I don't take action because of being unsure of my own SMV

SeekingTheWay · 2017-09-21T14:25:50+00:00

Never decide for the woman that she wouldn't sleep with you. You miss 100% of the chances you don't take.

185poundsofhatredWIP · 2017-09-21T15:25:49+00:00

If you actually get IOIs, it is easy mode. Honestly quit being a little bitch.

AwakenedSovereign · 2017-09-21T15:50:15+00:00

And even worse, sometimes I hesitate to make a move or initiate an interaction with a girl because I keep thinking in my mind that will this be what an alpha/chad do? Or is it the right thing to do?

The short and true answer is don't be a pussy.

The longer and still true answer is that this stuff gets easier with time. On your first 10 approaches, you are going to be stuck in your head as described.

On your first 10 plates / girlfriends, you are going to be stuck in your head as described.

After you've done this for a couple years, and you've been there, done that, the anxiety fades. But ONLY if you force yourself to act. Succeed or fail, you will gain experience. ONLY through that experience will you begin to build real confidence.

Chad doesn't ask himself what Chad would do. Chad understands the truth - sometimes you just do random shit for the fuck of it. If you know the "right" thing to do great.. otherwise just improvise and have a sense of humor about it.

Make a conscious effort to stay positive.

Example: Anxious feelings are bad I must be beta (IE your post)

Personally I found those uncertain feelings to be a good sign. When you are a little anxious or afraid of what comes next.. you know you are headed in the right direction. Grab your balls and keep going.

blackedoutfast · 2017-09-21T18:04:43+00:00

male SMV isn't based entirely on looks. other things like status and attitude are also factors. unless you're really ugly (it doesn't sound like you are) your appearance won't be a dealbreaker. BUT you will need to work harder than much hotter guys. a male model can get away with mediocre game, but you can't expect to do well with mediocre looks and mediocre game.

you need to develop an irrational level of self confidence. you need to feel like you are always the best man in the room. when you talk to a girl, you're doing her a favor because you're the prize, not her.

and sometimes it just doesn't work out. happens to all of us from time to time. even Chad gets rejected occasionally. if you're not hitting off with a girl, don't worry about it because it's no big deal. there are billions of other women out there, and if the situation isn't going well just move on to a different one

McVaghunter · 2017-09-21T16:10:58+00:00

Look your best and ASSUME YOU'RE THE SHIT!

[deleted] · 2017-09-21T14:22:07+00:00

Stop trying to be "Alpha". Just start being awesome. It's that simple.

"Chad" does what "Chad" wants to do. That's the whole thing about him. Yes, he fucks up, makes unwarranted moves on girls and gets rejected but that doesn't bother him... Because he's chad :P

Title	I don't take action because of being unsure of my own SMV
Author	ZeroVisiblity
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	September 21, 2017 2:18 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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