I've been practicing TRP principles for years now and had had good success with that. Only problem is that, recently, I got a sneaky oneitis for a girl. My situation right now is not great and I don't have a whole lot of options girl-wise, which is the root of the problem. I found myself pining for a girl orders of magnitude hotter than the rest and got into this mentality of "I don't want to fuck this up". That led me to do stuff that was nothing short of beta as fuck and it actually kind of scared me. I couldn't believe that situation was enough to turn me back to my old ways. This kind of turned her off, so I quickly pulled off and reflected on my life. And.... I guess that kind of turned her on and she came back asking if I wanted to go on a date (she had said no a couple of weeks prior). Only thing is that now the veil of oneitis is absolutely blinding me and I'm trying to tone my excitement down, because I was actually excited when she told me that, which isn't a good sign at all. What I've done is answer almost two days later that I was pretty busy and that I could in a week or so (which is partly true). She read the message but didn't answer. I have this feeling she won't answer and I hate the fact that it bothers me. I feel like my answer was good (you can correct me on that) and I forced myself to go into a "I don't care about fucking this up" mentality. But the fact is deep inside of me I care about fucking this up and it sucks that I have to kind of fuck it up in order to get rid of oneitis. I guess I'm writing here to get this thing off my chest, feel free to give any advice or anecdotes.