One question poll on living as a man in a feminist world

2013-10-19T23:41:40+00:00

Does your personal definition of masculinity include being so worried about a feminist society that you would not stop your car to aid a small child wandering lost by the riverside?

It's got fuck all to do with my personal definition of masculinity and everything to do with how society has trained people to view masculinity. I resent the framing of the question, the suggestion that feminism threatens my fragile male ego, or that I'm so worked up with anti-feminism that I'll ignore child safety.

At the moment when a child is lost, parents are in a panic, and concerned passers by are eager to be heroic, the last thing I want to be is a strange man seen talking to the child or looking like I'm showing the child where to walk. And if I don't approach but hang around anxiously, that's six o'clock news stuff: police are anxious to talk to a man who was seen stopping his car and looking at the child. My policy is that if there's somebody in the vicinity who's respectable and above suspicion, meaning a woman, I'll ask them to approach the child, otherwise I'm outta there. Thankfully, I haven't had to put that policy into practice.

levelate · 2013-10-19T23:49:35+00:00

hmmm, a framed question, how very feminist of you.

tell me, have you stopped manipulating data for your own ends?

i will only accept yes or no as an answer.

2013-10-19T23:25:00+00:00

I'm not a man so I didn't take the poll, but I would like to add that as a woman, I wouldn't try to help the child personally. I would call 911 and keep the kid in sight until help arrived. Depending on the age of the child, I might lend them my cell phone and let them call their parents.

baskandpurr · 2013-10-20T00:15:04+00:00

If I thought the child was in danger I would help, despite the risk of negative opinions and blame. If I thought there was a way to help the child that did not risk those things I would choose that way. That man's behaviour is rational, though not especially caring. If I choose the first option I am acting in a less than rational way. My conscience would not allow the child to come to harm, even if that places me at risk. But it's a matter of morality rather than rationality.

nicemod · 2013-10-20T00:30:32+00:00

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Title	One question poll on living as a man in a feminist world
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Upvotes	0
Comments	13
Date	October 19, 2013 11:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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