TL;DR - my friend knows how to game, but still has a terrible Oneitis. Drunkly she allowed him to finger her, but afterwards she regrets it, he's devastated. How do I help him? I know you can only unplug yourself, but I don't want to see him waste his time and life over that chick.

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I drop some Red Pill truths on my friend I met a few months ago from time to time, now I'm struggling to help him get out of his Oneitis. He has some pickup background, is actually good at nightgame, but he's still BP (aren't we all though to some degree?)

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He met that girl 5 years ago, developed feeling for her, got friendzoned hard. They had some periods of no contact, the most recent was a year, because of collage. He graduated, he moved back to the city and they started talking again. Despite of getting pussy in collage (he claims to have n-count=34), his Oneitis feelings resurfaced again.

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I met this girl in June this year, all 3 of us hung out. She seemed cool and is pretty cute, 7.5 maybe 8, right after that meeting I straight up told him he could do better, but he didn't believe. He told me she's intoxicating, the most fascinating girl he had ever met.

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That same month all 3 of us went to a music festival over the weekend. The first day they arrived there before me, got drunk, made out a couple times. When I arrived they were vibing each other really well - at one point he fingered her on the dance floor. The festival ended, they went together back to his place, because that's where she parked her car. I assumed they fucked.

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The next day I met him before the festival, he was head over heels, excited and happy as fuck - after all one of his dreams was coming true. I asked him about sex, he said they didn't fuck and that she drove home. Okay, that's pretty weird after what I saw on the festival. Then the girl arrived, and she was totally cold to him, which visibly made my friend sad. She said she barely remembered the previous day because she was too drunk (yeah right). I realized why she drove home last night - she sobered up, thought "wtf have I done" and just wanted to bail.

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So that day was totally ruined for my friend, because of expectations - he wanted her to be all over him, but she wasn't.

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A week later my friend, still totally devastated because of his crushed dreams, decided to pour his heart to her. They went to a nice rooftop bar, where he told her how much she means to him, how she's awesome etc.

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Obviously the talk didn't make her drop her panties for him, they split, nothing changes, she is still only a friend to him. A week later my friend finds a girlfriend. Yep, you read it correctly - they met on Tinder, went out, decided to be a couple after a few days of knowing each other.

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Until Monday, Oct 1, he seemed to be relatively fine. His girlfriend is cool, he claimed to have kept falling for her more and more, still wants to fuck his Oneitis, but says it probably won't happen. He even banged a chick on vacations (cheating), Oneitis and him still hang out from time to time, but he said he hadn't thought about her romantically in a while. Cool, good for him.

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But then they meet on Tuesday, Oct 2. Basically he becomes her emotional tampon for the evening - she cuddles with him, says she needs to feel wanted. She tells him "I just want someone to hug me and tell me I'm pretty". And his Oneitis is back. Or maybe it was never gone in the first place. He interprets that as her wanting him sexually, which we all know is not true. He knows it either, I made sure to lecture his ass on that matter, but he can't help it. He's devastated again and I don't know what else I can tell him. Logically he knows what to do, but emotionally he's gone.

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Also: she makes some moves on me. IOI's, shit tests, asking me out - you name it. Bros before hoes, but because I pass her shit tests (I worked too hard to not be a bitch, to go back at it again) and I'm also unavailable, I can see her interest in me rising. So the only way for her to lose interest in me - to be exactly that beta bitch I used to be before?

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