TLDR at the bottom.
Lived with this girl in college. This all started 8 months ago. Im 21, she's a year older.
Stupidly made a move on her on what happened to be the day after my best friend's funeral, died of cystic fibrosis at 21. Had sex with her that night (I was a virgin before this) ghosted her for a week (moved home to get my head together) eventually it became a regular thing that she would just come in to my room and we would cuddle, watch movies and have sex.
I was a virgin before this. Not only a virgin but an /r9k/ browsing, porn addicted, insomniac, anorexic shut in virgin who didn't talk to a girl from the age of 13-20, theres about 3 or 4 pictures of me taken in that time frame. Yeah. I was and am pretty fucked up. R9k is like TRP but the misogyny x10.
She was basically attracted because I followed advice here. I kept very busy, gave her no validation, lifted everyday and I was naturally tall and good looking. Also she knew I was smart because I was studying engineering. Zero social status though. Easy prey for a psycho.
I wanted to basically have sex with her a few times and then end it, just to get rid of the virgin label. Naturally though this didn't happen, and we both caught feelings. She told me she loved me about a month in. She became massively clingy and seeing as I had no boundaries, we ended up spending almost every hour of every day with each other for nearly two months. Sleeping in the same bed, studying together, eating together. I was actually pretty happy throughout this time, so was she. In hindsight it was far too intense and I had no room to breathe, at all. I now believe this is a manipulatve tactic women use to get you dependent on them. Love bombing.
Throughout this time, she was obsessed with nobody finding out about it. Again, seeing as I had no boundaries, I went along with it. So I couldn't talk to anybody about how insane she was. Another tactic to keep me isolated and keep her in a position of power.
Im already cringing about the next part. After the semester finished she went travelling with her girlfriend from college. Seeing as I had no experience with girls we didn't even have a proper talk before she left. We talked on the phone for the first time after she went home to her hometown. She was travelling in Europe for 2 months. Iwaited for her to get back like the stupid faggot I was. She messaged me and rang me everyday but I have no doubt on what she got up to over there. I should have pursued other girls, I had one I definitely could have fucked but I didn't because I was in love with her.
She got back and this is where the realy craziness started. We start fighting all the time. She tells me we are finished, then rings me a few hours later when I don't react (following TRP advice). She first hits me around this time in one of her tempers. The pattern of breaking up with me and ringing me a gew hours later becomes a regular occurrence.
She convinces me to get college accommodation near her. She comes over to watch movies and have sex. I live with people I don't know, while she lives with people I have mutual friends with. She never invites me to her house. Out of shame I'd imagine. I'm a shy person and not very social.
When in public (for example, if our mutual friend groups meet) she ignores me completely. She drinks heavily and goes out to nightclubs and gets black out wasted. She flirts and dances with other men. To be fair, the only time I did go a nightclub, her and her best friend were hanging out of me all night and I got a taxi back to their place and fucked her. They're both HB8+ so this looked good for me socially.
Weighing up my situation, I knew I could never LTR her, so I tried my best to keep it as sex only. Naturally this wasn't ok either, she starts telling me about how I treat her badly and how she needs more from me. Oh, I didn't mention, but I never text or call her first. She always initiates and she rings me daily at the very least. All without anyone knowing of course. I also didn't mention, I asked her to be my girlfriend before this, she said no and wormed her way out of it.
The latest is that she told me to have a nice life and that I hoped I enjoyed the pub I went to with my friends instead of calling her. Of course though, since then I have 5 missed calls from her, all of which I've ignored.
As of now, I think I come out of the situation pretty ok. She broke up with me for being a dick, I look like an alpha fucks to my friends (if only they knew, lol) I feel like this is far from the end though. How do I finish this and minimise the damage?
TLDR : first GF / lay is insecure, depressed, acts like a slut and most importantly, is a nasty bitch. How do I end the relationship without it blowing up in my face?
Please ask me questions if you need clarification on anything. I've concluded that she doesn't want a relationship with me because of my non existent social status but also wants to keep me around because I'm very good looking, 6'3 and good at sex, but shes trying to hamster into believing that it's not "just sex" for her own ego.
She blames everything on her anxiety, by the way.
Ignores me? Anxiety.
Heavy drinking? Anxiety.
Acts like a bitch / coldly in public? Anxiety.
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