, refer to my last post as to one of the reasons I left. I decided to take a government job in San Diego because it’s an opportunity I couldn’t afford to pass up. Besides my soon to be Ex and my son, we had no family in Utah. I was unemployed and miserable in that state. My happiness was affecting how I treated others. My wife wants to end it. She wants to stay in Utah and that’s fair. Our marriage was over years ago and I should have ended it before I made mistakes.

It’s her passive aggressiveness that bothered me. Now it worries me with her taking care of my son. She has a very difficult time making decisions but she’s loves to people please. She’d rather focus on making others happy instead of focusing on what’s important. For example, when we were broke she wanted to send her family money and would get mad at me saying I wasn’t supportive.

When I asked her for help with finances it was like pulling teeth. At the beginning of our marriage she’d do things that really upset me and then she’d cry and I started becoming really soft. I realize after 10 years of marriage I was getting very soft just to end up getting divorce anyway. Where do I go from here?