Hi there guys. I've been lurking this sub for almost a year and it's proven to be an invaluable resource. I consider myself redpilled but I'm by no means alpha and although I understand the advice given here I struggle to apply it in real life. I specifically created this account to seek advice/interpretation on recent sitaution.

So there's this girl about 2 months ago, met her within a week of matching on Tinder. She's not from my country and travels a lot for work. First date was pleasant, we connected well but I failed to escalate (I'm 22 years old but I'm still shy and inexperienced). I only realized after the date though that she flirted a few times and I'm pretty sure I failed a shit test (yes, I'm that bad). She left the country later that week and we didn't chat much after that. So now recently she texted me saying she's back in the country and we should meet for dinner sometime and I said I'd let her know when I'd be free, when the reality is actually that I'm currently too broke to go out (it might be worth noting that she insisted on settling the dinner bill on the first date). Three weekends went by without either of us initiating contact.

So now yesterday late afternoon I was walking through the city park to get the bus home after a job interview and guess who I bump into? She appears genuinely happy to see me and apparently her phone got stolen so that's why she's been unreachable for the past week. I ask if she'd like to grab a drink and she said yes, although she just comes from work and has to drop off a few things at her apartment. So I walk with her to her apartment, she offers me a drink and we chill for a little and just catch up. After that we head out to a nearby bar, get another drink and just carry on chilling and chatting. She mentioned during the conversation that she doesn't often date but when she does it's usually slightly older guys (she's 3 years older than me), but she would date a younger guy if his maturity level is appropriate. Now I'm an introvert, and generally not a very social person (although it's something I'm trying to work on), and social interactions normally drain me, so after having dealt with a lot of people that day I was mentally tired ; and although I was definitely happy to see her I wasn't mentally prepared for it. So I made an excuse to leave early, she told me to add her on fb as she doesn't have a phone and we just hugged and she kissed me on the cheek goodbye.

So yeah like I said, I struggle to apply RP in real life so I understand that most of my behaviour was BP and cringy as fuck. However I am attracted to this girl and do genuinely enjoy her company. She's always traveling for work and I do plan on seeing other girls in the meantime. However, is it even worth it trying to escalate next time I see her? Or have I blown my chances completely? Any feedback would be much appreciated. Sorry for the long post.