Hi all,

Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I have a situation and not sure how to deal with it.

Just to give you a bit of an idea about myself. I am 28 yo with girlfriend and a daughter (I know...)

I had a work party last Friday in an apartment. All colleagues were around, had plenty of drinks etc. After everyone has departed I was left with a 33 year old girl who has a boyfriend, 6-7/10. We had a couple hour chat, long story short we ended up moving into bedroom and getting down to things, all was going great she was enjoying and so was I, however I was fucked on alcohol and couldn't get it up, but I did my best to pleasure her. We later departed and discussed about repeating this and she was absolutely fine with it and wanted to progress.

Week Friday I met her at work and obviously cautious about colleagues finding out we wanted to keep this completely secret on her part and mine. We had a little snog and tease, but didn't get down to anything other then that. We agreed to meet on Saturday (yesterday) noon.

I have planned my logistics ahead in time, booked an apartment, restaurant for lunch and cinema for later that evening and all my routes coordinated.

She has called me that morning and said she will not be coming as she is worried that things are getting fired up at home. I was obviously disappointed as I didn't get to fuck her and I pleased her good prior to that, but did not show it at all. I told her that it's her choice and if she wants to leave it at that let it be it. She apologized and said thank you for being understanding.

Now, this is where I need advice. Did I fuck up by saying it's your choice? Is it even worth me doing this kind of shit having a kid and girlfriend? I know it could jeopardize my work which I have been at for 12 years. There is a saying do not fuck hens in your own cage... Does this stand here? I don't know how will her/mine reaction be when I next see her, but I know there will be more staff parties and we will be there. I have a 90% believing that she will start initiating same shit next time we are both drunk and I am going to hold my frame and tell her that it's not acceptable and I will not be fucking around this way.

Apart from that, my home sex life is pretty much dead and I need some good fucking thus me going out this route thought would give me a plate to spin who understands what she wants and what I want.

What do you lot think? Any advice is appreciated!