Rolo Tomasi and Richard Reeves discuss the 'crisis of masculinity'

zenitchk · 2023-03-13T17:34:23+00:00

Frustrating.

Rollo is an empathetic supporter of men who have reached dead end with the default "just be yourself"/"develop your feminine side" dating/self-development advice. He's a great coiner of slogans ("hypergamy doesn't care", "war brides dynamic", etc) around that theme. But he's unsystematic and a terrible writer who really needs an editor. I've only seen him speak in the Dr Phil interview and this one, and I've been disappointed both times. In this one his lack of systematic thinking is exposed by Reeves.

And Reeves is ignorant or dishonest in his assertion that nobody, least of all feminists or the media or the education system, is saying that men and masculinity is harmful or redundant.

Reeves saying that women will have to recalibrate their requirements for an equally-credentialed man. Interesting, develop it - his example is a nurse marrying a plumber. College degrees for nurses are a relatively recent thing; plumbers with a head for business have always been able to outearn a lot of the white-collar guys whose toilets they fix; throughout most of the history of nurses and plumbers nobody would have batted an eyelid at a marriage between a nurse and a plumber.

Or the argument that everything else being equal a man would prefer his wife to earn more money than less. Everything else being equal is the point that's being avoided by Reeves, and that Rollo is too unfocused a thinker to pick up and focus on in the discussion.

63daddy · 2023-03-13T00:37:04+00:00

I really like that Reeves addresses many issues men and boys are facing, but he typically seems reluctant to address the specific systemic discrimination against men and boys that’s responsible.

Title	Rolo Tomasi and Richard Reeves discuss the 'crisis of masculinity'
Author	shit-zen-giggles
Upvotes	6
Comments	6
Date	March 12, 2023 8:02 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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