How to give my boyfriend space without shutting him out

skinnyminnieglowaway · 2022-08-08T03:05:55+00:00

I've been in this situation. Your love language is obviously touch and you can discuss this with him and if he doesn't improve to help you get your needs met, you may be incompatible. Some people need touch more than others and you have to figure out what you can accept..

missionarypositive · 2022-08-07T11:05:23+00:00

Take anything I say with a grain of salt, but I’d touch him anyway. If he isn’t in the mood, he’ll back off. If he is, he’ll be receptive. It’s not taking it personally when he does brush you off that makes him more keen to seek YOU out. Try not to shut him out if he does brush you off, be curious instead, or focus on your own things, give yourself the touch you’re craving, remind yourself that there are plenty of reasons you’re dating him that aren’t touch-related, be kind to yourself, be sweet, that is the true feminine position. It is soft, gentle, forgiving, and don’t be afraid to gently tease him, let it be known, pout a little cutely. It’s all about keeping it light. In moments you’re desperate for his touch, make it known. Don’t be afraid, it’s not nagging. And ultimately if you feel no progress, issue an ultimatum. But that’s a last resort. Touch is important, and a way of expressing love. If you need it to be happy, he should have no problem giving you that every now and then if he’s a worthwhile partner. Wish you the best of luck. U got this

Jenneapolis · 2022-08-07T17:24:22+00:00

What happens if you just back off and let him initiate touch when he’s comfortable? You might get more of what you are wanting that way. I find with any issue when I “give the man more freedom” (I don’t like this wording but it gets the point across) It’s hard in the beginning but I end up getting more of what I want in the end. I would still give him quick touches, like a kiss on the cheek or a Quick squeeze of the hand, small moves that he can’t reject because they are quick, but let him initiate the long cuddle sessions. if you are going to be together long-term, you are not going to be able to be on top of each other all the time. Physical distance is going to happen and it’s healthy.

CountTheBees · 2022-08-08T02:21:21+00:00

Bring him your problem not your solution. State the problem you are having, how him brushing you off affects you, or how not touching him affects you, and let him find a solution.

fatbitchonline · 2022-08-07T13:16:39+00:00

oh my gosh i had this same problem!! i’m super clingy and affectionate and always want to be right next to him and touching him. sometimes after cuddling for a bit while watching tv or something, he would just get up and sit in another seat. it would make me feel confused and unwanted. i expressed how it made me upset and he explained how it wasn’t personal but sometimes he just needs physical space for just a few minutes.

so of course, i’m going to give him that space because i don’t mind giving him that as long as it’s not personal or something against me and my affection. so i asked him to please start saying “i need some space” whenever doing that, so that i know that’s all it is and not him trying to avoid me. he had no problem with that and that’s what we do now!

also, you’re NOT nagging for bringing it up again. if it’s still bothering you, PLEASE tell him!!! a lot of people in relationships have this exact same mindset of “well maybe i should hold off on telling them this bothers me because i don’t wanna seem like x and i want them to be happy.” this is a huge communication error that a lot of people make, and it ends up with you or your partner having all these “little things” they brushed under the rug but live in their heads rent free, and it builds up and they start to fall out of love for you and resent you. you’re not there yet, and you don’t want to be there. so always always ALWAYS tell him if something he did bothered you, big or small, and if he’s a caring guy then he’ll listen and understand. encourage him to also tell him any time you do something that bothers him. if you want to be feminine when discussing the matter, just do so politely, calmly, and be understanding. that’s not even just the feminine way, but truthfully one of the best ways to communicate something that bothers you, especially if it’s not a big deal like cheating.

best of luck to the both of you!! lots of love and God bless 💞

Title	How to give my boyfriend space without shutting him out
Author	ya-moms-ya-uncle
Upvotes	15
Comments	6
Date	August 7, 2022 10:26 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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