i have those strange feelings when i'm interacting with a chick, it takes me time to get "comfortable" around a chick that i really want. it smells like validation seeking and i do manage to handle the behavior but the feeling is there. i feel like it is hard for me to feel comfortable around certain girls. especially very hot ones. it really messes things with them for me. because it makes me hesitate and seem kind of shy and closed up. even when i already hitting it i still can't enjoy the moment fully because i feel a strong need to remain under control. and because i send those mixed signals of alpha & beta they start to shit test and i just know what to do so i kind of handling it but for some it is harder to do and it just brings a ton of shit testing upon me, it's annoying as fuck. what can i do about it?