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Be careful, caught my X-Wife trolling this thread for answers!

Ok-Rabbit-3891 · 2021-03-01T07:38:51+00:00

As the title says, be careful...

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March 1, 2021

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Title	Be careful, caught my X-Wife trolling this thread for answers!
Author	Ok-Rabbit-3891
Upvotes	12
Comments	11
Date	March 1, 2021 7:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/lv3528/be_careful_caught_my_xwife_trolling_this_thread/
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[–]capn_KC 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]HashingSlingSlasher 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Ok-Rabbit-3891[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]ThingsChange79 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

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[–]ThingsChange79 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I don't mind at all. I wanted to separate to give him time to work on his addictions and to give me time to heal and forgive the emotional and verbal abuse. We have 2 kids and he didn't get sober until the youngest was about a year. He was a mean black out drunk. Almost a year into the separation I realized he still didn't think he was abusive so he wasn't trying to change. I said divorce and things got worse. This past July he begged for another chance. I let him back. Probably shouldn't have. Things can still be hostile and we've been living together for 4 months now. He is in therapy, but he lies to his therapist about the extent of his lies and manipulations.

Divorced_Men has allowed me to have sympathy for him. For what he has been through. I don't absolve him, but I now get how hard that separation had to be on him. I am proud of him for staying sober. Although he is a phone addict that had replaced that addiction with dating apps after I said divorce so now he's back to his phone being the biggest driving force in his life. I also like the "don't give them head space" that is said a lot on here. Generalization coming now...most women are more emotional than men. I am not. For the most part the advice here is less "woe is me" and "life is so terrible" and more here's a list you can do it! I also like that you all will call each other out if need be and usually bluntly.

[–]Taici 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]ThingsChange79 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Taici 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

No actually my ex was agreeable and compliant and that's generally the type I gravitate towards for companionship. But I'll admit there's a type like for sex aswell but these are separate types and some men will want companionship with the wrong type definitely. Also unlike women's reality one thing about most men Is that they've been hurt emotionally by a woman at some point. It's one of the few things men in general will have in common with eachother. Just part of the masculine experience. I agree with you to an extent. I think women with NPD, HPD, the lot- are more likely to lovebomb and hide their dysfunction and there's generally alot of inexperienced men getting caught up. I see women actively gravitate towards very bad men however. Bad bad men. And having offspring with these men and expose their kids to complicated adult dramas. Actively raising a child in a toxic environment. And then want good men at the end of it all to pick up the pieces. It's sad to see sometimes.