25. Never had sex. Girls are starting to show interest. Where do I begin?

thirt13n · 2017-09-23T06:39:57+00:00

First off good work on the 180. Youve accomplished something most in your position only wish of themselves. You acted.

You've hit a plateau in your development. They happen. Just like your lifting routine, it's time to up intensity and make small modifications to keep your body guessing.

You need to approach.. get number.. get date.. and get her back to her or your place. I don't know how you should you act.. I don't know you. You need to work at it and fail over and over until you succeed.

If you're not confident in approach yet, fake it. Fake it till you make it works as long as you're commited. Maybe start off away from your usual places of school/hang outs. That way you can make a fool of yourself and it'll be fine.

It's a simple plateau of development. Get out the comfort zone. Good luck.

anusbleach11111 · 2017-09-23T13:09:36+00:00

You need to approach. You see a girl who's pussy you want to eat for breakfast, you need to let her know you're interested in her. It's a mans job to initiate, so simply just say 'Hi" and take it from there. Make small talk, then ask for her number. Then a couple days later say "Hey, let's grab a drink." That's basically all it takes to land a date. After that you gotta learn how to escalate, kino, isolation, etc. Do you have your own place? If so, invite them over on the second or third date.

But mainly now you've reached the point where you increased your smv, and now all that's left is learning game. It's gonna be a tough, but fun, challenge. Word of advice, the first girl you fuck you're gonna fall head over heels for. It's normal, and I feel like it's inevitable for a man to go beta for the first girl he loses his virginity to. So whatever, fuck it, let it happen, don't resist, and learn from your mistakes step by step along the way.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-09-23T15:15:48+00:00

I'm to lazy to repeat what I told another dude last week.

OK, you and I are going to have a little pep talk. So sit down and buckle your seatbelt.

You don't need all or even most women to be attracted to you or to even "like" you. It doesn't matter if 100 women don't want to date you. You just need the next woman to. Or the next after that. As many as it takes, man, as many as it takes until you're slaying it. There are no wrong answers, everything that happens is something you can gain priceless experience from. What have you learned?

Everyone always fails until they succeed. You'll always get rejected until you don't. Don't want to go that extra mile and approach one more woman? Understand that the guys out there who are being successful with women, aren't doing it by accident. They got rejected by more women in one week than you have in 5 years.

"Lot of bad experiences left me pretty discouraged."

Huh?

They weren't bad experiences. Stop that kind of talk right now. You ever seen the show "Gold Rush" on Discovery?

Note that rejection in this case is a success, because your job is to separate the many women who simply aren't worth your time, from the few that are actually worth your time. There is nothing less worth your time than a woman who doesn't act interested, doesn't smile when you look at her, and doesn't want to date you.

So, you actually succeeded in doing your job, you removed lots of waste rock from the big pile of gold containing gravel in front of you. (Trust me, there's a ton of gold in there. but you need to have a "Positive Value Mentality" to get it.) Now all you want to do is complain about how badly you failed and go home, when literally the only way you can fail at this job is to not fucking do it.

So, first of all you need to change your beliefs. Then, change your expectations.

Expect that the majority of women aren't going to be interested for a variety of reasons, that are utterly irrelevant to your value as a person. expect that they'll reject you. You should also expect that your job is to get rejected by tons of women, until they start saying yes.

But understand this- all else being equal, women tend to be pretty good at sensing what other people expect of them. So even assuming that the actually liked you (which some probably did, you seem like a decent dude based on your post history)........ they sensed that you were neither ready to date someone, nor did you really expect to. So they just treated you like you expected.

MattyAnon · 2017-09-23T14:45:57+00:00

They will sit beside me in public and hold eye contact and smile

Awesome work. This behaviour only happens because women are attracted. With this level of interest you only have to do things a little bit right and you'll get laid regularly.

just honestly dont know how to go about this. I feel like Im not confident enough to approach yet. However, i have no problem interacting with them socially. I just dont know how to make interactions into a sexual nature.

Ok.

Fundamentally you want to make your interactions sexual. Accept that you'll fuck this up. Accept that it will go wrong. Women test men as a prelude to sex, and they band together and they misunderstand things. Things WILL go wrong, and sometimes unfixably so. Are you ok with this? Make sure you are.

Make it sexual: fundamentally you are escalating and leading and sexualising. See this as a gradual thing. There are no prizes for going too fast. Go through the steps each time.

You want to combine sex, confidence, escalation, comfort (trust and strength) and rapport-breaking (non-needy, non-emotionally-taking).

Ok, how to do this:

Eye contact.... that feels borderline aggressive.

Look at her LIPS as well as her eyes.

Check out her tits. Eye contact.... look down.... look back..... "nice rack". (This will generate shit tests, which is good).

Physically escalate.

All this stuff is easy... the hard part is the big steps. Getting her into a taxi, or into your house. Break these down into small steps... eg taxi to the next venue before taxi to "this bar next to my place". Step inside your house "just for a sec" before heading out again.

The big steps need to be practised for her to feel safe.

You make her feel safe and trust you through your strength. Through being true to yourself, not by supplicating, not by being considerate. Challenging her.

In short: break everything down into tiny steps, and TRY TO DO IT. Failure doesn't matter, you need practice, so get practice. And don't walk away for any reason. She can walk away, you don't. Nothing to say? Say nothing. Feel uncomfortable? Do nothing. Just don't walk away.

le_king_falcon · 2017-09-23T10:11:36+00:00

Calibrate yourself socially by being social. As other replies have said, take yourself into social situations where it won't come back to bite you if you act like a fool.

Find one of these girls who is giving off the signals of interest, then strike up a conversation and take it somewhere subtly sexual, see how she reacts and escalate based on feedback. Rinse and repeat. You'll eventually get a better understanding of how and when to push conversations along in the direction you want.

VladvonK · 2017-09-23T15:22:06+00:00

Do girls normally not hold eye contact unless they're interested? I'm a 6'2 300 lb fat fuck and most women will still hold solid eye contact with me.

Start small, baby steps. I'm on mobile so can't get you the link but google Corey Wayne social skills. He's got some videos on where to start if you're a newby.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-09-23T13:30:07+00:00

Where? The gym.

recursoinominado · 2017-09-23T14:02:08+00:00

You absolutely need to learn game, my friend. Congratulations on your results but there is no substitute for game, no matter how high your SMV is, unless you are somewhat famous. Look at the RSD (Real social dynamics)stuff, there is a lot of free concept on the YouTube and even download on piratebay.

vigilantfox · 2017-09-24T11:55:01+00:00

Actually you already know how. The same way you lost weight. Probably with baby steps, getting out your comfort zone. You already proved that you have the necessary discipline to achieve it. Also, read about Scalation ladder from Vin Dicarlo.

Title	25. Never had sex. Girls are starting to show interest. Where do I begin?
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Date	September 23, 2017 6:07 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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