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The four stages of Male loneliness

farendsofcontrast

March 1, 2019
27 upvotes
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https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2019/02/04/the-four-kinds-of-male-loneliness/
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Title The four stages of Male loneliness
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farendsofcontrast

Upvotes 27
Comments 15
Date March 1, 2019 10:00 AM UTC
(7 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/aw35gq/the_four_stages_of_male_loneliness/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/the-four-stages-of-male-loneliness.1181292
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Comments

[–]honeyant818 points 7 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

This came at a great time, I’m lonely and yearning for a certain women, and when I can’t see her it’s because of my expectation that I feel lonely. It is Oneitis, it is bad, and I need to change the way I look at ‘getting’ this feeling of loneliness from a woman. Everyday I try to become more outcome dependent, understanding truly that I can’t change other people’s behaviour and that what I’ve succumbed to is feminine / BP behaviour. Thanks

[–]farendsofcontrast[S] 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Trust the process brother. There’s a great piece on the aforementioned website called “How to cure Oneitis”. I’m sure you’d find it helpful. I did.

[–]TruthSeekingPerson 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Self-validation is the key to contentment.

Also, remember AWALT. There is no such thing as a unicorn.

[–]BlackendLight 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I get oneitis pretty badly as well, even if I have options.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Some good points are raised here but this is unnecessarily verbose. To me, at least.

[–]farendsofcontrast[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I wish he went more in depth. I could read Chateau Heartiste for days. I think he’s one of the best writers TheRedPill community and the manosphere has had so far.

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[–]1papunigga031 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Become high value

Secure plates

Secure extremely high quality male friends

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problem solved

[–]BlackendLight 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I've never been able to secure high quality male friends. I'm not sure about the best way to do that.

[–]1papunigga031 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Become high quality yourself and you will be naturally drawn together. Alphas respect other alphas when we’re living in a sea of betas.

Being in social situations a lot helps, so this is why it’s good to put yourself out there. If you’re in high school join a club. If you’re in college, join an established club or organization (I personally joined a fraternity which was a decision I’m very glad I made).

If those two aren’t your situation, pick up a hobby and meet people through that. Hell you can meet dudes at the gym; I’ve actually made a few high quality friends through that myself.

Just remember, outcome independence is just as important in making friendships as it is with women. Don’t try to force it; no one likes a needy person. Let it come naturally; do it with a sense of abundance.

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