I have trouble with one night stands. Not because I can’t get girls, but because of mental hangups (nice guy syndrome, BPD mother). My mind requires that I have an emotional connection with a girl before I fuck them. If I don’t have feelings for a girl, I often won’t be into the hookup and can even lead to ED. For me, the emotional is as important as the physical which strikes me as something very feminine about myself. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with my dick, I think there’s something I need to fix in my head so that falling in love with a girl isn’t a prerequisite to fucking them.

Is there a way to get over this? Has anyone successfully squashed the need to emotionally connect with women before having sex?

I’m looking for tangible actions that can be taken to mentally fix myself so I can pump and dump with the best of them.

Gracias.

P.S. I have been NoFap for 185 days. And haven’t had any sex while on that streak. I imagine that will somewhat help with my bedroom performance, but I still think my performance issues are mental ones.