Driven to suicide by the Family Court, his wife then tries to use a DMCA takedown to remove his suicide note from the internet.

not-youre-mom · 2021-02-08T21:12:56+00:00

The note:

The love that my daughter and I shared was truly special. She is a such a sweet, kind and gentle spirit. I am so sorry that I will not be there to see her grow into a beautiful woman. It absolutely crushed me to not be in her life over the last three years. I worked very hard as a father to build her confidence and self-esteem. She is smart, funny and considerate, but she didn’t know it yet. I pray that she realizes her strengths and her confidence in herself will continue to grow. I love you dearly, [name redacted].

My son [name redacted] was just entering Kindergarten, when I lost access to him. He is gregarious, outgoing and a great athlete. He is smart and fearless. He could have just as much fun by himself as he could with other kids. Even the older boys in our neighbourhood wanted to play with [name redacted]. It absolutely breaks my heart that I will not be able to help him grow into a man. I love you to, [name redacted]. I miss you both so much.

My identity was taken from me, as result of this process. When it began, I was a commercial real estate broker with CB Richard Ellis. I lived by the Golden rule and made a living by bringing parties together and finding the common ground. My reputation as a broker was built on my honesty and integrity. When it ended, I was broke, homeless, unemployed and had no visitation with my own children.

I had no confidence and was paralyzed with fear that I would be going to jail whenever my ex-wife wanted. Nothing I could say or do would stop it. This is what being to death or ‘targeted’ by a psychopath looks like. This is the outcome. I didn’t somehow change into a ‘high-conflict’ person or lose my ability to steer clear of the law. I’ve had never been arrested, depressed, homeless or suicidal before this process. The stress and pressure applied to me was deliberate and nothing I could do or say would get me any relief. Nothing I or my attorneys said to my ex-wife’s attorney or to the Court made any difference. Truth, facts, evidence or even the best interest of my children had no affect on the outcome.

The family court system is broken, but from my experience, it is not the laws, its the lawyers. They feed off of the conflict. They are not hired to reduce conflict or protect the best interest of children, which is why third parties need to be involved. It should be mandatory for children to have a guardian ad litem, with extensive training in abuse and aggression.

It is absolutely shameful that the Fairfax County Court did nothing to intervene or understand the ongoing conflict. Judge Randy Bellows also used the Children as punishment, by withholding access for failing to fax a receipt. The entire conflict centered around the denial of access to the children, it was inconceivable to me that he would use children like this. This is exactly what my ex-wife was doing and now Judge Bellows was doing it for her.

To all my family, friends and the people that supported me through this process, I am so sorry. I know my reactions and behavior throughout this process did not always make sense. None of this made sense to me either. I had no help and the only suggestion I got from my attorneys was to remain silent.

At first, I did what I was told, remained silent and listened to my attorneys. Then after I had given my ex-wife full custody to try and appease her, I learned about Psychopathy and emailed Dr. Samenow about my concerns and asked him for help. Of course, I was ignored. As the conflict continued, I was forced to defend myself. When that didn’t work, I thought I could get the help I needed by speaking out. There is no right or wrong way to defend yourself from abuse. Naively, I thought that abuse was abuse and it would be recognized and something would be done. I thought speaking out would end the abuse or at least get them to back off. It didn’t. When no one did anything they were emboldened.

I took my own life because I had come to the conclusion that there was nothing I could do or say to end the abuse. Every time I got up off my knees, I would get knocked back down. They were not going to let me be the father I wanted to be to my children. People may think I am a coward for giving up on my children, but I didn’t see how I was going to heal from this. I have no money for an attorney, therapy or medication. I have lost four jobs because of this process. I was going to be at their mercy for the rest of my life and they had shown me none.

Being alienated, legally abused, emotionally abused, isolated and financially ruined are all a recipe for suicide. I wish I were stronger to keep going, but the emotional pain and fear of going to court and jail [because of exorbitant child support] became overwhelming. I became paralyzed with fear. I couldn’t flee and I could not fight. I was never going to be allowed to heal or recover. I wish I were better at articulating the psychological and emotional trauma I experienced.

I could fill a book with all the lies and mysterious rulings of the Court. Never have I experienced this kind of pain. I asked for help, but good men did nothing and evil prevailed. All I wanted was a Guardian Ad Litem for my children. Any third party would have been easily been able to confirm or refute all of my allegations, which is why none was ever appointed to protect the children or reduce the conflict.

Abuse is about power and control. Stand up for the abused and speak out. If someone speaks out about abuse, believe them.

Please teach my children empathy and about emotional invalidation and ‘gas-lighting’ or they may end up like me.

God have mercy on my soul.

Chris Mackney

rabel111 · 2021-02-08T22:21:21+00:00

Unfortunately, this is not an uncommon event for men abused by ex partners and the family court systems of several western countries. What is uncommon here is the voice of an intelligent and articulate father, able to communicate the horror of his abuse, and the abuse of his children.

The suicide rates (raw data) for men involved in family law disputes are not published, and are seldom appropriately acknowledged by suicide prevention professionals.

kaijyuu2016 · 2021-02-08T22:13:34+00:00

Damn that was a hard read, you could really feel his emotions. at least I did.

Metraxis · 2021-02-08T21:44:33+00:00

A tragic story, but also seven years old. This case, as well as Kansas and the current Depp/Heard situation probably deserve to be combined into a megathread of some kind and stickied.

MRRamming · 2021-02-08T22:18:47+00:00

I'm afraid for his kids

thefilthyhermit · 2021-02-09T01:58:59+00:00

I'm thinking that seven years later, his kids have questions and access to Google. The woman is trying to hide her complicity in driving their father to suicide.

EastEndMontrealer1 · 2021-02-09T02:56:12+00:00

When you read articles in that say 'Why are men not getting married anymore?' know that it is because of incidents like this. For those in college and university, when you see academic papers that talk about the number of relationships decreasing, know that it's because of these types of problems occurring at an unacceptable rate. The phrase 'Absolute power rules absolutely' can be applied here. Man-hating feminists have been given far too much power, and now the price is being paid in the blood of men.

I know it sounds like a harsh judgement, but it's the cold hard truth, and until more men start taking back their self respect, and are willing to do whatever it takes to protect themselves, these types of incidents will only continue to happen.

In this case, I don't blame the man, I blame the woman. I say this because it is a classic example of the 21st century woman, the type of woman who want to GET married, but not BE married. This type of woman see's the word 'wife' as a title, and want the respect that comes with it, but not the responsibility that. Until more women remember this fact, then we should see the number of divorces, and number of these incidents, drop.

Suicide is wrong no matter who is the victim, and must be avoided at all costs

2021-02-09T01:35:28+00:00

Imagine what'll happen when his kids find out about this

locks_are_paranoid · 2021-02-09T03:05:52+00:00

All laws can be abused, I never thought DMCA would be used to remove a suicide note.

Atilla942 · 2021-02-09T09:02:25+00:00

This is heart breaking to read but just ask feminists they will probably blame the poor guy claiming its internalised misogyny or some other fancy terms these clowns invent in their gender studies classes.

Brojustwhy · 2021-02-09T03:39:08+00:00

I am a feminist, I will not argue about anything in this comment thread, right now is a time of grief, may this poor abused man rest in peace and may the world be a better place for men someday, Amen.

Driven to suicide by the Family Court, his wife then tries to use a DMCA takedown to remove his suicide note from the internet.

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Title	Driven to suicide by the Family Court, his wife then tries to use a DMCA takedown to remove his suicide note from the internet.
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Date	February 8, 2021 2:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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