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Toxic people are toxic people. Your annoying feminist friend doesn't actually think about what she's saying. She's just trying to dominate you with loaded language. These are unserious people that you should simply avoid. Don't let her color your worldview. There is indeed a lot of injustice in the world, but blaming men write large for all of it is preposterous. Maybe stop trying to label yourself right or left (which has mostly lost its meaning anyways) and just stick to a few moral principles…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/06/26 11:42 AM
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Supplementing meaning getting some on the side. If she's only willing to give you one day a week then treat her like a plate.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:47 PM
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But, but, but, he wants to fuck her a few more times!
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:21 PM
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That's all fine and dandy, but she's got you hamstering big-time. You need to relax. You're not Pavlov. Just do your own thing and if you aren't seeing her often enough then go out and supplement your diet. The first step is admitting you've got the oneitis.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:04 PM
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It's your first job, so just keep your head down, get your work done, stay out of conflicts and pick up as much experience as you can. Meet as many people there as you can to figure out who's worth knowing (ie network). Starting your own business is good, but I suggest doing it gradually on the side. Suck-ups are everywhere. Their game is weak and only succeeds with weak-sauce managers. You're playing the long game. Stay above the bullshit.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:50 PM
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I keep the first date modest and pick up the check like it ain't no thing. Coffee, breakfast, a drink in a bar. Fancy dates are for women who've earned them.
/r/askTRP31/12/17 06:31 PM
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Viagra was a big help for me too. On the whole, though, it took a long time to recover. lots of meditation; 2 steps forward, one back. Try having her jack you while you get the rubber out.
/r/askTRP31/12/17 06:28 PM
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Well, I'm 47 and I meet lots of women with ok cupid style aps. Much better than clubs for me. Of the activities you posted, hiking and biking are good community activities that chicks like. Rock climbing is also good. but shit, if you live in a college town then you should be swimming in it.
/r/askTRP31/12/17 06:25 PM
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My experience is that you need to forget about this girl. I don't have a good psychological explanation for it, but failing to seal the deal when you have the opportunity is a death sentence. She won't give you another chance. But, for Christ's sake man, STOP SHITTING WHERE YOU EAT!!!!!!! How many times do people need to read this before it sinks in? Do not fuck women from work! You are 28. Daughter or no daughter you are still a prime catch if the rest of your business is in order. Break up wit…
/r/askTRP31/12/17 06:15 PM
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Because in this equation a guy with no game who is "nice" is actually an "ass-kisser". A guy with game is funny, kidding nice who disarms a woman's defenses. There are different paths to glory, but kiss-ass nice is sure to fail.
/r/askTRP31/12/17 06:08 PM
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LTR? As in what, cohabitation? Exclusivity? the short answer is "no" (as in she shouldn't be disqualified automatically) in my book, but you shouldn't be thinking in those terms until you've dated many many more times and you can imagine spending a lot of time with her. and ignore what she says. all that means is that she's had a minimum of 2 ONS, likely many more than that, but again, that just seems to be the world we live in. Other guys insist on virgins. that's something you have to decide f…
/r/askTRP31/12/17 05:56 PM
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"You're right, I have a habit of over-indulging in things I like. We should probably meet less often."
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:31 AM
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Plan something to do. Cooking is always good, but I would even get out of the house for a little while so that you can read the situation. Yes, it sounds like she's DTF, and she probably is, but she is probably also feeling slut guilt, and if you go straight for the kill you may get LMR. A little bit of romance would go a long way to making her feel better about her slutty-ass, flying-to-the-sex-den self, and a drink or two wouldn't hurt either, obviously.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:20 AM
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Time heals all wounds, as they say. Get enough sleep, eat well, meditate, stay connected to your friends. I personally think it's better to not date for a while. When I was in my 20s I rebounded from a bad break-up by getting an ugly chick pregnant. Use your best friends, that's why they're there. If it gets bad then get some professional help.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 05:56 AM
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Ever played the Sims? In that game, everyone speaks a made-up indecipherable language, which means you have to pay attention to the character's tone and body language and other clues to figure out what they actually mean. So the next time a girl calls you "a nice guy" just pretend she said "barb a lu, fa narb" and focus instead on her eyes, her posture, her tone etc.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 05:40 AM
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The gig economy is a bitch, but if you can figure it out then your life will improve. You'll pick up new headaches, such as having to fight your money from time to time, but the freedom and sense of satisfaction are great. There is also a much better chance you can free yourself up to roam. And then if you can actually grow your business, then you're on track for real wealth. I would transition slowly, but do it.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 05:29 AM
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Well, at some point in time some lucky shmoe wins the lottery. You either understand the odds or you don't.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 05:16 AM
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You need to go where the women are. If you have money then start traveling. Even at your height there are tons of women in Eastern Europe who would be all over you. Tall men are valued there like everywhere else, but the pickings are just so much better that the 5s you are pulling back home are 6s and 7s there. If you want to feel tall (and I don't blame you - I'm 5'8" and feel shorter every day) go to the Philippines. Don't ever settle. Ever. And that's not to say that you should exclude all si…
/r/askTRP03/08/17 05:10 AM
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I call it the marriage tracks. Your train is chugging along those tracks and there really aren't many other options because you've been going for a while and the next station is approaching. I never even popped the question. My girlfriend and I were getting out of the car one day and she says "next summer would be a good time to have our wedding." And I agreed that next summer would be the right time to have it. It was enough time for my parents and family to arrange their travel plans, find a c…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 10:47 AM
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Every half-decent chick has a boyfriend, or thinks they have a boyfriend, or had a boyfriend so recently that it's like they still have a boyfriend, or have a guy chasing them that's close enough to count. Hell, half the girls on Tinder these days are "just looking for friends" (in the "following me on Instagram" sense). Take these statements in stride. Remember, you're looking for IOIs above all else. Many girls will simply never be single, prefering to hold onto a withered branch rather than w…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 10:21 AM
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Here's a script for when you meet: "Hi, Theresa. Here's your Ipod, and your negligee, and all those bottles of chemicals you kept in my bathroom. It would be great to get my Soundgarden shirt back at some point, but it's no rush. We had some good times together and I hope we stay in touch. Good luck getting your promotion. Bye."
/r/askTRP17/11/16 10:50 AM
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It's important to understand that it matters why they're fucking you. If you're a dumpy slob who happens to be rich, then you'll be able to find certain golddiggy chicks who will let you bang them, but the sex is going to be uninspired. You'll then realize that Golddiggy is waiting for you to leave for work so that she can fuck Chad the Poolcleaner like the world is going to end. In short, be Chad. Chad does what he wants and women fall into his lap.
/r/askTRP16/11/16 01:03 PM
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Tough one. She's got a wild side, but she also seems kind of nuts and she's got a hang-up about sex. Probably best to avoid her, as hard as that sounds. Her anxiety will probably kick in again, and even if you do manage to bang her it won't be great sex. Your best case scenario is that you help her overcome her anxiety and then weeks down the line it gets better. That's best case. More likely it ends with nothing or bad sex. If you do decide to let her come over then make it clear from the begin…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 12:14 PM
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It's as simple as this. Gentlemen, do not cohabitate until it's time for children. If you don't want kids, then never let her move in. Ever. Once she takes up residence she has won and the game is over. There's nothing left to play for. You think it means more sex, but it actually means less because the thrill of the hunt is now gone on both sides. Sex becomes political, a chore, a duty, anything but fun. Men and women are not meant to live together, and even women are beginning to admit it. Sin…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 11:08 AM
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A guy I worked with stopped using birth control with his girlfriend because, according to her, a doctor told her she was infertile. Now he has a daughter, a live-in baby momma who doesn't put out AT ALL, and zero money in his pocket.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 10:43 AM
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If those 7 years stretch back to college then both of you are still very young. She has plenty of time to find someone new. You're not doing her any favors by pretending. Be honest and just tell her that the thrill is gone and you look around and see dead relationships of people who aren't happy and you don't want that. Yes, you can justify setting her free.
/r/askTRP20/09/16 06:20 PM
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yeah, sounds like a textbook case of bipolar
/r/askTRP20/09/16 06:10 PM
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Getting past whether you "should" do this, and focusing on "how", the answer is as minimally, accidentally and remorselessly as possible. It's very likely she has kept tabs on you, and on several occasions she was thiiiiiissssss close to calling you because she missed you. We all have our weak moments (in fact, my guess is that you're having one now), and she is no exception. In the end, her pride kept her from dialing your number. Your play is to slip back onto her radar as coyly as possible. "…
/r/askTRP17/09/16 10:51 AM
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That's not a reality check. That's a rant. You're frustrated, and that frustration has turned into anger. Believe it or not, we see that a lot around here. Here's what I'm guessing is happening to you: you are online working very hard to set up a date. You finally set one up. You go there and your insecurities shine through. You make all the wrong moves and come across as desperate. The woman doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so she plays along for a while, but the truth is she is just waiting…
/r/askTRP17/09/16 09:11 AM
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Probably a lot depends on where you are and what your salary expectations are. The cost of living is low where I am in Eastern Europe, and the software companies can't fill all their vacancies, so anyone with a pulse can find a job. OP doesn't have any skills, so it's a good place to start. When I was in college years ago, there was a similar situation with accountants. Word on the street was anyone with an accounting degree could demand whatever salary they wanted. Of course, this caused a lot …
/r/askTRP09/09/16 06:40 AM
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The world is desperate for software developers. Learn to code.
/r/askTRP06/09/16 11:19 AM
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Exactly. It's worth doing, but you lose the romantic notions real quick. Americans in particular think travelling is like going to the zoo, where all the nasty stuff is safely behind some plexiglass. By all means, travel, see the world, meet people, but do it gradually. If you grew up in some soft-ass suburb, you are not ready to take on rural Ethiopia. In some places, a cold shower is a luxury. Rolling blackouts are common. Begging children don't leave you alone. You stand out like a sore thumb…
/r/askTRP04/09/16 08:11 PM
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You're not doing her any favors if you don't have feelings for her. Take heart: research clearly shows now that women snap back from heartbreak much faster than men. She will play the victim. Be supportive, tell everyone it was just a mistake and you want to give both of you a chance to start over. Keep your dick in your pants until it's over. Take your fair share, but don't stress over the possessions. And for fuck's sake do not get married again!!!!!!
/r/askTRP02/09/16 06:31 AM
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Hot sex - so much so that I don't even dream about other women. She is interested in what I have to say. She provides me with insight into the world. She respects my time. I currently live alone.
/r/askTRP31/08/16 09:15 AM
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Every once in a while I meet a chick like this who appears to be into me. I back out, even if a night of good sex is on the horizon. I've learned over the years that I just don't match with these extroverted chicks. She clearly needs a stadium full of attention on a regular basis. So, if it were me, I'd next her. If she contacted me again I would invite her over for a thinly veiled sex date and reject anything less. There are just so many chicks in the world and my time is valuable. I don't need…
/r/askTRP31/08/16 09:06 AM
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Dude has never had a girlfriend. What could possibly go wrong?
/r/askTRP19/08/16 10:16 AM
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Okay, Mr Logical, let's have an objective look at this situation. Are you going to marry this woman? Take your time. Are you sure? Boy, that's a shame. I thought that the two of you really had a chance. So if you're not getting married, then why exactly are you spending so much time with her? This has little to do with whether or not she's a [dum dum dum!] SJW, and more to do with the fact that you are wasting a bunch of fucking time with a chick you have no interest in keeping over the long ter…
/r/askTRP19/08/16 10:12 AM
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supply of sex Fine. You don't have to stop going to the well. Just get it through your head that this girl is not your girlfriend. Stop referring to her as your girlfriend, stop sending her cute little "good morning" texts, stop making any plans that aren't fuck dates, and let yourself pursue other chicks (or not, it's up to you). If you downgrade her to plate status (which is what I"m suggesting), you will get one of two reactions: protest, or silence. Both should be met with a huge dose of not…
/r/askTRP19/08/16 10:02 AM
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Well, as long as she'll never cheat on you... Dude, read the sidebar. You are a babe in the woods and hurtling towards some intense heartache.
/r/askTRP13/08/16 09:38 AM
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There's no way I'm taking a girl I'm meeting for the first time to an expensive place. It's usually coffee, and I encourage her to get a dessert. I pay the bill. Over and done. Your mom will tell you many things that you should ignore. Chief among them is that every woman deserves an enormous diamond ring on her finger. Mom's are great, because they give you love. Do not turn to them for relationship advice.
/r/askTRP13/08/16 09:35 AM
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You don't, but what's the alternative? You agree to child support, the kids take the ho's name, and you end up with very little influence over the children. You can co-habitate without getting married, but there's almost no difference at that point, because effectively and often legally you are considered married. But hey, you passed down some chromosomes! Awesome!
/r/askTRP12/08/16 01:22 PM
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Well, isn't that convenient. Could be true. Could be a cover. Obviously, you should act like it ain't no thing. But I'd keep an eye on her. See if she takes a "girls night out" soon, or if she's messaging in another room. Changes in behavior. sometimes a little paranoia is a good thing.
/r/askTRP12/08/16 01:08 PM
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Depends on how well you can get rid of your oneitis. If you can develop abundance mentality, then downgrade her to plate status. If you can't, then hard next her because this is not someone you can trust.
/r/askTRP12/08/16 01:01 PM
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I would agree about no more texting, but a girl that beautiful is worth a phone call at some point. Push for a date, something specific. If she agrees or suggests an alternative, then she's still on the line. Otherwise, hard next.
/r/askTRP12/08/16 06:30 AM
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Pretty standard, actually. A coffee date means I don't expect anything to happen that day, so it's really more like a two-way job interview. I'm more of a second-date score guy. We get the formalities out of the way. I talk about the desserts. Make some strong eye contact. Look for IOIs. And qualify her. Find out if this is someone I want to invest my valuable time in. My go-to kino on a coffee date is just lightly grabbing her shoulder when I want to tell her something, of the "hey, this is imp…
/r/askTRP12/08/16 06:14 AM
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Almost never. Quite a while back I dedicated myself to being truthful. It became a habit that has simplified my life, but it also holds me back. Right now I'm out of work, and if I had the courage to lie on my resume I would probably get more opportunities. In this sense my honesty is a bit of cowardliness. Same goes with women. Naturally, there are things that I keep to myself. Like the fact that I have no intention of ever marrying my current girlfriend. I don't take responsibility for people'…
/r/askTRP11/08/16 03:57 PM
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I generally steer clear of the generic "post-wall" hand-wave, but I do think age has something to do with it. In all of these cases, you have to remember that these chicks have been around the block and can have a double-scoop of mint-chocolate dick whenever they want. A 22 year old may have never been with a real Man before, but these chicks have, so just being studly isn't enough to make them swoon, especially if they're single (ie if they had a beta husband, maybe they're craving a He-man typ…
/r/askTRP10/08/16 03:38 PM
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First of all, you have no idea what Max would or wouldn't do. You do not know him. You do not know what happened. Second, it is very likely that the host of the house just wants this whole ordeal to blow over, so she's telling everyone what they want to hear, including you. I am willing to bet that she is not telling the crying chick that she is full of shit. Third, don't try to be a hero. This is a thorny he said/she said. You know what you saw and you're entitled to your opinion, but your spec…
/r/askTRP10/08/16 09:31 AM
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It depends on several factors: how much time you have, what you're willing to settle for, how honest you want to be, and what you like doing. I don't mind going out with my plates if I'm in the mood to go out. If you want the kind of plates that just show up and jump on your bed and then leave when you're through then you're probably not going to be spinning Victoria Secret models. Some guys don't let their plates stay overnight, but I like action in the morning, so mine do. What makes them a pl…
/r/askTRP07/08/16 05:56 PM
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As one of the world's leading armchair psychologists, I'm here to tell you to blow your load as soon as its ready. If you want to take care of her first, then go down on her to lengthen the foreplay. Repressing your natural urges is a recipe for disaster, so extend the action forward. The last thing you want going through your head when things get heated are anxiety and shame. Sex in the wild for our ancestors was most likely short and sweet, so don't fight it. Marathon sessions are overrated an…
/r/askTRP07/08/16 05:33 PM
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It's good that you're honest with yourself about your emotions, but she shouldn't ever see that side of you, especially since she isn't pushing for anything serious. It is simply never in a man's interest to display vulnerability. If you've banked a big wad of alpha points, then you get to display weakness on rare occasions. Otherwise, it simply diminishes you in her eyes. Your desire for exclusivity is submission, which never works in a man's favor.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 04:41 PM
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Everybody in the world thinks that they are the lone intelligent person surrounded by a confederacy of dunces. Look back at your text and see what you did: you have read one book by one guy advocating a paleo diet and now you're the world's leading authority on nutrition? This is the hallmark of the fool. The wise man soaks up whatever he can from the people around him without creating hostility. In a word, we're talking about "tact", and it's a difficult skill to master, especially when you're …
/r/askTRP29/07/16 09:25 AM
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Try to put this in perspective. Go to the store and buy a video game that you are completely unfamiliar with. Then go get rip-roaring drunk. Put in the game and play one time at the highest level. Then go online and ask people why you didn't do so well. Pick-up is hard, Jack. You approached several chicks. Well done, that's a good start. Now take a few steps back and admit that there are no short-cuts. You're a needy nobody who cold approached some girls at the club. Of course you got blown out.…
/r/askTRP29/07/16 08:52 AM
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I know it's tempting, but from the outside it looks like the risks outweigh the reward here. Best-case scenario is one great night of sex with no strings attached. But that's a long-shot. The more likely outcome is that they are just teasing you (it's common for chicks at that age to get off on manipulating men), or drama ensues after a night of average banging. Let this one go.
/r/askTRP29/07/16 08:33 AM
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Based on my experience, if you can commit to the Muay Thai then do it, even if you have to sacrifice your lifting. Ideally you could do both, but if you only have time three days a week, then do the fighting. You will be skinnier than if you lift, obviously. But I'm convinced that most women are fine with the fit look, and saying you train in kickboxing sounds much better to women than that you lift weights. It's a minority opinion around here, but it's based on my experience. Also, the Muay Tha…
/r/askTRP27/07/16 02:47 PM
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The funny thing is that I don't even have to read past the title. If you have to ask then the answer is "Don't get married, you fucking dumbshit!" I swear to god, these same questions over and over again are like: "I just broke my ankle, should I still try to climb Mt. Everest next week?" My man, you are 26 years old. Get out there and live your life. Your SMV is rising every day. I promise you that over the next 10 years you will meet plenty of chicks that are just as good as this one, but with…
/r/askTRP27/07/16 02:31 PM
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First of all, you are not part-introvert and part-extrovert. You are 100% introvert. Introverts do get excited in the company of stimulating people, they just can't stand the empty calorie conversations. Why do you live with a roomate? Is that expensive to get your own place? Because I would say your number 1 problem is living with a bunch of morons. Introverts are drained by extroverts, and that's what's happening to you. Your roomates are sucking you dry, and that's why you don't have any ener…
/r/askTRP27/07/16 02:18 PM
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I would go a step further and tell you not to let the new woman move in. Get divorced, move out, and live by yourself. Tell the mistress that you need some time to get your head straight. I speak from experience.
/r/askTRP27/07/16 02:08 PM
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I think that this is exactly why we tell newbies to escalate. Because now you don't know. If you'd escalated then you'd know where you stand. Now you're just guessing. Probably it's good, but you're leaving the door open for Chad to swoop in and give her the boning she was waiting for. Get her over again and turn things sexual before she has a chance to settle in and starts seeing you as a brother figure.
/r/askTRP27/07/16 02:02 PM
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Married LTR . . . where am I going wrong? You answered your own question. It simply doesn't last. You have three choices: 1. live without good sex. 2. constantly work to rekindle the flame (Vogue has good articles/sarcasm) 3. cut your losses.
/r/askTRP27/07/16 11:47 AM
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Or even less sinister than that: she was just lonely. She had a fight with the ex and she's one of those people who simply can't bear the thought of being alone. My ex-wife is one of those people. Even if you had pushed harder for sex it wouldn't have been any good and you would have left feeling inadequate. It's all just as well.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 10:46 AM
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Your only problem is that you're too nice. You need to stop chasing women and start being awesome. Hit the weights, learn to box or MMA, take up photography, start a young politicians club, whatever. You need an identity. Most guys shy away from being "that guy," but "that guy" has "those girls" after him. Edgy biker guy gets the edgy biker chick. Right now you're "rich fraternity guy" settling for "bitchy prude sorority chick." You can do better. Stop being so decent. You don't have to be an as…
/r/askTRP25/07/16 10:31 AM
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It's possible to co-habitate with a woman, but it's extremely rare that it works out. I've seen very few cases where it works long-term. In my case, I was the one who lost the will to bang my wife after about a decade together. It's been five years since my divorce and I'm pretty sure I'll never live with another woman again. In my case it's easier because I already have two kids. There are men around here (pretty sure Gay Lube Oil is one, for example) who claim they are so macho that their wome…
/r/askTRP25/07/16 10:14 AM
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Well, gee, let's see what's going on here. You go to her place, she lets you comfort her, then you go home with blueballs. So what's the problem? Dude, she's not your plate. You're in orbit around planet Friendzone. Sounds to me like you have oneitis. If she's not putting out then you should lose her number. Get on with your stuff. If she calls you begging for it, then maybe you can reconsider. Otherwise, it's a hard next.
/r/askTRP10/07/16 03:13 PM
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You were never in the friendzone. You are in the crazy slut zone. This girl is a slut who wants you put your dick in her. She has always wanted this. Any time you are talking to a girl and this girl starts talking about sex, it means she wants you to fuck her. It is also a sign that she is a slut. Fuck her if you want, but I strongly advise you not to make her your girlfriend.
/r/askTRP10/07/16 03:06 PM
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None. You made a move that failed. You didn't stalk her (right?). Put it this way: this chick will go tell her friends, whose reaction to her will be "OMG, what a loser super creep!" But inside they're making a mental note that says "Mydearestthrowaway is available and heterosexual." What's bad about that? Yes, your friends may rib you a bit for getting rejected. Big fucking deal. Take it like a man and make it clear that you are undeterred and will try again, maybe with their sisters!
/r/askTRP09/07/16 05:50 PM
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You also need to think twice before getting into a relationship with an outgoing, very extroverted chick. She's going to make you insane and be mad at you for not loving the people around her with enough vigor. The key to being a successful introvert is being selfish with your time. You absolutely have to have time to be alone and get your thoughts straight. During those times when you want to be by yourself, if you instead spend time with her then she will be upset because you're "distant" and …
/r/TheRedPill12/06/16 10:30 PM
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It's very common, but it takes time to get over it because you're stuck in the "don't think of a pink elephant" conundrum. I went to a sexual therapist (a psychiatrist who specializes in sexual disfunction) after years of sexual failure with my wife (I had already sired two kids and had had a healthy sex life with her). She tried lots of things. Talking about my inner fears, fantasies and history certainly helped. Meditation was a huge help (and something I should do more often). Also, she presc…
/r/askTRP10/05/16 08:10 PM
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Dump her. Sounds crazy? I mean, she's a 9 out of 10, right? A rare beauty. According to RoK, a 9 can monetize her looks. She stops traffic. Every guy on earth looks her way, and the best of the best chase her. And every single day you have to put up with her shit to the point where you can't even hang out with an old friend without a daily interrogation. All just so that you can have access to prime pussy and be the envy of your friends? Is it really worth it? Sure, you can try the hard-ass rout…
/r/askTRP04/05/16 08:45 PM
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oh, man, what a disappointment. I thought I was getting a story about some chick faking her own death and all I got was a typical he said she said office spat. Reading between the lines, it's clear that your friend is guilty. Yes, he was joking; no, he's not really a racist (at least not of your KKK variety); yes, he intimidated a female coworker (which, of course, doesn't take much). The solution: he should take his medicine and learn to toe the line like the rest of the world if he wants to st…
/r/askTRP29/04/16 09:41 AM
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You aren't X, so don't try to be him. He has a different personality type, and if you tried what he does it would come across as forced. Instead, be a better version of the guy you already are. Yes, you must approach women -- you miss all the shots you don't take -- but you need to do it in your own way. X would be the best kind of friend for someone like you. He breaks the ice and you're the cool, collected cat who cleans up in his wake.
/r/askTRP29/04/16 09:07 AM
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There is a link on the right hand side of this page called the "The Red Pill Primer - A Sidebar Made Simple". Please follow the link and read. You committed several basic mistakes that you need to correct.
/r/askTRP29/04/16 08:52 AM
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Oh, no! Dude, you fucked up big time! You got cold feet. You'll never find someone who loves you as much as she did. Prepare yourself for a life of loneliness. You found your soul mate and just threw her away because of your own insecurities. Okay, I'll stop. You dodged a bullet my friend. Deep breath. I would highly suggest some monk time. You need to detox and hang out at the Red Pill while you get your head screwed on straight. I guarantee that two years from now you will look back at this wh…
/r/askTRP29/04/16 08:37 AM
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I dump it into my journal. Every so often one of the entries is my "poor me" vent. I write until it gets boring, and then the entry turns into what I need to be doing. It works for me and it's good practice writing.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 10:27 AM
2

Boxing is fun, but it takes a toll on your body. Karate/tai kwon/kung fu are less taxing, but are almost like dancing compared to boxing because much more of the training is done individually. That was my experience. MMA looks fun, but me personally I would start with boxing and then move to MMA or kickboxing if you want more. There's something about boxing's purity that I really enjoy.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 10:17 AM
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I've found that it's much healthier to focus on skills than trying to climb the ladder. You should be getting your work done quickly and efficiently and then going out and seeing if there's more to do. This can be tricky, as your colleagues may feel threatened, but unless your department is overstaffed there is usually someone with too much work, or someone without a back-up who needs to go on vacation at some point. But just as importantly: stop hating on your boss and colleagues. It's not goin…
/r/askTRP28/04/16 10:12 AM
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Like others have said, it's the nature of the beast. What I think you're not internalizing is the sheer odds in play here. A hot chick is going to have a lot of suitors in any situation. A hot girl in the online dating world is swamped with offers, and, as we know, they are all chasing the very best men, so in most cases she's keeping you in orbit while she waits to hear back from Chad. It's fine to have high standards, but then you need to really play the numbers game, and even then you're goin…
/r/askTRP28/04/16 10:02 AM
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That's the theory, but I don't follow this "rule". Maybe it's just age (ie older), but I want my action in the morning, so I encourage my plates to sleep over. But I agree that a plate should not have the option to pull ambiguous bullshit. If it's not yes, then it's no. Sounds like the OP's plate is about to fall off the shelf.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 09:54 AM
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sounds like you don't have a girlfriend. I would recommend getting a steady fuck, even if you have to drop your standards a bit. Once you blow a few loads you'll lose that sexual tension and realize that these women you've been idolizing are actually just pretty basic humans, and quite boring under the surface. That's when they come down from the pedestal and you see that they should be ones valuing you.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 09:41 AM
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Compliments just don't accomplish much. If she wants a compliment from you, then she already likes you. If she doesn't care, then she doesn't like you, and telling her how perky her tits are isn't getting you any closer to seeing them. Compliments simply don't lead anywhere. You should be building rapport with her, hitting the ball back and forth over the net until you can jump the net and lead her to the clubhouse. Later, if you get into an LTR, you can tell her some things you like about her, …
/r/askTRP16/04/16 02:17 PM
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I can confirm. I was too generous during our divorce just to get it overwith. Let your lawyer do the legwork while you grieve (knee deep in pussy, of course).
/r/askTRP13/04/16 09:17 PM
2

Ever get that terrifying look from a mechanic who rubs his stubble and says, "well, it's gonna run ya..."
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 07:03 AM
3

Maybe it's my age (40s) but I don't see any problem with popping a healthy boner.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 03:25 PM
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Not just that. You have to be very careful in cases like this because "I told him I have a boyfriend" can easily be interpreted as "I told him to stop" if the shit goes down.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/16 09:04 AM
1

Your mom likes it better this way
/r/askTRP10/02/16 10:22 PM
1

You're going about this the wrong way. It's an LTR, so there's no future. There's no reason for you to play the tough guy holding his frame. Blow smoke at her until she wises up to the fact that you two have no future and she leaves you. You should gaming other chicks anyway. Be busy, but act like you wish you had more time for her. Playing the tough guy free bird is for local plates who could show up unexpected. You tell LTRs anything because you're not building anything with them. Or better ye…
/r/askTRP10/02/16 10:12 PM
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It's best not to overthink these things because all you're going to do is think yourself into circles. Clearly, there was something else going on in her life 8 months ago. Probably it was some guy she was hung up on, but it also could have been something else. Maybe her parents were fighting. Maybe she or someone in her family had health issues. The point is that you should be the same awesome guy no matter what. She's giving you an opportunity and you should approach it like it ain't no thing b…
/r/askTRP10/02/16 09:30 AM
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It's possible that she just made a mistake. It's possible she was just lonely and confused and tempted. But it's not likely. It's much more likely that she slept around. It's trickle truth. She is admitting to exactly as much as you can prove. The thing is that this whole affair is going to haunt you and poison your relationship. Do you really think you can trust her now? What happens if she gets pregnant and you have your doubts about who the father is? Do you really want to live like that? My …
/r/askTRP10/02/16 08:25 AM
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I'm a bit older (mid 40s), divorced with two kids, so take that FWIW. TLDR: the older broad. First and foremost, you will get sick of fucking the 31-year old long before her looks fade, so that shouldn't be your concern. If she really is a 9, then there is a decent chance she will look just as good as the HB7 ten years from now. FWIW, I banged a 46 year old last year that was smoking hot. I also spent three years following my divorce banging a mid-20s Wonder Tits. She left me on Valentine's Day …
/r/askTRP09/02/16 05:56 PM
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Yeah, a little frightening how quickly and ignorantly the masses are willing to join a lynch mob, isn't it?
/r/TheRedPill05/02/16 03:24 PM
1

And it's good for the economy!!!!
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 02:08 PM
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My advice: pump your fist. Relationships start to run dry by this point anyways, and she did you the favor of breaking up so that you didn't have to be the asshole. Sounds like it's all good to me. If you've been reading the sidebar and implementing RP principles then your life is about to take a nice turn the better. If your ex contacts you, tell her she was right about everything and you're going reflect on what she said and become a better person. Thank her for all the good times, wish her ad…
/r/askTRP01/02/16 03:29 PM
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Good question. I guess because when I truly adopted an abundance mindset I stopped worrying what my plates were doing when I'm not around. I simply don't care. It's not that I assume that they're off fucking Chad, but rather that it's possible they are and there's no point in worrying about it. I actually prefer when my plates run off rather than having to dump them. It could be that I'm just jaded.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 02:02 PM
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But how do I get rid of this feeling? You don't. You deal with it. You're in love. In case you haven't heard, that means your emotions are going to take you for a ride. You say you've got a solid frame. That's am important step. Now you need to decide if you can deal with all those Feelz you're keeping bottled up. I'm actually a big fan of the Feelz: I mean, why else are we living? But if you're finding them distracting or disconcerting, then you can try meditating, which should help you control…
/r/askTRP26/01/16 01:42 PM
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Do you have time to pick up some ESL certification? That's the easiest way to travel. You can get work teaching English just about anywhere in the world. You won't get rich (mayyyyybe in Japan you can make some bank), but you can set your own schedule, meet lots of people, and free yourself up to travel from your home base. I moved to EE many moons ago and I wouldn't live anywhere else, but you can expand your horizons by traveling anywhere. My only strict advice would be to make a 100% commitme…
/r/askTRP21/01/16 10:33 AM
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ive been seeing loads of other women while with her... This should have been in your original post. There is a good chance that she was trying to get a higher level of commitment from you, which backfired. She panicked and ran back to you after you applied some dread game. Should you keep her on as a plate? That's up to you, but the drama isn't going away.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 09:55 AM
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Right on the money. There's simply no need to overthink these things. Even asking this question displays a lack of abundance mentality that is critical to leveling the playing field with the "fairer sex" [heh]. The question to TRP shouldn't be "did I do the right thing?" but rather, "do you think I should bang her again if she comes crawling?"
/r/askTRP20/01/16 03:20 PM
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Chicks with borderline personality disorder, for instance, are famous for just randomly losing feelings for a guy suddenly. Is that something you have a source for is it from the Brosphere? Intuitively it makes sense, but that doesn't mean it's true.
/r/askTRP20/01/16 03:15 PM
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Giving up your dream isn't a cure for depression. People in LA are famously shallow, and making it as an artist is famously difficult. I can't tell you how to make it as an artist, but I can tell you that I gave up my dream of being a writer and although I don't beat myself up about it, I wish I'd tried harder to actually produce something. I look back at the stuff I did finish with pride and don't regret the hours of rewriting that turned shit into something readable. Do the music for yourself.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 10:32 AM
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It actually matters less than you think. Status, looks and confidence/abundance mentality are much bigger factors than how many words per minute you allow yourself. As others have said: it's situational. By default, I'd go with quiet confidence and dismissive over life of the party, but you can't use that as an excuse to stand in the corner. If you're the center of attention at an event, then let your status do the work for you, and let your soft-spokeness be interpreted as "discrete" (as in, yo…
/r/askTRP15/01/16 09:36 AM
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The authorities will be averse to acting (for various reasons) unless you have enough evidence to force them to act (for various reasons). I worked in university administration for several years. It's important to remember that behind the scenes the administration is not trying to figure out who was right and what type of punishment, if any, would be just. They are merely looking for the quickest and easiest way to make this problem go away. Unless someone has it in for this teacher, the student…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 01:24 PM
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There's a scene in Bruno where he visits a swinger's club. Would you call that pretty accurate? That's how I picture them.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 12:54 PM
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She's just keeping the tennis balls there in case the first serve goes into the net.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 09:43 AM
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I was reminded of this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2jHkj_VVeFQ
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 01:39 PM
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and that the chick at the party who is giving you luke-warm reactions is actually waiting for Chad to call her back. Be Chad or go home.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 12:21 PM
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Yeah, I concur. The music starts to bother me after a while. That's why I'm much more amenable to swing, boogie-woogie, simple rock n roll stuff that you can do at a cool rockabilly concert. But the point holds that dancing is a simple tool you can add to the box.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 04:26 PM
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The real lesson is to get involved in the hiring process well before the interview stage. The HR pigs will look at you cross-eyed for invading their turf, but it's one time when it's worth it to ruffle a few feathers. If you think looking through 200 CVs isn't worth your time then you've never worked with an office cancer.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 12:52 PM
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thanks for doing the legwork. This guy doesn't deserve any more of our time.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 03:35 PM
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That's exactly where I am right now. I am down to one plate, whom I see twice a week. Basically, when I am done with my stuff, I visit her or she comes to my place. We bang, maybe eat something, and sleep. I wake up, get my morning action (gotta have it) and I'm gone. The ironic thing is that she is objectively the ugliest out of all women I was seeing, but she's the best fuck, takes everything I can give her and doesn't make any demands. There is no question that sex is subject to the law of di…
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 11:58 AM
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I'd caution about being so quick to turn to pills. I speak from experience: pills helped me after a dormant period help me remember what it's like to have good sex, but they can become a crutch. For me, it's all in my head. I take a tiny slice of a pill (like a sixth of one) and i'm good to go all night. But then it's back in my head that I need them. I had a setback recently after a long period of being functional, even on ONS, and now I'm in a psychological pickle because I want to get off the…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/16 11:50 PM
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A bunch of people hanging out, maybe there are some chicks who are on the fence about you, and then one of the chicks tests your mettle. It's hard to come up with a good response in the heat of the moment, so the best thing is to do, if you can't think of a good way to A&A, is to say nothing. Look at the chick and smile like you're about to raid the henhouse. Scan her head to toe, slowly. In a situation like that someone will jump in anyways (people are always looking for a chance to talk, the w…
/r/askTRP04/01/16 04:05 PM
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The rich truly lead different lives than the rest of us, and you're right that wealth does increase your risk of being a target. They definitely get reprogrammed according to their new status in life. The wealthy people (we're talking now about people who would never need to work another day in their life) I've known walk a strange tightrope. On one hand, they worked hard to get where they are and therefore they want the respect they're "due." On the other hand, they still want to be "one of the…
/r/askTRP04/01/16 03:51 PM
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Cut down on the weed. I think that's solid advice for anyone smoking daily. Try three times a week, and only when all of your daily routine is done. Figure out your routine and get cracking. She'll either fit in your schedule or she won't. Women like ambitious men, so she'll probably applaud you. She may leave you, she may be patient, but this is precisely the time you need to act without worrying about how she reacts. My experience is that every time I break up (or get dumped by) a hot girlfrie…
/r/askTRP24/12/15 10:09 PM
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It's like anything related to style: if it works then it's a plus. If it's tied back clumsily and your suit doesn't fit and your tie is old then you're giving off a slacker vibe and you might as well not show up. It's good to stand out if you can walk the walk.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 01:27 PM
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And in that case her oxytocin release with Chad, although less than her initial virginal release, will still be higher than with her hubby, who is now also getting tired of the same ol same ol and putting little effort into his nightly chore. God, it always leads back down the same old drain: Don't get married. Or if you do, begin preparing for your divorce the day after your honeymoon.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/15 12:49 PM
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I think this doesn't get stressed enough. A normal functioning human being has feelings. I would much rather bang a chick I have feelings for than some banal idiot. The point is to get those feelings under control and to understand that a slut is going to hurt you if you get over-invested. The cool thing about being a man is that you can have feelings for multiple lovers. The lesson that TRP is trying to send you is that women don't reciprocate in kind.
/r/askTRP15/12/15 10:22 AM
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well, if you're going to release your unicorn back into the wild, then you need to brace yourself for some lonely nights. Forums like this make it sound like PUAs are taking home a different HB9 every night. The truth is that your results will vary, especially after being out of the game (or new to the game). The thrill of the hunt is real, but so is the depression after some average chick flakes on you and you spend Saturday night alone, debating whether you should try to get back together with…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 02:09 PM
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Pretty much any guy who "sharpens his game and keeps his shoes clean," who sets up his logistics and is in a situation to meet women will attract a large number of them. How hot they are is determined by SMV, but pretty much any eligible bachelor will have some options, and many of those women will make advances. I look back at my last two years of college, and the year I moved to Europe as my golden era. Sandwiched in there was a two-year period where I was living in a big American city as a yo…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 01:13 PM
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A friend of mine termed it "pussy fever". There's really no answer to your question. In the end you'll end up either longing and pining or cheating on her. If you leave her you'll probably have a string of chicks that aren't as good as your unicorn, and it will hurt like hell when she starts dating Chad Thundercock. So choose your poison. Personally, I'd break up with your unicorn because you just aren't getting what you need from her. Or you could try meditating, or spicing up the bedroom (eg h…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 12:48 PM
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It's gonna be hard to laugh it off because I actually have some feelings for her. You have a bad case of one-itis. The only cure is abundance. Just like you need to do three sets of ten reps in the weight room to get stronger, you need to get out and do three sets of ten approaches. met this girl about 3 months ago at university. We hit it off pretty well and have spent a lot of time with each other. Good to hear you have no plans on becoming her beta orbiter /s Boy, you in orbit. Break free. Be…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 12:06 PM
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I'm not a medical professional, but I feel like i've been through just about everything through the years -- lifting, sports, martial arts, yoga, chiropractory, physical therapy, bad back, serious shoulder injury, tennis elbow, you name it. I've read countless opinions, watched endless videos, tried various work-outs. So here's my take: if you want to maximize your physical health and comfort, find a yoga program that works for you. If you want to look your best and be max-Alpha, then lift your …
/r/TheRedPill11/12/15 10:18 AM
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I'm mid-40s. I was married for 13 years, and I've been free now for four. Of those four years, I was seeing a hot chick in her early 20s for three of them. WE split a year ago. Since then I've banged more different women than in the rest of my life combined. Here's my take: Some women like sex more than others, and their age has fuck-all to do with it. MOreover -- and here is where I'm going to run afoul of some around here -- I think that my SMV also has little to do with it. Some women want th…
/r/TheRedPill10/12/15 05:18 PM
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He's arguing that SMV is a more complicated formula than your bench press times your squat. In short, your game matters. Women are not scouts at the NFL combine lining us up according to how broad are shoulders are. Instead, looking fit only gets you past the gate, and from that point on your attractiveness is decided by a host of other variables. It's not really a new argument, but it's important to balance out all the "Lift heavy or die a virgin!" posts. Lifiting is the best single piece of ad…
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 04:09 PM
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Fantastic post. This is truly a valuable contribution. It would be fascinating to hear her side of the story and compare the narratives. I think it's safe to assume that the version on Good Morning, America would more closely resemble that of the suffering single-mother whose child is being torn from her bosom by the misogynistic TRPer. Sob he got a court order tears flowing to change her name!
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 09:58 AM
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I agree with you and would add a few benefits: 1. I get to know her. This part always seem to get lost in game discussions. Always Be Qualifying. If some girl has a terrible attitude on the phone then it's Next City. 2. If you talk for a while, it can sometimes serve as a surrogate first date. It's true that you may lose a bit of tension, but if you're doing your job right then you're more than compensating with increased comfort.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/15 03:22 PM
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I think you're okay for the most part. The worst that will happen is your supervisor will bring this up during your year-end evaluation and you'll be dropped a point in "working well with colleagues". Admit that you were insensitive towards Harpy Girl because you saw a task that needed to be completed and did it. And relax. Ain't no thing. Be everyone's friend for a while. Bring in some donuts or some shit.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/15 12:55 PM
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The other advantage to adding a little fluff to your cold opener is that it buys the girl a little time to process the fact that a stranger has addressed her. It's easy to spook someone when they're not prepared for an exchange. By talking for a little while you're giving her a chance to suss you out, turn down her flight/fight shields, and tune in to your vibe.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 04:49 PM
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Or cheating with an ex isn't actually cheating because of some unwritten grandfather clause
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 09:11 AM
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I'm actually inclined to believe you were right the first time. That girl probably did LIKE you. That's not the same as being hot for you. I want a girl that's hot to trot. Trust your instincts. The girl was luke-warm. I've been in those situations. Lots of wasted time and bland sex, if it ever happens at all.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/15 08:31 AM
1

I complete concur with your conclusion that true abundance is the only path to establishing an abundance mentality. Your "failure" with the HB9 at the party is the perfect example. First, you were not in a healthy state of mind because you were overly outcome dependent. You were consciously running game rather than enjoying an interaction with a rare bird. If you had gotten laid the night before (not to mention earlier in the day), then that whole set becomes fun rather than a test of your game,…
/r/TheRedPill25/11/15 10:33 AM
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Yeah, nothing makes me laugh more than the "you're doing it wrong!" posturing. The guy got the fish in the boat, and this is how he did it. There's no reason to launch into a lecture on how he failed because he got sucked into her frame. I actually prefer going to a chick's place because I can just leave when I want and I don't even have to wash my sheets. Theory is fine for the clueless, but real men in the game benefit most from case studies. Long-game through social media is a strategy and Du…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/15 03:31 PM
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High quality women are always in a relationship in the same way that a high SMV man always has a plate he can call when he needs to get his rocks off. Hypergamy is real. Think about it for a minute: why would any woman ever choose to be single? A better man (like you and your buddy) will always fuck them if he can, and she hopes that will lead to a free upgrade. Would you sell your car before you had a new one? The best feeling a woman can have is to have men fighting over them. In cold terms, i…
/r/askTRP21/11/15 10:25 AM
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But that's the most important lesson: YOU need to be qualifying THEM, and not the other way around. You're looking for a girl who will make you happy, and anything less is settling. Settling is fine as long as you recognize it for what it is. Above all esle, you don't put a ring on a girl you're setttling for. The ring, if anyone gets one at all, goes on the unicorn.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/15 11:16 PM
1

any form of martial arts is a good start, but once you get to college you should take up one of the serious forms, that means a form where you actually fight someone and don't just dance around.
/r/askTRP15/11/15 11:10 PM
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How does one cope? Well, one goes out and leads an awesome life! You need to work on you, and finding your own long-term happiness. Chicks will come and go. We play the hand we're dealt, and other cliches. Work out, dress well, shave and tan your head, make money, move to where there are more chicks. You are far too young to give in at this point.
/r/seduction13/11/15 01:23 PM
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What's happening is that she has anywhere between 20 and 200 conversations like yours taking place simultaneously. As men it's hard for us to imagine, which is why we get over-invested. It's a numbers game, pure and simple.
/r/seduction13/11/15 01:18 PM
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It means she's the type of girl who wants to get fucked in the bathroom of a museum. A lot of girls need that thrill. She is probably a slut. Don't take her criticism too seriously. Once you've been with enough girls you realize that some like what you have to offer and others don't. In this particular case, it could be that she was really hurt by your failure to offer her a relationship and she wanted to hurt you. Clearly it worked.
/r/seduction13/11/15 01:14 PM
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You need to internalize the belief that your time is precious. Obviously, you need to wait for some positive IOIs before you make a move, but always remember that the worst scenario is that you are stuck in no man's land, where you're not sure if she wants to have sex with you or not. You have to get that first step out of the way, so go for the kiss as soon as you can. Remember: you are qualifying her! For me, if she's a bad kisser then the whole deal is off, so I need to find that out first.
/r/seduction13/11/15 01:10 PM
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Universities are clearly becoming an asylum run by the inmates and it's their own fault. Tuition has gotten so high that a university has no choice but to treat all of its students like high-profile clients. On top of that, college sports has become such a big income generator (and so preposterously hypocritical about the illusion of "student athletes) that a football team threatening to boycott a single game resulted in the president of the university stepping down. The president's crime? Not g…
/r/askTRP13/11/15 10:32 AM
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Women want you to display your devotion. Accepting a warped version of reality that makes her comfortable is a sign of your devotion. You need to display that you're willing to lie, cheat, and steal for her. Truth simply isn't held dear. In a sense it's hard to argue with cynical people. After all, what good did a devotion to the truth ever do for her?
/r/TheRedPill12/11/15 03:53 PM
1

It is a lot. I'm also wondering if it would be better to set a time based goal rather than quantitative. Either way, I'm jumping in on this. My goal is more modest: 1 solid hour of writing/rewriting and one 1 hour of guitar. That's about as much as I can cram into an evening after work.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/15 11:40 AM
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When I left my wife she went through a short hysterical phase, but she quickly came to the realization that joint custody meant more free time for her. We've managed to stay on good terms and cooperate as much as can be expected. She is a reasonable person for the most part, which is no accident, as I wouldn't have married a lunatic/imbecile. One important caveat to all of this is that my ex managed to get back together with an ex-boyfriend and they're happy together. If she were single and I wa…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/15 11:25 AM
1

I was married for 13 years, and now I've been divorced for 4. Do not marry this woman. Your stock on the sexual market is still going up. As long as you don't have kids, you will be able to entice young nubiles into your lair for as long as you look like a healthy speciman. She wants kids. Get that into your skull.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/15 10:03 PM
1

I'm assuming we're not talking about the extremely good looking guys, because studying them does you no good. Most of the naturals I know are unhinged in some way. Seriously, they're bipolar or psychotic. They are bursting at the seems with confidence because they simply lack the capacity to doubt themselves. My boss is a complete psychotic. He's large in a barrel chested way, he spends money freely, and he is the most impulsive person I've ever met. If he wants a camera, he goes out immediately…
/r/askTRP06/11/15 04:30 PM
1

I seem to remember he took for a tour of his house (or she went exploring, whatever)
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 11:08 AM
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Nothing. Agree, nod my head, smile, and go about my business. Look, if you're alone with a girl who likes you, in close proximity to a horizontal surface, then sex is -- sometimes literally -- on the table. Her resistance is like one of those disclaimers that you have to agree to before downloading free software. Push, pull. Push, pull. Kiss her. Pull back. Kiss her again more passionately while running your hands though her hair, down her back, etc. Pull back. Read the situation. If she pulls a…
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 02:14 PM
2

No, don't break up with her. You're happy together and the sex is good. She'll dump you soon enough. Always ride a tasty wave until it crashes. But put yourself first. You can get that edge back without being single. Just be firm with her that you're going to wake up earlier to go to your welding class or whatever it is you need to do.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 01:38 PM
2

All true, but the one thing that doesn't get stressed enough is that even if the shit doesn't hit the fan, a pump and dump simply makes going to work worse. Work sucks enough as it is. The last thing you need to do is create an eternal enemy. I made that mistake twice when I was young: in both cases I was working as a waiter and banged a hot hostess. Of course, being young, I couldn't keep my piehole shut and the hostess made my life hell when she could. Right now there are two hot colleagues th…
/r/askTRP05/11/15 01:30 PM
6

In the past few months alone I've heard the following lies on the first date: - "We're not having sex today" - "My friend told me that you are just coming over for sex. You know we're not having sex tonight, right?" - "Don't bother taking your shoes off. We're not staying."
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 01:16 PM
2

Google 'erotic massage' and look for full-body massage and a happy end, which will usually be a hand-job or a blow-job. Call a girl you like and be frank with her about what you want. Almost all hookers and massage girls are very clean these days as long as they're not streetwalkers. And move out of the sticks, my friend. The pussy is in the city.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 10:04 AM
2

It's time for her to go, but this is something you're going to run into again unless you bring in a woman well below your SMV. Honestly, what are you, 10? You can't throw your clothes in the hamper? You spend your evenings playing video games and then go online for a bro-hug when your gf calls you out? And this should be in ASKTRP.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 12:05 PM
2

My favorite is "I asked Johnny, and he completely agreed with me!"
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 11:24 AM
11

After all the sex, I just wanted to do something else, like play chess rather than hang out with the princess. The time spent with the person, is not worth the pussy. The psychotic behavior and entitlement, is very tolling on you. This really is true. Unfortunately, it's one of those things that men need to experience before they understand how much time is lost to the BULLSHIT. In the beginning it's a massive ego boost, and then after that wears off it becomes a daily test of your nerves. I mea…
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 11:20 AM
2

That's a lot to unpack so I'll just address a few main points. TRP does not say that all women will cheat on you. It says that all women are capable of cheating on you if their needs are not being met. They want two things: tingles and comfort. Unfortunately, that's a tough balancing act, and increased comfort often results in fewer tingles. Given the choice, most of us at the Red Pill Oasis will opt to induce tingles over comfort, because that results in hot sex. From what I can tell from your …
/r/askTRP04/11/15 09:54 AM
1

Go silent. She's well aware of your orbiting coordinates. She'll call you in if she needs a shoulder to cry on. Sorry man, but I don't think you're getting any.
/r/seduction03/11/15 04:39 PM
1

I have joint custody of my two kids. Like being bald, or having acne, or an injury that keeps you from exercise, it's a knock against your SMV. Kids compete with your woman for your attention, your time and, most importantly, your assets. Women become surprisingly good at math when it's time to calculate how much is in it for them. With that said, I'm one happy motherfucker. Since getting divorced my life has gotten 400% more interesting. I do what I want with my free time. Women come and go, so…
/r/askTRP03/11/15 01:02 PM
1

Hookers are not giving you "real pussy." On the contrary, it's very artificial. I'm not against it, but you need to understand that it is not real sex. She is acting and you will notice that she's just trying to get you off as fast as possible. Sex with a woman who wants you bad is qualitatively better than pay for play. Hookers have their place: you can pick exactly the girl you want, you can try new things, you can be completely honest with her, and there are no strings attached. Last night I …
/r/askTRP03/11/15 12:54 PM
1

This right here, dude. I'm willing to bet you're not doing anything constructive after 10/11 oclock. Try turning everything off and reading or writing, or better yet meditating. If you have to fap, do without porn. It's all about dopamine release. Read up. There is a lot of research coming out.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 12:45 PM
2

Let me spell some things out for you: 1. This girl is sexually attracted to you. Don't fight it, don't question it, don't over-analyze it, just accept it as a fact. 2. You have oneitis. You have a chronic case of the Feelz. It happens to the best of us, but you need to come to terms with it. 3. You are in the catbird seat. Go out and fuck other women when you're not with her. Or don't. But stop whining like this is a bad thing. You will have plenty of chances in your life to commit to an LTR. Do…
/r/askTRP03/11/15 12:39 PM
2

If you are average looking or better, there are women out there who will find you attractive, regardless of your height. It's a fact that most women want their man to be taller than them. With that said, I've had several women who are much taller than me make it crystal clear that they are attracted to me. Honestly, you simply won't know until you try. Long story short: you are in the game. Stop looking for excuses and go out there and bust a move. You will fail more often than you succeed, but …
/r/askTRP03/11/15 11:49 AM
1

Also, I think too many guys try to wow women with their intellect. It's not about being smart, it's about being fun. Even a bad joke should go over well if the girl likes you. In fact, a girl laughing at a corny joke is one of the strongest IOIs there is. Once you're gotten a rapport going, then you can through a little teasing in to see how she takes it. Does she hit you in the shoulder? If so, you're on the right track.
/r/seduction02/11/15 02:29 PM
9

The first thing to do when you arrive at any party (or social gathering, for that matter) is walk through the entire place and introduce yourself to everyone. Only stop for a few sentences of chit-chat, even if there's a girl you like, until you've introduced yourself to everyone, men and women. After that, return to talk to anyone that you found interesting. If someone new arrives, immediately approach and say, "hi, we haven't met yet, I'm Fadezz." Why? because this is how you remove the approa…
/r/seduction02/11/15 02:19 PM
2

For me it's almost always a concert because I love live music. In my city there are several wine festivals. Chicks love that shit and there's drinking involved. I don't know, what are you into? Anime cosplay? Theater? Opera? Figure out who you are and then go out and find a partner in crime. If you're just looking for sex, then you'd better set up some killer logistics, meaning having a local haunt close to your place or a really good reason to get her to come over to your place.
/r/seduction29/10/15 04:13 PM
2

Many women will give you their number just to get rid of you. It's why getting a number shouldn't be your goal. Your goal should be to find out if this girl is even someone you'd like to know better. This is what we mean by "qualifying". I would suggest having something cool to do in mind before you approach and then using your approach to decide if this is the girl you want to accompany you to this cool thing. Also, keep this in mind: none of these approaches are a waste of time. Learning to ta…
/r/seduction29/10/15 04:00 PM
1

You can definitely meet these women online. Just be very clear that you are looking for "mature" women. You yourself should look as mature as possible. Your youth will shine through regardless, but you need to scrub your introduction of any sign that you're doing this as a joke. Mention discretion and that you're looking for a woman with an open mind.
/r/seduction29/10/15 03:09 PM
8

Men: Here are some concrete ways that men are discriminated against in modern society. Women: Men have always been in charge, so these arguments are false. Filmmaker: Wow, thank you! For a minute there those dark wizards almost had me fooled.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/15 12:34 PM
1

As with anything, your lifestyle choices will increase your appeal in the eyes of some women, while others will be put off. It's why we say that you need to choose who you are and then own it. Own the shit out of your style. As someone who has indulged in alcohol and refer, I can tell you that there are many women who would love to find a guy who lives cleanly. Many women do not enjoy going to a kegger and shotgunning 5 beers. They are out of their element and feel pressured into a world where t…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/15 09:51 AM
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If you train her properly, This is the part that always makes me laugh. What makes you think you can reprogram a grown woman? Women are many things, but they are not stupid when it comes to manipulation and telling you what you want to hear. OP is right, they're better than we are at creating a facade. Even if I accepted that what you say is possible, who the hell has that much time to devote to his woman? I travel for work, sometimes for up to two weeks at a time. She could have the Tinder acco…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/15 09:24 AM
1

I've tried different things. I try to be honest. Here's part of what I'm looking for that has actually drawn some positive response: I'm looking for someone who understands me, someone fun, someone who enjoys being a woman. My ideal woman is active mentally and physically, isn't afraid to think, and is interested in what people have to say. I'm sure someone will be along to say I'm doing it wrong. I've found goofy/aloof doesn't attract the women I'm interested in. I like women who wear skirts, s…
/r/askTRP27/10/15 04:41 PM
1

To put a slightly different spin on the answer already given, I would say they like romantic gestures if they can brag about it. Can they make their girlfriends jealous with an Instagram photo of the flowers you bought her? If so, you've scored boyfriend points. Boyfriend points may be redeemed for further opportunities to fulfill your role as her boyfriend. There is now a better chance she'll buy you a gift for your birthday or accompany you to Friday night showing of The Raid 3. However, boyfr…
/r/askTRP27/10/15 02:47 PM
1

Porn and jacking off excessively, which leads to the "grip of death". In other words, normal sex will not give you the same amount of stimulation that you get with porn and your hand.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 11:29 AM
38

Chad? I'm thinking eggplants.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 01:23 PM
2

You're welcome. I've done the cialis thing. It was a big step in my recovery because it helped me remember that sex is fun. However, I quickly decided that I didn't want to get addicted to it, so I haven't taken one in a couple years now. I'm proud of how far I've come and I encourage every guy out there with ED to try sex therapy. It took a few years but it worked for me.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 01:10 PM
15

Words of wisdom. Amen, brother.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 01:04 PM
4

Last time I did that, the bitch bled through the towel, through the sheet, and into the damn mattress. I fucking LOVE that mattress more than life itself.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 08:13 PM
1

It's definitely generational, but in any case I always try to get their number and arrange a call. I think it helps make you a real person in their eyes and makes them think twice before flaking.
/r/seduction20/10/15 09:17 AM
2

You're not boring, you're just introverted. The problem is that you're trying to "hang out" with these chicks. When you take a girl on a date you should be doing something active so that you don't need to entertain her with your juggling and animal balloons. If you want to be more interesting in general, then you need to read more and do shit. Take some chances, get out of your comfort zone, travel, get some real experiences. If you can't think of anything else, volunteer your time somewhere.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 04:02 PM
1

You're getting your hopes up too high for what has become a female validation ap. I'm sure there are some guy getting regularly laid with Tinder, but most guys just find it frustrating. Personally, I've spent a lot of time on it just to bang two dogs. A third chick, a hot post-wall mom, would have turned into something on the third date, but I was busy fucking someone else so I flaked on her. My advice is to go ahead and play around with Tinder because you will get lucky at some point, but don't…
/r/askTRP19/10/15 03:50 PM
0

I hate flakes. I would do something to make her confirm her interest, like go with a buddy and mention to her that you'll be there. It's not a date, rather an opportunity for her to show she's into you (which she isn't, by the way).
/r/seduction16/10/15 02:50 PM
2

Going for a kiss on the first date is important because it brings the date out of that hazy zone where she's not sure if you like her, or if she likes you. Going for the kiss says, "if it's up to me, we're going to get busy sooner rather than later." It changes the dynamic of the date in her mind from "I wonder if he likes me" to "it's on or I need an exit strategy." it also lets her know that you're not going to be a beta orbiter.
/r/seduction16/10/15 02:39 PM
1

My best friend married a trust fund chick. She refused to spend any of it, especially on him. He busted his ass and paid almost all the bills. Her money was a constant source of friction between them. There is no "easy mode" for marriage. There is Pro and All-Madden.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 02:01 PM
7

This sounds about right. OP, you're just not with the right girl. I'd move out if I were you. My guess is that she won't even try to stop you. She's five years older than you, and it sounds like she's looking for someone more serious. Don't get angry. Just say to yourself, and then to her, that the two of you had a good run but it's time to move on.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 01:53 PM
1

(gave her all the things she needed to get healthy) Perhaps I misinterpreted this. But the larger point is that if she truly is a plate, then there is no "it" to end. But I guess you're wondering what you should say to her if she calls and wants to know why you don't see her anymore. Well, honesty is always the easiest, since it doesn't require any thought. In this case it would be a brutal blow to her, but it might also be the inspiration she needs to shape up, depending on her character. You c…
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:43 PM
1

Yeah, I get the feeling more and more that guys do a little reading around here and think that "plate" is simply an RP man's word for girlfriend. Unclear of the distinction? Well, here's a pretty good litmus test: are you buying her exercise equipment? If so, she's probably your girlfriend. Does she assume the two of you are going to hang out unless other wise specified. If so,...
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:23 PM
2

Good man. Keep in mind that your "normal" life seems boring because you're flooding your brain with chemicals during the "fun" time. It happens to everyone, whether it's video games, porn, beer, whatever. Good luck.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 02:34 PM
1

Yeah, he's probably trying to find a girl who's worth it to bring on a three-week walk through a Costa Rican rainforest. People like this do spend their money. As someone who works in tourism, I can tell you that you'd be surprised by how some very rich people can appear. One of the richest people in Kansas, for example, wears flannel shirts with holes in them. Another very rich person I know drives a Maserati, but keeps track of his minor expenses in an excel file.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/15 11:08 AM
2

Put your hand on her shoulder or on her waist when talking to her specifically. Take it off when you are done talking. This is my go-to move for the first kino. It's the "the next thing I'm going to say is sincere and important so I'm bracing you for the monumental impact" shoulder grab. It's best used when you're being mock serious, and you can do the furrowed brow, concerned look, with extra points for "i can't contain a grin much longer." Look at kino this way: if this girl recoils from your …
/r/askTRP12/10/15 02:56 PM
1

There's definitely some racism involved, but that doesn't explain why you're not getting anything at all. My guess is that you're aiming too high and your lack of experience is causing you to misread situations. There must be some girls who like you, even if they're not pin-up models. Go find one of them who doesn't repulse you and work your magic on her. You need experience above all else. Get those first few kisses out of the way and report back.
/r/askTRP12/10/15 02:41 PM
3

a classic euphemism, because what is it "before"? Him shooting in your hair?
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 07:30 AM
17

Also, the definition of "boyfriend" in EE is any guy I'm sleeping with. This is Moscow. The "girlfriends" in these videos are likely just plates. No need to cry for anyone.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 07:18 AM
2

Yeah, stay with your buddy. You'll still end up spending plenty of time at her place, but it will be much easier to control how much time you spend/waste with her. Tell her you don't want her to get sick of you, and plan a vacation with her, something that always gets her looking forward.
/r/askTRP09/10/15 07:04 AM
3

You're kicking ass. Keep it up. As Keats said, "The cut worm forgives the plow." There are people out there who are worth interacting with, people with insight. Guess what? They're busy. You'll know them when you see them, and because you're also someone with insight, you'll be given leeway to pick their brain. These are conversations that give you food for thought. Be polite to the future office plankton of the world, or not. It probably won't make a big difference to you. Being labeled as inte…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 09:44 AM
1

Wow, what an awesome chick! She's torturing her beta boyfriend by going out and teasing other dicks. I think you could get her to be your girlfriend, and then you'll wonder what she's doing at every party, whether she's flirting with that guy she's talking to, or just being nice. I can see why you're in love, and why you're hesitant to move to too fast. You don't want to spook her. Maybe a few more dates. Try to send her some flowers... Look, fuck her or don't, but be honest with yourself. These…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:22 AM
2

She's living her life and you're living for her. You're living for the pussy, my friend, so this is going to be your lot in life. You need to figure out who you are, what your goals are, what you want to do (besides fucking), and go out and do it. It's hard to see it now, because all you can see is your unicorn. But there will always be women around. I'm not saying you need to dump this one yesterday (I'm guessing you don't have that in you), but you do need to rearrange your priorities. Try to …
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:08 AM
0

Shame: TRP, PUA, dark triad all rolled into one
/r/askTRP03/10/15 10:10 PM
1

Do's: Go to class, study in the library, eat right, exercise (make sure there's real exertion), meditate (and/or yoga), read yourself to sleep before midnight Don'ts: Porn, porn again, video games, crappy food, excessive alchohol You need to get these things in order first before you decide to become a first-class player. Once your routine is a solid routine, then you move up a level to dressing nice, bachelor pad, hair, maintaining your frame, spitting game, etc.. But first you need to get your…
/r/askTRP03/10/15 10:06 PM
1

You have the perfect personality to become a rake. Check out this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w3J9StP2YbQ Some of us are just prone to the Feelz. I get them even when I am juggling several plates (like right now). I happen to like the Feelz and wouldn't want to live without them. I just try to control the symptoms by catching myself from becoming too gooey beta.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 09:06 AM
3

You need to see how she acts with other guys. Is she pulling the same shit? Then she's just a tease enjoying her feminine powers. If she only does it with you then she wants you, but she wants you to work for it.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 01:01 PM
10

Yes, we know. That's not the point. The point is that getting the girl you want is much easier if she is: A. One of 10 girls that you are pursuing; B. The eleventh notch on your belt rather than the second or third. For the one millionth time: oneitis is not sexy. Abundance mentality is sexy.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 09:14 AM
4

I read your whole post. It wasn't easy. Get divorced. Don't remarry. You're not cut out for it. You don't love her and she doesn't love you. There is nothing to save. Dump the ashes of your relationship into the river and move on.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 09:13 AM
3

No, don't bake for him. Do everything you can to make yourself beautiful. Exercise like crazy, take care of your appearance, improve your posture, and be fun to be around. You have to make him want you. Be available, but don't wait for him to call. Make other plans, do stuff, meet other people. You need to make him make the effort.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 08:40 AM
3

Three dates without sex is still in the easy-come easy-go phase, especially if you're going to wait five days to contact her. These days it's really hard to explain why you went that long without at least dropping her a line. Maybe a bigtime player can get away with that. But if you're a player then where are all your other plates?
/r/askTRP29/09/15 08:34 AM
1

Your mistake was investing so much energy in a girl that wasn't that into you. You have realized that your oneitis was a problem, but you still don't seem to understand the importance of abundance. Why do I say this? Because you are overanalyzing a single failure. We all fail, lots of the time. We just don't get hung up on it. Go find a girl who likes who as a man. You may have to drop your standards a bit, but I guarantee you can find one. Observe her. Observe how she fauns over you. That's the…
/r/askTRP29/09/15 08:28 AM
2

ooof. friend of the family? You're on thin ice here, buddy. I see some drama in your future. You are going to get a load of comfort tests, especially once you start playing house again (as my grandma called it). I could imagine she's going to confess her love and ask if you still love her too.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 08:46 PM
4

What are you talking about? Didn't you know that as soon as you put that ring on her finger she becomes a perfect angel? This was an isolated incident is all...
/r/askTRP27/09/15 11:59 AM
2

This is a very reasonable answer. I'm mid-40s and divorced with two kids, so divorcees are a large chunk of my diet. OP, you've got a good one, but there's no reason to marry her unless she's a unicorn who just married the wrong guy too young. I'm not sure you've got a unicorn. I would definitely cool your jets on any thoughts of marrying her. Keep her as a plate and if after a year or two everything is cool then consider it again.
/r/askTRP27/09/15 11:53 AM
7

Don't get married.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 08:24 PM
1

Thanks. Yeah, she's been good to me, so I really should give her the benefit of the doubt. It just sucked because I had another date flake on me during the day, and it's my weekend away from the kids. And I got kneed in the nose yesterday, but I deserved that. Gone Girl is awesome. Affleck really nailed his role. I cheated on my wife at the end of our marriage with one of my (FORMER!!) students, and I'm also the failed writer, so that movie really hit close to home.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 08:00 PM
1

Well, to answer your question, I would say no. Back off. Hang out with guys, go to the theater. You're in college, there's tons of shit going on. Up your standards. There's got to be a few decent chicks. There's only so much you can practice the carnal arts.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 07:46 PM
2

The assumption at the Red Pill is that you're trying to come up with a sexual strategy. These are things you can control, and if you forgo them then you make it harder, in general, to hook up with women. It's really not more complicated than that. The point that RP makes is that women really are like the stereotypes portray them to be, no matter how much that may harm our senses of equality. They like shiny objects. They want a tall, powerful man who drives them around in a nice car. You do what…
/r/askTRP26/09/15 07:42 PM
3

Are you sure you're not gay?
/r/askTRP26/09/15 07:35 PM
2

Update 5 hours later: her mom had a minor heart attack and her heart hasn't fully recovered. She apologized for today. We know that there are people of telling such lies. But how common is it really? That's fucked up shit if she's lying about her mom having a heart attack. She has flaked on me twice versus 6 or 7 meets. Maybe it wasn't a good idea to watch Gone Girl tonight.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 07:29 PM
3

It's funny that you post this. I am going through the exact same thing with a plate of 2 months who wants to be my gf. She was supposed to come to my place for dinner tonight and stay until tomorrow afternoon. I got a message from her at 2:30 in the afternoon saying her sister took her mom to the hospital. she left work early and sorry, but she can't come. She'll write if she can. So, I get it that there are family emergencies. But if she can't tell me what the problem is with her mom, how does …
/r/askTRP26/09/15 03:27 PM
1

It means that one man's creepiness is another's IOI.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 08:02 AM
4

Yeah, I hate it when a chick screams "Hey, Danedina, I'm DTF!!!"
/r/askTRP24/09/15 03:35 PM
1

Isolate and escalate, but remember that plausible deniability for both of you is key. Some girls always have boyfriends, so if you want them you have to peel them away.
/r/askTRP24/09/15 03:31 PM
1

There's no simple solution. If you leave now, you're a bastard. If you leave a newborn, you're a bastard. If you leave two children...etc. Personally, I would stick around until the baby is born. Spend as much time with your daughter as possible. And start moving your assets somewhere dark. Don't even mention divorce to your wife. If you are at all attracted to her anymore then give it one more shot after the baby is born to rekindle the flame. Then bail.
/r/askTRP24/09/15 02:49 PM
1

Yes, they do. I've been seeing one for two months now. She's multi-orgasmic, never dries up (at most it takes a minute of fingering to get her ready), and has yet to call for a break. I've never seen anything like it (and I've been around the block a few times). Because of my experience in previous relationships, where women get bent out of shape if you're not taking them out, I regularly suggest a restaurant, concert, etc. Nope, fucking is on the menu tonight, and it's all seven courses. And th…
/r/askTRP24/09/15 01:53 PM
1

This times a hundred. Can't we get the "unscrew your head" post stickied again?
/r/askTRP23/09/15 03:40 PM
1

I went to a raggae concert with two friends, who were a couple, and a girl they brought along. The whole time at the club the extra girl was dancing with random guys, and I'm thinking "what a slut." The four of us go back to my place and the girl follows me into my bedroom and starts kissing me. I'm not really kissing her back, but my dick is getting hard and I'm really on the fence when my girlfriend calls and starts talking to me through the answering machine. Gf finishes her message and it's …
/r/askTRP23/09/15 09:51 AM
1

Morpheus: [to Neo who is choosing the red pill] Remember... all I'm offering is the truth. Nothing more. You can be happy after swallowing the pill. You just need to give up the illusions that you were given growing up. See the world for what is.
/r/askTRP23/09/15 09:43 AM
1

abundance is not a catch-22 and there is no fake it til you make it. It's having the balls to ask out so many girls that you risk overbooking. You don't ever get used to rejection; it always feels bad. The difference in a situation of abundance is that you pull out of your depression much much faster when you remember that you've got another date lined up for tomorrow night. At some point you're on a date with a girl who, in your oneitis days, would have held the power of god over you, but now y…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 09:30 AM
0

Do something on the benefits of confidence and display those characteristics while you're talking.
/r/askTRP23/09/15 09:17 AM
1

Actually, I've found that maintaining momentum is much more important than baking, especially on tinder. I'll follow up later if we can't find a time to meet, but I'm for pushing for the soonest meet-up as possible. I've not experienced any benefit from purposefully allowing chats to ripen. Brown spots are just as likely as sweeter fruit.
/r/askTRP23/09/15 09:03 AM
1

With your height and money you have the tools to be a player. Like others have said (ad infinitum around here) you need to hit the weights. But you should also invest in some cool threads and make sure you've got your hair in order. The trend with black guys seems to be that kind of cauliflower cut. Check out some photos of Jimmy Butler from the Chicago bulls to see what I mean. Lucky for you, bushy beards are also fashionable right now. For clothes, one good thing about having dark skin is that…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 08:53 AM
1

Alpha widow. She was looking for validation. You probably could've banged her on the second date (ANY chick who sends me photos of her legs is DTF in my book), but it's probably better for you that you just bailed. She sounds like a loser.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 05:58 PM
4

First and foremost: learn to keep your piehole shut tight until you have something insightful to say. You'd be amazed by how much you can impress people by merely knowing your place and listening attentively. Once you have something to say, THEN seek out a forum and present your views clearly and concisely. Be bold and assertive, but matter of fact, and always give off the vibe that you can be a team player. You want other people of value to notice you and try to pull you onto their teams. This …
/r/TheRedPill21/09/15 12:28 PM
4

This is my style. I used to be extremely combative in conversation. Now I just shut up. I've found that if I make a habit of controlling what I say, meaning that I'm almost always saying something meaningful, then people want to hear from me. The person who interrupts me gets the floor temporarily, but people are actually waiting for me to finish my thought, because it's almost always more insightful than what someone else has to say. But I should add that I'm not an ambitious person. I have no …
/r/TheRedPill21/09/15 12:16 PM
3

Sounds to me like you have a chance with her. Same rules apply as always: maintain abundance, avoid oneitis, pursue your own fun, but don't reject her out of principle just because she's not camped out in front of your bedroom door waiting to please you.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 12:05 PM
1

It's like anything else: if she likes you then the hamster will spin you into a positive American stereotype, or -- and I get this a lot -- you're not like a typical American, which is a backhanded compliment, to say the least, but it's actually meant positively. If you're obnoxious then you'll be the "typical American." I've traveled a lot, including in France. If you're respectful and charming you can get along with just about anyone in the world. The French are widely misunderstood. Americans…
/r/askTRP21/09/15 08:42 AM
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If she's willing to talk, and she's a quality woman, then by all means try to get to the root of what's bothering her. Sometimes there's something bothering her that you are clueless about. You'd be amazed at how women see the world sometimes. But in most cases you're better off letting her walk, because she's not going to tell you the truth anyways.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 08:34 AM
3

Like, with exclusivity and shit? It's the ultimate sign of delusional beta oneitis. Doomed to fail.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 08:29 AM
2

I'd say you're in the clear as long as you don't treat her like shit. are you getting IOIs?
/r/askTRP20/09/15 08:09 PM
2

It's always hard to have the perfect comeback in a situation like that, but you can teach yourself to stay calm, smile and maintain your frame. Your friends were enjoying the excitement of something unexpected and they'll be retelling that story. I personally would have engaged the older women, try to grow the story, ask one of them to dance. Like Sparta says, go for the fun over the small chance of the lay.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 04:57 PM
3

I think what you did under the circumstances was okay. It's a very difficult situation. Similar thing happened to me in college. I brought a date to a dance, told a few brothers I actually liked her, then I had to take my turn on guard duty outside the house (in a fucking storm, no less). I go back to the party and all my brothers are laughing at me because my date is dancing up close to another guy. As they were leaving together I yelled out "it's okay Dude, you can have her!" Fucking bitches, …
/r/askTRP19/09/15 04:46 PM
1

Game is game, and being Asian has nothing to do with it. School programs? Sure. Clubs? Go for it. Library? One of favorites. Karate dojo? Hey, he's the Asian guy, he must be good at karate! Whatever works. The rules always apply: build your SMV, own your style, and approach, approach, approach. Talk to pretty girls, talk to ugly girls, talk to cool guys, talk to nerds, talk to your profs, talk to thesbians, talk to visiting professors, talk to librarians. This is the time where you have free rei…
/r/askTRP19/09/15 09:48 AM
1

Learn to counter the move so that you can embarass him the next time he does it. Having someone to wrestle with is cool. You're going to miss shit like this when you get older and everything is more regimented, and you can't just start wrestling your buddy at the water cooler. I used to love it when the wrestling mats were just spread out in the cafeteria and I could blindside a much bigger guy and he'd have to work to reverse it.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 09:36 AM
4

On the contrary, it's what you should be doing. Women are attracted to ambition. Don't apologize for doing what you should be doing, or even for what you want to do. Hell, I once had a plate at my place, and as soon as I blew my load, I went to the shower, dried off, threw on my robe and told her I was going to watch basketball. She could do what she wanted. I didn't say it a mean way, but I wasn't apologizing either. I mean, shit, it was the playoffs!
/r/askTRP19/09/15 09:29 AM
1

Not if they're real dates. If they're just hanging out with no escalation then yes, it's bad, because you're in orbit. If you're putting your hands on her, and she's responding, then it's building towards something. HOWEVER, you should be keeping an abundance mentality during this trial period. No sex means no commitment. If the escalation stalls then you need to apply push-pull until you can get a read on the situation. As soon as she halts your advances, pull back and say "it's cool. whatever …
/r/askTRP19/09/15 09:24 AM
3

It's times like this where I feel like I live in a different world. Where the hell are you guys taking these women? Maybe it's because I'm not rich, or because I'm not into clubbing and my dates are cheaper, but I grab check without hesitation to show that it ain't no thing, it's just money. Usually on the first date the girl I'm with barely orders anything at all. Not to mention the fact that I asked her out. Most women who want to see me again will make an attempt to return the favor.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 09:06 AM
1

When I feel myself drifting into mushy feely oneitis I force myself to think back through all the evil bullshit previous girlfriends have pulled on me. If you're still young and inexperienced, then read through all the threads here and on the main site about how guys have been cucked, strung along, divorce raped, etc. I'm not advocating misogyny -- hating will bring you down -- but an abundance mentality that forces women to prove their worth.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 08:57 AM
1

it also leads to the grip of death, where it's harder to have normal sex with a chick because your dick has grown accustomed to a much higher level of stimulation, both from your hand and from the visual stimulation of porn. There is a lot of evidence out there that internet porn is leading to much higher rates of ED. I firmly believe that it happened to me.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 08:52 AM
2

Misery loves company. Once you break out of the passive victim mindset you realize that some of your best friends were actually holding you back. It wasn't really a conscious thing, more like "hey, let's reassure each other that we're drifting passively through life because that's what we really want and it's the only choice you have in this fucked up world."
/r/askTRP19/09/15 08:47 AM
1

"Reading" is all about IOIs. This is more of a PUA/seduction topic, and a quick search will turn up tons of stuff on the web. Here's one I found quickly that's got some good insight: https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/6-commonly-missed-iois A good foundation in basic psychology and RP truths will also help you immensely. Keep in mind that women are emotion-based creatures. "Reacting" is where you decide what kind of game you're spitting. Again, this is more of a PUA/seduction topic that a so…
/r/askTRP19/09/15 08:13 AM
3

If I'm meeting a girl for the first time during the day I keep my expectations low. I'm qualifying her, I'm kinoing as much as possible without being Lester the Molester, and at the end I stroll with her. The end, because I have somewhere to be. The second date, if I want one, will be escalation. One time, I was already in my car, driving home, when the girl called me back, asking me if I wanted to hang out a little more. A clear IOI like that is the best case scenario. You can guess how that en…
/r/askTRP18/09/15 02:44 PM
4

Meditation. You need to learn to control your breathing, which is the way to treat stress. Your brain is creating a stressful situation that your body is reacting to. Since you can't really teach your brain to not have certain thoughts, what you need to do is to teach your body to calm itself down. The only way to do that (as far as I know) is by getting your breathing under control.
/r/askTRP18/09/15 02:28 PM
3

I'm not sure anyone could be labelled "pro-marriage". Some guys argue that marriage is a necessary evil if you want to raise kids in a traditional environment. The bigger debate centers whether it's possible to obtain sufficient alpha status that you can keep your wife sexually interested in you and faithful until the day you die. I'd refer you to the many posts entitled "biggest alpha ever gets cuckolded!"
/r/TheRedPill18/09/15 11:58 AM
3

Guys do a lot of posturing around here about how they wouldn't ever look at a woman over 30, etc. but the truth is that your standards will shift (at least mine have). I keep myself in good shape, but I'm not some alpha god, I'm not rich, and I don't pretend to want more kids. Even so, I've found that there are plenty of hot women in their 30s and 40s that can get my dick hard. I plan to bang 40 year olds well into my 60s. After that, I'll either move on to 50 year olds or pay for play.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/15 10:34 AM
2

To all betas everywhere: don't try this at home until you are certified RP! Because that's precisely the trap that betas fall into. "I can't believe this hot chick is letting me fuck her! I'll sacrifice anything to keep her as my own private masturbation tool!" They think that, well, this is just how sex is, and sex is either yes or no. If you're getting it, then you need to do everything you can to keep it, because there are only two states of being: getting (starfish) sex, or not getting it. S…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/15 08:30 AM
1

Mexican. I live in Eastern Europe, so I can get by with just browning some ground beef with lots of onions and peppers, chopping up lettuce and tomatoes (sure, you can help!), and grating some cheddar. I warm the tortillas in a pan, set out sour cream and hot sauce on the table, and voila! Easy as fuck, different (for her), and even healthy.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/15 03:07 PM
0

There's a theory (illustrated well in a great episode of Black Mirror called Be Right Back) that the closer AI gets to imitating a human, the more the small things they get wrong bother us (the phenomenon also exists in video games). On the other hand, I saw a TV show with some guys who had sex bots and they were saying (convincingly, FWIW) that as time went by they had less and less sex with their bots, and instead just liked to hang out with them. They'd spend hours dressing them and having co…
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 04:22 PM
-1

Many will. These early models are coming out of Japan. Futanari!!
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 04:11 PM
6

Dude, sounds like you could use a Soma
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 04:07 PM
6

My experience is that you don't even need that much cash to spin plates. My new number 1 plate never wants to leave the bedroom. This past weekend I spent $20 on a nice bouquet (a fair amount where I live) for a total fuckfest. The flowers were my total outlay for a night and day of constant banging. We took a break for her to cook and make coffee. Life begins with divorce.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 10:48 AM
3

Your problem isn't that you have no friends. It's that you don't know who you are. You don't pursue hobbies so that you can boost your SMV. That's a biproduct. You pursue hobbies (not to mention life ambitions) because life is fucking awesome and you need to get out and live it.
/r/askTRP15/09/15 09:29 AM
4

I would add that pair coupling has always been largely a facade. Look back through history and you'll see men stepping out on their wives, cuckolding (the word itself comes from Moliere, who was writing in the fucking 17th Century) and, of course, prostitution. Pair coupling has always been about inheritance, with the church stepping in to put an attractive rubber stamp on an otherwise official state document. Feminism largely arose during suffrage movements as an extension of Enlightenment thin…
/r/askTRP15/09/15 08:39 AM
4

Trust me: if she was hot for you, she would have gotten in touch. This chick is luke-warm at best. Find someone who wants your D.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 04:18 PM
5

Sounds like she just might be an introvert. If you are getting enough sex then what's the problem? Go do something fun. If it really bothers you then kick her out (or move out).
/r/askTRP14/09/15 12:35 PM
2

Your relationship has gone cold. You need to either stoke the fire (either by increasing your SMV, or by coming up with more interesting activities) or bail out. It's only been a few months, so there should be some juice left in this LTR. It doesn't sound like she wants out, but she's definitely having a look around. A chick who really digs you doesn't check out while she's with you. Your jealousy is just a symptom. The larger problem is that you're not producing fireworks.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 12:29 PM
1

definitely. A lot of dating hinges on momentum. Too many bad things can happen if you wait too long.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 11:10 AM
2

Yes, she tried to keep you in orbit, but it's not that you failed at anything. On the contrary, you played the role she set for you. Women cheat like crazy while on vacation. Statistics say they cheat more than men do when on holiday. It's their chance to fuck around "just this once." You were her holiday hook-up, and now she's back with her trusty, reliable boyfriend. You played your role and now she's done with you.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 10:58 AM
0

I take my hat off to anyone with solid day game. I am too chicken shit to approach during the day, even though I would greatly benefit from it because I love bookish chicks and that's when you can find them in the wild. In other words, I have no right to criticize anyone who claims to have successful techniques. With that said, I find it curious that Roosh's big secret seems to be to babble incessantly about any neutral topic at hand (what he calls "props"), until you can get her to bite on your…
/r/askTRP14/09/15 10:41 AM
1

Proceed as planned. This is what abundance looks like. Chick A isn't all that, otherwise you wouldn't be interested in B. Naturally, I'm not saying you should tell A that she's the only girl in your world, but I also don't think you need to send her a written warning that you're going on another date. It doesn't matter what you tell A, if she catches you in full kino at the coffee shop she's going to be upset and bring the drama. I used to be terrified of shit like this, but now I consider it a …
/r/askTRP14/09/15 10:15 AM
1

That's really funny. I probably would have taken the bait just to see where it led. Said something like, "yeah, I've checked it out. It's like anywhere else: some good, some bad. But you know what my real guilty pleasure is?" "What?!?!?" "It's called Fat shamers, or something like that." I have no idea if this is right play if you're trying to get laid. I just like taking conversations in interesting directions, which is entertaining, first and foremost, but also lets you find out a lot about th…
/r/askTRP14/09/15 09:30 AM
6

Your girlfriend was in so much pain that she had to go to the doctor and all you thought about was yourself. That's a solipsistic perspective fit for a woman, not an RP man. Call her up and apologize immediately.
/r/askTRP13/09/15 03:46 PM
11

Can we change Chad's last name to Cocksmith, or is that a different guy?
/r/askTRP11/09/15 09:06 PM
2

She's a plate. If you two are living together then start getting your exit strategy together. Changing someone is a shitload of effort. It's much easier to find someone who is already what you're looking for.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 09:03 PM
1

you don't have oneitis. You have lack of willpoweritis. The cure for oneitis is abundance. Get a life outside of your office.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 08:58 PM
5

... and is going to get as much mileage as she can out of the fact that she turned you down because she is loyal to her wonderful boyfriend and isn't it also such a convenient humblebrag to the world that she has guys chasing her left and right.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 08:52 PM
2

You also need to employ more push-pull when you're going for the kill. Kino, pull pack, push the kino farther, pull pack and then look for some reaction. This is where you need to read the girl and figure out what she's down for. You're getting these girls on the defensive and that's why they're locking up on you, especially when you're employing caveman game.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 03:10 PM
3

Pretty much this. I'd add that as soon as you paint yourself into a corner or take a wrong turn, just change the subject, preferably to setting up the next meet.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 09:54 PM
3

I think it's great if you give a kid from an orphanage a stable home and a chance at a better life. Just don't kid yourself. Raising a kid is a ton of work and will make you unhappy (research on this is all over the place). I have two daughters that I love to death, but I have my ex and her parents around to help out. Doing it yourself means lots of money and lots of time (and those PTA meetings are SO MUCH FUN!!!). If you want to avoid an LTR and marriage then just knock up some goofy couchie m…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 09:49 PM
2

I agree (to be more precise, the abs will be there, they just won't show unless your body fat is down). My point is that if you're doing regular high intensity work outs and watching what you eat then you probably don't need to count calories because you'll run that deficiency without doing the math. But my opinion should be qualified by the fact that I'm naturally skinny with a high metabolism.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 12:25 PM
3

That's the way I do it. Hookers sometimes put one on me when I'm soft and I don't like it. To be honest, if you're with a girl you like you'll probably get hard right away, so it won't really be a choice.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 12:20 PM
3

As an introvert, I kind of grew up in monk mode. It's not that I had trouble making friends, it's that I enjoyed solitary activities, like how a child will play with his toy cars for hours in his own world. I would make imaginary baseball leagues, or play D&D by myself. As I got older I realized that I was good at disappearing into the library for hours. Sure, I enjoyed partying and chasing skirts and playing basketball, but there was a certain amount of time that I needed to be alone. After I g…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 11:16 AM
2

Giving her a pen or not giving her a pen is not a litmus test of alphatude. Rather, it's a chance for you to display alpha qualities. As others have noted, you can tease her about it, or you can ask for her number. Personally, I would bask in the attention and dig the pen out of my bag slowly and confidently, making it clear that you know that this chick is interested and you're brimming with confidence. I'd probably throw something in at the end like "so, you're THAT girl." "Which girl? What do…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 11:02 AM
1

First and foremost, at this point in your life, the salary should be enough to get by. more or less doesn't matter nearly as much as the experience you'll gain for a jump to your next job. Both jobs have upside, not just the start-up. It's true that you'll likely have more responsibility early on in the start-up, and you'll learn how businesses get off the ground (or fail), but you won't learn much about how big companies operate, which is also a valuable experience. Also, the name of the big co…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 10:40 AM
7

Go out and by a pack of condoms. Go to your room and lock the door. Get your dick hard and practice opening a condom and rolling down onto your dick. This is the only part of sex that doesn't come naturally. With the rest, just follow your instincts and enjoy. Later you can read up about how to advanced techniques, but for now you should just enjoy the discovery stage.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 10:21 AM
3

It doesn't seem like inviting her to college game day is going to result in anything other than cementing her status as your girlfriend. She's looking for comfort. Even Heartiste admits that you need to provide a bit a beta comfort now and then. At some point all plates need to rationalize their purely sexual relationships. As you said, this chick clearly wants more, so you'll have to throw her bone soon if you want to keep her. I'd try taking her out to dinner, or go somewhere together like a m…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 09:22 AM
5

It's over. Next. Move on. You have oneitis. How many different ways do you need to hear this? It was already clear from your previous post, but guys were giving you the benefit of the doubt. Well, now it's doubly clear. She wants to leave you, but she doesn't have the stones to end. it. Don't get angry, don't make drama, don't make it "official", just go straight to no contact. It will be hard because you're really in love with her, but you need to be strong. Get a notebook and dump all your fee…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 08:50 AM
1

You "should" figure out what you want from life. SMV is just a term to help you understand RP thinking. There is no objective scale. If a chick with a fat ass gets your dick hard, and you have a chance to fuck her, then by all means. The Red Pill is a set of tools to help you fuck the chicks you want to fuck. Who those chicks are is up to you, not us. I will say that sex is like any other skill: you can hone your craft. So if you're not getting anything at all, then yes, there's an upside to slu…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 08:31 AM
3

Yes, she knows what she's doing as much as any woman does. She is not getting the dick she needs at home and has decided to find it elsewhere. Will she break up her family for you? Not if you make it clear that your vine is properly greased and there's no way in hell she's moving in with you. Will she get caught and sell you out? It's certainly possible, and then life gets uncomfortable, even if you're not afraid to get in a shoot-out. Every romance involves drama. You need to decide if she's wo…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 08:23 AM
3

If Dude starts doing HIIT regularly, then he probably doesn't need to cut his calorie intake. In fact, I'd guess he could start eating more. Obviously, he needs to get his diet in order, but he didn't say he's obese, he just can't get his six pack to show. OP, there's tons of exercise info out there. Get yourself onto a well rounded workout plan and stick to it. Give yourself a month or so and then look in the mirror.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 07:57 AM
1

See, this is exactly why I just go ahead and let them believe whatever they want to believe about our "exclusivity." You're honest with her about having other girlfriends, and yet you still get the crazy clinginess and all the other bullshit. Since none of the commitment talk means anything anyways, what difference does it make if I'm guilty of not correcting their assumptions of exclusivity? In my everyday life I'm honest to a fault (according to those who believe in Power Talk), so it's not a …
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 01:39 PM
2

The Red Pill Man does what he wants and owns it. If asian horror is your thing, then no one should dissuade you. The best case is if you use entertainment as a reward to yourself for completing something. From time to time, everyone needs to veg out. My guilty pleasure is kung-fu movies like The Raid. You asked about watching movies that chicks might want to talk about. I assumed that meant that they were movies you were otherwise not interested in. To me, a shitty piece of entertainment is one …
/r/askTRP09/09/15 09:23 AM
1

First, stop watching shitty movies. Second, stop assuming chicks want to talk about stupid movies. Third, do. Fourth, when you aren't doing, then read the hardest thing you can read that you can digest. Obviously, if you're not ready to read Kant, then you should read plato, then aristotle, etc. Read classics novels that are easy to read, such as Catch 22, Great Gatsby, Crime and Punishment etc. Avoid stuff like Moby Dick and Brothers Karamazov until you know what you're getting into (ie a slog …
/r/askTRP08/09/15 03:03 PM
4

I think you just rolled the dice too many times. This is why a lot of guys say social media should be kept to a minimum. Until you meet a chick she is looking for a reason to disqualify you. In essence, you were doubling down instead of cashing in your chips for a date. As for salvaging the situation, I would have tried to turn the tables (rather than letting the air out of the tires by saying "oh, and I eat kittens! muhahahah") and said, "me? you're the one coming off like a psycho! Our first d…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 02:48 PM
2

First, I'll give you the silver lining: I'm in my mid-40s right now, but on my dating profile I lopped off 8 fucking years. I've found that being 37 is pretty fucking sweet. When I was your age I went through the same thing. My best advice to you: just ride it out. Dress nice, make sure your hair is done, and look for women who like younger looking men (yes, they exist). In the meantime, carry on being your awesome self and own it. Be fast to make a self-deprecating remark about how young you lo…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 02:38 PM
1

It's not about the social standing you gain from being in a frat, but rather the social skills you acquire from pledging and joining. You are forced to interact with a lot of people, which is the fastest way to develop the people skills you to need to conquer the sexual marketplace. The greek system also does a lot of legwork for you by organizing social functions, such as exchanges with sororities. Once you acquire status within the fraternity, then you benefit from that. Having said all that, …
/r/askTRP08/09/15 02:28 PM
1

You should look at this objectively to try to learn something about yourself. You set up this date with another chick because you're not getting what you need from your gf. You stopped before you cheated on her, which shows you have a sense of morality. that's a good thing. It shows character. The question now is whether you should try to salvage your LTR. The only way to do that is for you to grow a pair of nuts and not being such a wussy fagot. Sorry for the harsh words, but you need to hear t…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 02:17 PM
2

I'm divorced, mid-40s, two kids. Most of my friends have divorced at least once. Here's the best-case scenario: 1. Wait until you're in your mid-30s. Sharpen your game until then and use protection. 2. Find a young, hot woman with a history of serious exercise under her belt. The kind who works out without any prompting. The kind who builds it into her schedule. 3. Your woman should also be someone you can talk to. She should show you that she is willing to listen and to reach compromises. She s…
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 11:23 AM
1

There are two forces at work here that you need to accept: 1. The universe is not a just place. 2. With that said, the sexual market place is a numbers game. If you're doing things right (and it sounds like you have a lot going for you as long as you have some clothes that fit you) then you'll have several chances to call out Bingo! When I was in college, my best friend routinely pulled the hot chick out from under my nose. As someone else suggested, you might want to isolate yourself from if yo…
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 11:01 AM
3

Dude, listen up: next. next her. A girl who likes you will find ways for you to meet. Girls who aren't sure make excuses. Right now you are in orbit. Break out.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 09:13 AM
2

I can attest that the "less is more" theory was the single best strategy that I have employed in online dating. There is all this advice out there about how you need this photo and that photo and one with a dog, and one in Turkey... The day I stripped everything down to one good selfie in a tight turtleneck was the day the chicks started expressing interest. Put the hamster to work for you.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 09:02 AM
6

not just that: he's been banging her for 2 years, but for some reason he felt he needed to mickey her drink?
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 12:02 PM
2

You need to lift weights, and I'd also suggest some martial arts, which will help with your confidence. In the meantime, you need to date some women for some experience, and to help build some confidence. Try looking for a shy, small girl who doesn't get much attention. Practice your PUA technique on her, especially kino, talking like a man, and leading her on adventures (and sex, of course). There's hope for you, but you need to be realistic about your situation and the fact that it's going to …
/r/askTRP26/08/15 09:57 AM
3

Leave her? No way! I'm sure it would be awesome if every single time I was fucking my little snowflake all I could think about was that my dick was too small. I mean, decades of feeling inadequate! Who could ask for more?
/r/askTRP26/08/15 09:45 AM
6

I've been with a lot of whores over the years, and here's my take: It's simulated sex. Real sex with a woman who wants to please you is much better. It sounds like you're getting all the action you need, so I'd say you should save your money. I use whores when I'm in a dry spell or I'm working on my long-term goals and don't want to deal with plates or girlfriends, because after a few weeks without sex my thinking gets all foggy and I really try not to jack off anymore. Should you try it once ev…
/r/askTRP26/08/15 09:40 AM
1

This this this! You are going to be tested, my friend. Pack up her shit, give her a window of time to come pick it up, and be a stoic statue when she comes to pick it up. Whatever she tries, you don't take the bait. Don't get mad, don't get sappy, don't take one for the road, don't promise to stay friends. What I suggest you do in the meantime is make some big plans. Something cool for you, like a huge trip to Europe, preferably Poland, Hungary, and Ukraine, where you will be SHOCKED by how many…
/r/askTRP26/08/15 09:25 AM
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You'd be amazed. I think what you're not realizing is that women's lives are boring as fuck. Games like this are like catnip. It's why badboys are so popular. I'll bet you could get most chicks to help you rob a bank, or drug some businessman for his wallet. Their lifetime pussypass teaches them that rules don't really apply, and therefore they don't understand why more guys aren't out taking what they want at gunpoint.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/15 11:54 AM
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is that true? Where are you getting that?
/r/TheRedPill25/08/15 11:50 AM
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For the most part this is true, but believe me when I say that there are a few women who truly like sex. I happen to banging one right now. She's the first women I've ever been with (and I'm not young) who has multiple vaginal orgasms. As far as I can tell they're legit because they come early and often. It's absolutely insane and it's making for fall for her hard. My previous 3 LTRs needed extended clit stimulation before they blew like volcanos. In those cases, fucking was for me to get off. M…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/15 09:56 AM
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You got her into bed, so there's no need to micro-analyze everything. Personally, I don't get too caught up in the whole who pays for what thing. Then again, I don't normally invite women on expensive dates until I feel like getting dressed up, which certainly isn't until I've gotten lots of action. Your enemy at the moment is oneitis. You have got to got to got to retain your abundance mentality. Believe me: she is fucking other guys. As soon as you drop her off she is chatting with other dudes…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/15 09:42 AM
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Even then, she will maintain that living standard if she gets a divorce. true, but by then the betabux has procreated (assuming he hasn't been cucked) which is all we're talking about here since your articles are merely describing two different types of mating strategy. You can argue that women today are only seeking out Chad's genes, but that's not what I see everyday. I see lots of decent women engaged to total betas. I don't need a crystal ball to see divorce and cuckoldry in their future, bu…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/15 09:06 AM
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Wrong. The point is there are two distinct paths: af and bb. If you go the beta provider route then you had better be damn sure that your woman values the nest you have built. If instead you go the Chad route, then you need to either be a true alpha or fake it convincingly (hence the stress here on lifting like mad).
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 11:21 AM
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It's impossible to know what's going on behind the scenes. Most likely she's in a rough patch with her boyfriend and decided to see what else is out there. You got a shot at the title and fell short. Maybe she was thinking about her bf the whole time and was having regrets. Maybe she's damaged goods. Who knows?
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 01:31 PM
1

can't get hot girls? well just go for the ugly/fat ones! No, you move to where the hot girls are shorter. I grew up in Illinois and now I live in Eastern Europe. I am the same guy, it's just now I fish better lakes. I suppose I would be prouder of scoring a Peoria 7 than a Polish 9, but, hey, what can I do? I have epicurean tastes.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 01:31 PM
1

I would give this woman a chance. Women in their 30s and 40s, even moms, can still be quite hot. They've got skills, they can dress and cook, they're used to taking care of children (which means they think nothing of bringing me another beer). What she doesn't understand is that there are so many of her versus so few of me (mid 40s but in great shape, still have my hair, smart, funny, know what it's like to raise kids, and willing to actually go down the street arm in arm) that she'd better be a…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/15 01:40 PM
1

I will admit to not completely being able to understand the whole anti-marriage aspect of TRP. I think a lot of guys rushed into marriage, or feel like they were rushed, and then had a bad experience. They look back and wish someone had slapped them around a bit with some cold hard truths. So they come here and feel like they're doing young betas a public service. That's cool that you're happily married. I got hitched when I was 28. After our second daughter was born I lost all attraction toward…
/r/askTRP17/08/15 10:52 AM
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Dude, if the red pill is good for anything at all, it should help you realize that chasing lots of pussy is the most natural thing in the world. You are an organism that owes its very existence to the fact that our male ancestors went after every piece of ass that appealed to them. What you're going through merely indicates that you have a healthy sexual appetite. Society is set up to not only keep you with wife and children, but to get you out of the fucking harem business. Know why? Because so…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 04:10 PM
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At the risk of sounding like a fucking Cosmo article, there are things you can do to mix things up. tell her to change her hair or go buy a wig. Take some tantra massage lessons together. Seduce her in a different room, or in your car. Have her learn some advanced hand-job techniques. Have her dress up in one of those frenchmaid costumes. If all that fails then cut her loose. You're simply not attracted to her.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 06:11 AM
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Why is everyone so down on LDRs? I think they're awesome. I'm in like three of them right now.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:37 AM
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Very well put. Drinking to get drunk is a double time-sink because you waste time drinking and then waste time being hungover. I would add that the concept of friendship will change as you get older. When we're kids we have little to do but kill time, so we're drawn to the biggest jackasses to defeat our boredome. When we grow up we're given the freedom to do what we want, but old habits die hard. OP, you should spend time away from your gf, not keep your old friendships alive, but because you h…
/r/askTRP11/08/15 04:00 PM
2

So how do you tell the difference between what happens to you and LMR? Or is it just a cause of LMR?
/r/TheRedPill11/08/15 01:40 PM
1

After years of a dead-bedroom marriage I've acquired a newfound appreciation for the Feelz. TRP has helped me understand them and accept the fact that there will be lows just as deep as the highs are high. Call me a hopeless romantic. The key, of course, is abundance. Meaning true abundance and not a facade of abundance mentality. Yesterday I had a great second date with a chick that I wanted to fuck. At the end of the day she rejected my advances. I went home and was pretty bummed. Had a bad fe…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 09:17 AM
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Don't be too hard on yourself for failing the LTR shit tests. It's a fucking gauntlet. Women have Disney fueled dreams that couldn't possibly come true. I'm in my mid 40s and truly single right now (divorced, two kids) after my "last chance HB8 in her 20s" left me after three years. I catch myself panicking from time to time, but then chill out, do some yoga, dump my emotions into my journal and then back onto the path. Nothing in this world is a singularity. You'll find another chick you're cra…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 05:26 PM
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okay, i'll bite. They don't get butthurt when I spend time with my kids. Not all of us are living like Fonzie.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 07:59 AM
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I've got two kids of my own, and in that sense the single mom's are better because they don't get jealous of the time I spend with my daughters. My last LTR could never get comfortable around my kids and there was always blowback after I went on vacation with them. Single moms give you space. OTOH, pancake tits or boob jobs. Neither of which are ideal.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 07:55 AM
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It happens more than you think. I was dating a chick 18 years younger than me with enormous tits and a tiny waist. She could have gotten lots of guys her own age. I'm no alpha, a poor PUA and have no bux with which to beta. She just liked me. Lasted 3 years.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 07:45 AM
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This NEVER happens to me and I'm completely fucking jealous. I mean, Free Weed?????!?!!?!!!
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 09:34 AM
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Which makes sense, until you meet the chicks of EE descent who grew up in the states and they look like all the other American slobs. Genetics is only part of the equation. Cut-throat competition explains much more. Culture explains their more down to earth personalities.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 02:03 PM
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Over time I've gotten some decent matches on Tinder. I've also had moderate success with other dating sites. For a while I found it amusing and didn't mind letting the entire pursuit soak up some lonely evening hours. The major takeaway is this: unless you get extremely lucky (I got close a few times), you will encounter a talent ceiling with the girls you meet online. My suggestion is to do what I did: overdose on online dating to the point where you feel you've really got a grip on what's poss…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 09:42 AM
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And that's the catch. I recently had a plate that was right in that grey area of "is easy sex worth even a few hours of my time with her?" I liked fucking her (her pussy was just the right size, and she was always wet because she worshiped me), and her face was pretty, but she was carrying extra weight that turned me off at times, and she had some dietary excuse for not working out. So, yes, I was Chad, but to be perfectly honest I felt guilty about the false hope I could see in her eyes. It did…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 10:27 AM
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The content means fuck all. The stage is the pussy magnet. It takes balls to get it up on a stage and do whatever it is you do. I don't care if you're as girly as Sexual Chocolate, for anybody watching you're somebody.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/15 02:03 PM
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I had that, too. Freaked me out at first.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/15 01:01 PM
1

On the contrary, she's a cheerleader who scored the billionaire. Women reading this story are enjoying a triple scoop of schadenfreude. "Bitch! See, I told you she was crazy all along!"
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 11:49 AM
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They keep thinking they'll get it right this time. It's the male hamster in full view. "I was too young. Then I got trapped in a rebound. This one is different."
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 11:41 AM
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I didn't see anything about a passport. This dude's only chance in life is to go abroad.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 08:43 AM
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or become a toyboy. I have a coworker who was dating a rich businesswoman. Their roles were completely reversed. She was separated (not divorced, because that would have brought too much attention to their business dealings), with a son, and he was the younger stud who did her bidding. She wore the pants in the relationship and he went from being a confident player to an embarrassed boytoy. The problem with rich women is that they want to enjoy their money (hard to blame them), which means fancy…
/r/TheRedPill30/07/15 09:24 AM
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Meet lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of women. Approach every single chick you are attracted to and qualify them harshly. Limit your time with each one until one you like starts working hard for your free time. Make sure she can hold a conversation (you're going to be with her a lot) and that she doesn't have whack politics. She should have a strict diet and exercise routine. Limit your outward displays of affection towards her. Make her feel like you could walk away tomorrow without an…
/r/askTRP29/07/15 10:03 PM
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I feel like we don't use the term "escape velocity" enough around here.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/15 09:56 AM
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That's not true. Our world honors fathers who make sacrfices. Why, just the other day I saw a guy get some 50 likes on Facebook.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/15 09:40 AM
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A few off the top of my head: 1. A call demands attention, whereas texts can get blown off, forgotten... 2. Most people are more comfortable taking their time and crafting a response. Calling requires instant response, which makes some people nervous, and therefore you may have her off-balance, which is a huge advantage in establishing superiority. 3. You can display a deep confident voice over the phone, and sarcasm translates better. 4. Calling displays clear intent. 5. It's harder to reject s…
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 09:43 AM
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Lovoo Tell me about Lovoo. I had a quick look at their website and don't see anything unique about it. I was on Badoo way back in the day but I didn't have any game back then and was a married Beta. My colleague fucked a lot of ogres and goblins from Badoo, so I was on it for more of a laugh.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 08:14 AM
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You have zeroed in on the danger of guys reading too much RP theory before they've gathered enough real world experience to put things into perspective. What we label as "jerk boy" behavior should be playful, not combative. The first step for every guy looking to get into the dating scene should be to learn how to read women. You can only do that by getting out into the real world and interacting with women in a natural way. Not reading off a script that says "by the third text you must send her…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/15 08:11 PM
1

Ignore her. She's bored and probably poking (literally) half her facebook friends.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 07:02 AM
1

How about this one: Do I look like someone who has a girlfriend?
/r/askTRP28/06/15 02:01 PM
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It sucks being small. I'm basically your size, so I know how you feel. You need to learn how to fight. Not so that you can put some idiot in the hospital, but because you'll learn to separate real from imaginary threats. Real warriors don't start fights with a shrimp. Drunks who like to start barfights succeed because they seize the initiative. They understand that most guys will freeze up at the beginning of a fight and once they have the upper hand they get their shots in. Learning martial art…
/r/askTRP28/06/15 01:50 PM
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Always play to your strengths and hide your weaknesses. The worst thing you can do is try to be someone you're not. However, there are things you can get better at through practice. You do need to be able to hold a conversation, but in a fun way that sends the ball quickly back over the net. Make her react to you. Put her on the defensive by, for example, finding sexual innuendo in what she has said. Practice mock indignation. Pause after she has said something that is actually pretty stupid. Te…
/r/askTRP28/06/15 01:36 PM
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This is my take. She shacked up with you because she was attracted to you and hamstered away your shortcomings. Then she got bogged down with life and staying with you was easier than finding someone else. Make no mistake, she expects more from you and she will either move on or henpeck the shit out of you for the rest of your days.
/r/askTRP28/06/15 01:15 PM
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Abundance mentality. The most dangerous pitfall you are facing is the nagging fear that you'll never find anyone as good as SHE was. This fear will push you to settle because you'll think "maybe I was just lucky before and this new girl is the best I'm going to get so I better lock her down." You're going to get hit with some hard Oneitis, because you've forgotten what it means to get the Puppy Love Feelz, so when they hit you're going to get some chronic Oneitis. Trust me: you gotta fight that …
/r/askTRP28/06/15 12:54 PM
1

Alternative lifestyles are certainly possible. You just have to understand that the more you stray from the script the harder it is to fit back into the tribe. It's a lot like being "vegan" or a "gun nut" or a "Hare Krisna," in that that's how people will see you. As soon as you're that couple that's in an open relationship then you're "that guy," and every time you return to the "real world" (sorry for all the quotation marks, but they're to keep us from getting hung up on semantics) you'll be …
/r/askTRP28/06/15 12:33 PM
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We all have moments of weakness. The difference between a cheater and someone who is faithful is avoiding putting yourself in the position to cheat. My ex-gf would trickle truth me about dates she would go on, and there'd always be a part where more people were supposed to show up but it then it was just me and him. Naturally, nothing ever happened between her and these guys... I should have nexted her then, but the red pill hadn't reached my bloodstream yet.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 01:08 PM
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Tl;dr > I work at a gym
/r/askTRP23/06/15 11:40 AM
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During my second year of college I experienced a dramatic upswing in quality pussy. There will be a new crop of women entering your school and you should have your hook in the water.
/r/askTRP22/06/15 09:34 AM
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Get a guitar. You can always get better, so it will soak up any free time you have.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 12:12 PM
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Even when you're a novice at something you can show yourself to be a quick learner. I recently started boxing and the trainer immediately gave me more individual attention because he could see I was a) athletic b) responding to his instruction. In any case, I'm not there to pick up chicks. I'm there because I feel it's a good use of my time.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 12:07 PM
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Because real world examples are worth 10 posts of abstract musing.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/15 07:28 AM
1

Translation: Why won't you lie to me to make me happy?
/r/TheRedPill18/06/15 02:50 PM
1

It's a crucial skill, not just for pick-up but for life. The better you are at meeting new people the easier your life will be. It's like giving yourself a running start to a new relationship. Yes, it's horribly discouraging, but think back to those three approaches and answer this question: do you regret them? Or are you proud that overcame your fear and talked to three new women? Just make sure that you have a plan for where the approach is going to lead. At some point you have to get her to a…
/r/askTRP17/06/15 08:20 AM
1

Let's break this down because you don't understand some basic Red Pill concepts. "she has alot of guy friends but im not realy jealous because i know they are in the friendzone and i know she would never date them" You KNOW this? No, you don't KNOW this. You choose to believe this because it's a comforting thought. These are orbiters and one of them might have more game than you think. "but i didnt want her to talk to her ex so i told her that and she stoped talking to him." Except that obviousl…
/r/askTRP14/06/15 07:04 AM
1

You definitely need to pick your spots. What you are doing always has to be (or at least seem) more important than chasing women. On one hand, women love a bold, confident man. However, they also love the myth of the chance encounter. The best storyline for her is "he was super busy because he's the BMOC and has so many important things going on and all the women are after him, but when he saw me he dropped everything because he just HAD to meet me. And now we're in love, and that bitch Debbie J…
/r/askTRP14/06/15 06:38 AM
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I think I joked on here recently that we will see feminists and blue pill society take a lot of what TRP has to say and repackage it into language they understand and agree with. When it's convenient, yes. That is, when it's time to tell a man he has to "step up" or "get off his ass" because he's not treating his queen correctly. However, when the tribe is asked by an AFC why women don't seem to get turned on by discussions of quasars and quarks, then he is bombarded by examples of women who jus…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/15 11:50 AM
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Tough crowd. You must be using a bell curve with a long ass tail.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 12:07 PM
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She's still got a bit left in the tank. 34, yoga twice a week, no kids, three-catter...
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 12:01 PM
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Study Finds that Starting with Highly Spurious Statistics Leads to Positive Program Results
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 11:57 AM
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This thread is currently #23
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 09:35 AM
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At your age you should be learning, not yearning. Eyes and ears open, mouth shut. Everywhere you go and everything you do should be a learning experience. You're building your skillset, which includes worldly experience. Learn from this guy. Practice your alpha behavior with the women, hold your frame, pass shit tests, keep your voice low and steady, take up space. These women are going to be a tough challenge, so don't rate yourself against how you do with them.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 09:56 AM
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There is no substitute for abundance mentality, and in my experience that mentality can only be truly internalized through actual abundance. In other words, surround yourself with tail until you reach the point where one more chick may be worth it and may not be. You have options in any case. You will still lament missing out on the best ones, but you will have a much better chance to keep your oneitis under control. You're dreaming about this chick being everything you've always wanted and you'…
/r/askTRP29/05/15 09:49 AM
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If he doens't have kids then he should lawyer up yesterday and get the fuck out of that marriage. Tell him to cut his losses and prepare himself for a transition into a much better world. It will not get any better with his wife. I'm divorced and so are almost all of my friends. I can only think of one guy who regretted it and he's back with his wife and their two kids. But he's a bit of a basket case who refuses to play the game (wears sneakers everywhere, doesn't brush his teeth, AFC).
/r/askTRP29/05/15 06:44 AM
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My experience is that they act busy in case they have something better to do, or simply want to get away from you, then they have a convenient excuse. (it's not like guys don't use the cover of being super busy at work) Probably some guy got all up in her business one time and demanded an explanation as to why they couldn't meet at 4pm on a Saturday. Obviously, she had a date with Chad.
/r/askTRP27/05/15 08:27 PM
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Really, Crazydave?!?! I thought you were different!
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 07:55 AM
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This question is asked more than once a week. Please do a search.
/r/askTRP22/05/15 01:11 PM
1

It's actually easier with chicks who already know you (or at least know who you are) because you the comfort level will already be a step above zero. You can text any time you want as long as you can see that she was recently online. It's actually a good thing to text at night because there's a chance you can get her undivided attention. The trick with Tinder is to get her attention, chat a bit, and then set up a date as soon as possible. That is, before another guy steals her attention away.
/r/askTRP22/05/15 12:47 PM
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In your case a pre-nup won't matter because as soon as you're married she'll be entitled to half of anything either of you earn from that day forward. Forget about the feminist stuff. It's not black and white. You know this chick better than we ever will. She will change in some ways and so will you. It's impossible to predict that stuff, so it's best to just go by what you know now. You say she's cool so it's safest to assume she'll stay cool (ie as opposed to assuming she'll change this way or…
/r/askTRP22/05/15 12:42 PM
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Teaching is essentially performance. You're on stage, same as a rockstar. You are displaying expertise and you're in a position of authority. You've got people (students) confirming your status.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 10:36 AM
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I started boxing recently. After getting my bell rung several times and a couple nosebleeds I'm learning to keep my guard up. You can tell people to keep their guard up, and they'll nod their head, but if you don't spar then you'll never truly learn. Yes, get out of your comfort zone. Keep learning, and have something to talk about from real experience.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 01:14 PM
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I think you guys need to read between the lines a little better. This girl was putting out to everyone. Paul was just waiting patiently in line for his number to be called. Let he who has never accepted Dirty Thirds cast the first stone!
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 12:21 PM
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The same goes for abundance mentality. Until you've experienced true abundance, where you're turning down opportunities because you simply have better options, it's very hard to internalize the concept. Most guys are looking for girlfriends because they want regular sex. With that state of mind you're going to do whatever it takes to keep that gf (or potential gf) happy so that you get your daily recommended allowance of sperm letting. Once you've filled up your calendar with different chicks vy…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 11:40 AM
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Nope. When men call you arrogant it's sour grapes. (my favorite is when a beta friend complains that "you've changed") When women call you arrogant it's them repressing their desire.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 11:25 AM
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The most important thing by far is that the girl is turned on. Once you're at that point, as long as you're not whipping out a micropenis then size isn't going to be the determining factor in how she views how good it was. It's important to remember that sex for a woman is a long process that starts with foreplay and ends with cuddling, while we tend to think that "showtime" starts and ends with pussypounding. Probably the best way to put it is that women like to play with big dicks like we enjo…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 11:19 AM
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I'm in my 40s and too busy to spin plates, so instead I do short-term relationships. I average two "relationships" a year. I've found this works best for me at this stage of my life. I like my current girl a lot. She's awesome: fit, sexual, smart, and fun. But now that we're nearing the 5-month mark, my eyes are wandering. Soon I'll be shopping for her replacement. There are so many amazing girls out there. The next one will be just as wonderful. I really liked your post. I'm in a similar place …
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 10:48 AM
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The lesson here is not that you should walk away from your job when they fail to treat you with respect. The lesson here is that you always need to keep yourself financially independent enough so that you can walk away for whatever reason. Ask yourself right now: how many months could I survive without my current paycheck?
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 09:26 AM
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Hilarious, thanks for sharing. Strategy should be push-pull. Obviosly, try to get some drinks in her so she can blame the liquor.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 02:53 PM
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You're pushing too hard. You need to employ more pull. I would do this: the next time you're together, don't take her clothes off at all. Don't put her hand down your pants. Just light kisses and then pull back. If she asks what's wrong, tell her that you are worried that you are rushing her. Cut your kisses short. Watch how she reacts because it will tell you a lot. I know this sounds passive, and that the alpha male is active and leads. This is true until you encounter resistance. Then you nee…
/r/askTRP19/05/15 12:43 PM
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Started going on lots of dates and scoring with some of them. I realized that there were things that I was missing, namely good conversation and kissing. My unicorn didn't like kissing and wasn't good at it anyways. I also realized she didn't suck my dick that well. In short, abundance, real abundance, is a panacea. It's a time sink, but even that helps you prioritize your activities and learn to actually turn down dates, which is the true sign of abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 12:29 PM
1

Just do it. Obviously, look for a job and a place to live before you go, but put it into your head that you are going on June 1 and the world had better get out of your fucking way because this is happening! I moved to Europe to a country where I didn't speak one word of the language with nothing but a backpack and a few dollars. I have a friend who lived in a fucking broom closet in New York and smiles every time he tells that story. Put it this way: if you don't do it, and you end up staying i…
/r/askTRP19/05/15 12:08 PM
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On one hand, he asked for RP theory as much as specific advice, so guys are providing thought processes. OTOH, I'm with you: it was short notice and she had to clear her schedule. SHE DID! And now she's blowing up his phone. Time to stop thinking and hit that.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 12:00 PM
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Most women are not going to embarrass you just for kicks, especially if you have your act together. You also need to spend a little time reading the woman in question before you kneel down and ask for her hand. Read up on IOIs and how to qualify women to make sure you're not setting yourself up for disappointment (or humiliation, for that matter, although that at least would make a good story). No, but they may have a lot of other things on their mind. You need to approach women who look at you …
/r/askTRP19/05/15 11:49 AM
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Lots of good answers. I will just add one thing: there are certain women in the world who ALWAYS have a boyfriend. They are the branch swingers. This chick sounds like a prototypical "I can't bear the thought of being alone" insecure woman. As someone mentioned: 1. you will need to make a solid move on her and give the girl plausible deniability. It has to be one of those "it just sort of happened!" cases. 2. Never LTR a chick like this because it will then happen to you. 100% guaranteed.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 11:26 AM
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And everything else is spin. Flowers cost less than divorce? Fuck you! Coffee is for closers. ♂
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 11:33 AM
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I spent last night with a Tinder hook-up who basically travels the country sleeping with different dudes. I had to invest a few hours taking her around the city (I live in the capital and she lives a few hours away) so that she could work up a comfort level. After that it was a fuck date. She looked at me like she never loved anyone else and I was the man of her dreams. Tomorrow night she'll look at someone else like that. Is it a show or do they believe it in the moment that it's true? I believ…
/r/askTRP17/05/15 07:46 AM
2

It's always a good idea to describe what you do rather than simply refer to a profession. In your case, you may also want to emphasize the next step you're working towards. You don't want to seem evasive, but you can spin it.
/r/askTRP16/05/15 06:18 PM
3

Because the prince has always proposed to the princess. Whatcha ignant? Don't you watch Disney movies?
/r/askTRP15/05/15 03:15 PM
1

Depends on who she is. How is she behaving in her texting? What do her photos show? What do you know about her? It could be she married her high school sweetheart and recently divorced. Could be she's been on the CC for years. Could be she was fat and recently lost a lot of weight. If I were you I would play dumb and hold your frame. Young, dumb and full of come. She wants your dick, that's for sure.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 03:09 PM
2

You could probably argue it either way, but at the end of the day the Red Pill man does what he wants. Personally, I want any girl I have sex with to have an earth-shattering orgasm, and oral is usually the best way to achieve that. I made this chick scream so loud the other morning that her neighbors had to hear it. I love that shit. As long as I'm getting my turn then I'm glad to let her get hers. The better the sex, the better chance I'll have the option to hit it again.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 03:02 PM
1

Date? I doubt it. Men tend to look like men (how's that for grand wisdom?) when you get up close. One night with a Thai ladyboy? maybe once just for kicks
/r/askTRP15/05/15 02:54 PM
6

Frame: yes. Status: No. Plenty of men in low ranking jobs get laid. It's a cliche for the trophy bride to fuck the pool cleaner while the husband's away.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 02:51 PM
3

You lost at high school. Many of the people who won at high school get complacent and fail to see that guys like you are working hard every day to get better. It's a new day, a new season, and this is a different you, a better you, and if you work hard you'll be even better tomorrow. The chicks you meet now don't know that you lost at high school, nor do they care. Deep down, they have their own insecurities. The most important thing that you need to internalize is that you are the one choosing …
/r/seduction15/05/15 12:41 PM
3

Germans tend to be extremely direct. Get ready for some uncommonly honest conversations. The women are tall and tough, but open to sex if they like you. German guys are extremely tall, but often not very athletic. All German people are extremely sensitive of their Nazi past. I recommend not dwelling on the subject until you've reached a comfort level with the particular person. Hope that helps
/r/seduction15/05/15 12:15 PM
2

Your unusual name makes you unique. Keep it. Learn to introduce yourself in a clever way (eg "it rhymes with Blowjob"). Shorten it into a nickname if you must, but for fucks sake do not become another fucking Justin, or John, or Bill.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 11:31 AM
1

Anything that gets you better at working with your hands. DIY or maybe a class on small engine repair? Something like that. Chicks love it and you'll become more self-sufficient
/r/askTRP15/05/15 11:27 AM
4

Crazy busy. Is tues or thurs better for a quick drink?
/r/askTRP15/05/15 11:25 AM
2

Look at it as practice. Your September call-up to see if you can hit big league pitching. Go down swinging. Anyways, she's probably going to flake at the last minute.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 11:22 AM
2

the only bad boner is one that keeps you from pissing straight
/r/askTRP15/05/15 11:19 AM
1

I've never been anything but nice and professional towards them Really???? And that hasn't led to success? Maybe someone needs to investigate this unusual phenomenon.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/15 11:04 AM
1

Enough for what? For you to score a cute chick to sleep with regularly? Well, you need some game also, but even as you are your SMV is above 0. We all play the hand we're dealt. The key is to keep your expectations in check and keep working, keep striving, and stop making assumptions about what you can and can't achieve.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 09:21 AM
4

I enjoy the topic. Simple as that. When I first came to TRP I thought I was a complete idiot. Then I quickly realized that I had a lot to offer, even if I wasn't the most natural alpha ever. I learn from others and contribute when I feel I have a salient point.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 09:13 AM
3

You can ask her out again, but I wouldn't get my hopes up too high. Maybe it's just me, but lately I've been going on a lot of dates, and the ones that go okay, without a hitch, but no sparks either, don't seem to amount to much. If something's going to happen then there are sparks from the get-go. Unless you're leaving some stuff out it sounds like you've been launched into orbit.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 09:07 AM
3

I'm glad you posted the update. I remember during the first post that I didn't think anything would come of it, mainly because this was too planned, thus she didn't have an excuse that "it just happened." But whatever. You went, scoped her out, assessed the situation quickly and minimized the time sink. It's hard to think of any positive outcome to this situation once it was clear she wasn't putting out. Maybe you meet one of her friends at some point? But that's really a small chance, whereas y…
/r/askTRP13/05/15 10:22 AM
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As long as said feminists are hot, sweaty nubiles who are chained together I won't let them derail my enjoyment of an over the top action movie. This movie looks like it has slightly more plot than your average porn. I'm buying my ticket to watch post-apoc roadsters explode in a dust-storm. Who gives a shit if the cut scenes are a little preachy.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 02:43 PM
5

LOL! This study asked couples who were already tired of fucking each other to have even more ball & chain sex, and the results were shocking! Shocking, I tell you! What a fucking joke! How about taking a guy who is having sex once a month and setting him up with a new hot chick every night. Oh, I'm sure he'd be plunged into deep depression.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 02:07 PM
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But if you like Star Trek, fucking say it if it comes up in conversation This is an extremely controversial point. I happen to agree with you. You often hear the advice here that you should put down your video games, stop playing D&D with your nerdy friends and go out and generate value. On one hand it's true that you need to get out into the world and make something of yourself, and the hours playing video games are wasted. On the other hand, a higher level goal should be finding out what you t…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 02:00 PM
1

If you're interested in how TRP theory plays into seduction then watch the movie Shame.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 12:53 PM
3

This happened to me just last week. Sitting on her couch and she says "I was talking to my friend about you, and she said that you're not just coming over for dinner." I acted stupid (it's amazing how often playing dumb can help you through a shit test) and asked her what she meant. The chick says, "my friend thinks you're just coming over for sex. We're not having sex tonight." I went into the mock offended routine and said, "Your friend doesn't even know me!" The whole episode was hilarious be…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 10:37 AM
1

Do you live with your gf? How much time do you spend together? Is she still excited to get in the sack with you?
/r/askTRP12/05/15 09:07 AM
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Nope, never tried it. I've been using an online dating service and I've filled up my dating schedule to the point where I don't want to engage any new women. Good luck, man. Don't get discouraged. Learn to read women quickly, but don't just go for her number right away. You'll run into the danger of letting her give you her number just so she can get away from you. Make sure you spend enough time with her to gauge real interest.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 09:01 AM
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There's also the danger that you're living vicariously through the stories of others who have improved themselves, banged new women, stopped taking shit, etc. To your brain it may feel like you're the one accomplishing these things.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:55 AM
1

Can you define "hanging with a girl"? Is this a friend or someone you're already banging?
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:49 AM
2

I'm at a similar point in my life as you are. Here's what I've settled on as a decision-making tool in cases like this: do you think you'll have fun even if nothing sexual happens at the end? Because I have my kids half the time, I have precious little time to waste on dates that don't go anywhere. If you're bored then go. TBH, I doubt anything will come of this.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:45 AM
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no.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 03:22 PM
2

The world is so full of shit that I'm at the point where I believe that being able to be honest is a privilege. Especially when we're talking about opinions, I feel that I'm somehow being selfish when expressing them honestly, like it's therapeutic giving unfiltered opinions. It's a big reason why I enjoy visiting this sub. On the other hand, I feel ZERO obligation to agree with other people's bullshit or laugh at their inane jokes. I do my best not to make fun of them, or to retort with sarcasm…
/r/askTRP11/05/15 10:40 AM
2

The trick to keeping any high quality chick around is to feed their dreams. Where you're going to travel to together, where you're going to move to, how you're going to make more and more money in the future, what color the baby's room is going to be...
/r/askTRP11/05/15 09:29 AM
1

I believe Janet Jackson sums it up best: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9uizdKZAGE
/r/askTRP11/05/15 09:20 AM
5

Or at least not until my mid to late 30s, when my SMV had reached its peak. Until then get your own place, deck out it into a kick-ass bachelor pad, and learn PUA. Once you have that squared away you can stop worrying about women and figure out what you truly want out of life.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 09:19 AM
3

Do I have to hide that excitement and interest? Because I hate doing that. Do you know what I hate? The fact that I have to bounce the ball on the floor while I'm running or else it's a traveling violation. It would be awesome if I could just run down the floor, weaving my way through the defenders with the ball tucked safely under my arm. Alas, there are rules to every game. It's why you can't walk up to an attractive chick on the street and just banging her from behind, even though that's what…
/r/askTRP11/05/15 09:12 AM
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Having experienced both extremes -- I came right away when I was younger, but now I can go so long that sometimes it's hard to come at all if I let the initial impulse pass -- here is my honest opinion on the matter: Go ahead and come as soon as you're ready, even if it's after just a few minutes. Act like it's completely natural and then proceed to round 2. As long as she gets her turn at some point it's all good. Here's the key: make the foreplay last longer. Slow everything down. Take your ti…
/r/askTRP11/05/15 07:58 AM
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You are being childish. Whaaaaaa! I don't want to go to the wedding!!! Suck it up, go to the wedding, greet everyone properly and smile for the camera. You can find someone worthwhile to talk to and avoid the annoying people after you've done the requisite palm shaking and congratulating. Don't use the Red Pill as an excuse to dodge things you don't want to do. The path of least resistance is not red pill.
/r/askTRP09/05/15 10:51 PM
3

The Instagram flirting is a symptom, not a disease. It clearly bothers you. She's your woman, you take care of her and her son, so to you it comes across as disrespect. For her it's a buzz, a validation that she's not dead yet, a reminder to herself (and to you, of course) that she could score someone else if you ever decided to leave her (like her first husband did). But keep this in mind: she remains a hot commodity. She doesn't need Instagram to find someone to fuck. You say you're sure she i…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 04:07 PM
2

Well, what I would do is circle that date on my calendar and decide which of my plates I want to see that night. Or you could go out and shop for wallpaper for the baby room. Either or. both are cool.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 03:16 PM
1

You've already been with her, so you should be physical with her from the moment she walks through the door. That doesn't mean ambush her before she has removed her shoes. It means you help her take off her jacket, you lead her by the hand into your place (very important! she should get used to following your lead), you put your hand on her back as you're showing her around your place. In short, she should just get used to the fact that you're touching her, and therefore there is no one "move" t…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 02:54 PM
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It matters a lot if you want to maximize your SMV. You have to separate yourself from the crowd. Of course, it matters what you mean by "decent." To me that screams invisible. You want to stand out and then prove that there's substance behind the style.
/r/seduction08/05/15 02:36 PM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/ is a better forum for this type of advice (ie how to get into her pants) Red Pill is here to tell you to ignore what she tells you because they will all tell you that. Push, then pull. Escalate until she stops you, then pull back. On the surface, you're saying "no pressure, girl. It's all good." but in reality you're saying, "well, I'm tired of just kissing you, so if this isn't going any further then I'm watching the movie (or bailing)."
/r/askTRP08/05/15 01:12 PM
2

You need to read what you wrote again and ask yourself this question over and over again: How do I know that is true? Almost everything you wrote is based on what she tells you. Even if she is faithful to you now, as soon as things go bad she will have 10 guys to choose from immediately. This is why you are jealous. You have what we call "oneitis". You are so much in love with this girl that you are not seeing clearly. This is not a girl you can trust. If you stay with her it will only get worse…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 01:02 PM
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I don't really see a shit test. She made plans. You offered a "come over and fuck" date (while listening to my favorite band!). She did a cost-benefit analysis and decided that your offer was lacking. My guess is that you're going to have to make more of an effort (ie take her out) if you want to keep her around. That's the deal with plates. Sooner or later they're going to get wise to the fact that the relationship isn't moving forward. Up to you how much you want to commit to keeping her happy…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 09:40 AM
1

I'm also over 40, and realized that because of age filters I will likely never connect with any young action through Tinder. I've been able to score a few bangs but nothing to write home about. I look young, so I'm preparing to create a fake Facebook account that declares I'm 37. I'm especially curious if I'll be able to hook up through Tinder while traveling, which seems to be the best use of the ap. ETA: I posted my first shirtless selfie moment and got a positive response from the woman I was…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 09:16 AM
2

That's crazy. I haven't had a condom break forever. Are you carrying them around in your wallet? Do they have LifeStyles in the States? My favorite is Lifestyles ultrathin and I never have a problem.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 08:59 AM
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Oh yes, it can. In fact, I'm not sure I'd even give him the benefit of the warning. The next time he starts in, just walk up and biff him. It's a shame, but sometimes you need to show the pack you're nobody's bitch. Or you get a new set of friends.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 02:52 PM
2

In most cases MGTOW can be replaced by TMBAGH (Take my ball and go home)
/r/askTRP07/05/15 02:49 PM
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I'd go with this. Tell her she's back in the game, set up the next available fuck, and remind yourself of this little incident every time you get the Feelz.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 02:32 PM
1

This is terrific advice. I think this is the goal: to get to the point where you are willing and able to approach any woman you come across. However, if you are like most guys, and have approach anxiety, online dating is a good place to start. I live in a European city, so take this FWIW, but after paying my dues for a few weeks I've literally filled all my free nights (I have my kids half the time) with dates with different women. I've slept with three of them in as many weeks. My confidence an…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 02:32 PM
2

I think your regiment is fine. I've been working out for a long time, and my best results have always been when I've got that lean, fitness look that comes from combining martial arts (used to do karate, now I box) and a modest weight training (these days I can't lift heavy because my shoulders and elbow simply forbid it). The martial arts provide me with a confidence (and abs, baby!) that I don't get from the iron alone. Here's the trick: Tight shirts!!!!!!! I'm average height with a slight bui…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 01:59 PM
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Yes, you failed the shit test, but so would most guys. You're aware of it, that's what counts. My instincts also tell me that she wouldn't cheat on you, but it is important to keep one important fact in mind: research has shown that a higher percentage of women cheat during a holiday than men. I am not normally an AWALT guy, but in this case, Fucking AWALT! But so fucking what! The chance you'll marry this chick is low. Use the time to chase tail and develop your abundance mentality. Get rid of …
/r/askTRP06/05/15 01:45 PM
2

My take is that there are two types of beta behavior: 1. Childish behavior - whining, being lazy, looking for someone else to do what needs to be done, etc. This is the type of behavior that peer pressure seeks to remove. When your bros telling you to "stop acting like a pussy," it's usually because you're acting childish. 2. Socially constructed behavior: This is the "learn to express your feelings" and "treat women with respect" type behavior that needs to be unlearned when you're trying to ge…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 01:33 PM
3

Your problem is not that you're being negative, it's that you're blurting out the first thing that comes to your mind. In the first case, your retort to the HB8.5 was just lame. That's okay, it happens to everyone until you've got more practice. In that case you would have been better served just giving her a confused look as you slowly ambled out of the jacuzzi. I'll bet there would have been a delicious pregnant pause as you didn't actually leave. And then you did the worst thing possible: you…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 11:29 AM
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He already knows this guy, so he could take it to another level: "Do you know Frank? He was just telling me he has a huge crush on you. I'll give you two a chance to get to know one another." Then OP goes to find the next available babe and let's Frank pee his pants.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 11:17 AM
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This is such a good post that you should make an entire thread about this on the TRP main page. I'm at the point where I just jizz as soon as I'm ready during sex. I'm older, so I'm patient in bed in terms of foreplay, but when I'm ready I'm blowing my load. After that I stay if I want or I go on my way. Giving a girl a good orgasm is fair play, and I have the skills to do it if she wants, but I'm more and more convinced that her own orgasm isn't her primary objective. Her goal is to get you off…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 10:41 AM
6

wise man say: when all shit test, then no shit test
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 09:32 AM
1

To be honest, I never really went through it. I became an atheist at a young age, was introduced to existentialism, environmentalism and political scandals in my late teens, played high school football for a spastic coach, had a girlfriend torture me in college during her travel abroad, was slapped around verbally and embarrassed at my workplace in my 20s, dealt with a dead bedroom and ED in my 30s, etc... These are life's lessons and they come at you with an iron fist. TRP simply added a perspe…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 02:20 PM
2

too soon and everyone is gonna hate you This is very real. My ex is still pissed off at all of our "friends" who hit on her before the ink on our divorce papers was even dry. Of course, she was already going on dates by then, but these were supposed to be friends. Ethically, I don't have an answer for you in this case. As long as it's consensual then I don't have a problem with making yourself available. Just keep in mind that plausible deniability is going to be tough to conjure up.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 02:09 PM
1

That's my story, too.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 02:04 PM
1

yes, if there's a big park with a cafe in it, that works well. I did this last night for a first date. It started to rain as we were leaving, but we were still in the middle of the park. She held the umbrella for both of us and I put my arm around her back as we walked. Soon we were making out under the umbrella. Parks also have lots of benches.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 02:02 PM
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It's a factor like anything else. Being tall helps, being blessed with broad shoulders helps, having a car helps, etc. but you don't need any of these things. It certainly matters in the long run, but you're not interested in getting married anyways, so, sure, you can do just fine cleaning pools.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 01:48 PM
1

Attraction has a sell-by date. If you're increasing the level of attraction that this woman feels for you, then these activities are fine. However, every day that goes by where you don't make it clear that you're interested in her sexually is another chance for her to say, "well, Brian isn't interested in me. I wonder what Chad's doing tonight."
/r/askTRP04/05/15 01:45 PM
1

All I can tell you is that I'm very happy living in a big city with tons of hot available women even though my earning power is not as strong as it could be. I happen to love being around beautiful women and I'm dating many of them at once even though I'm no Cassanova. I just had four different dates in four nights. You can't pull that off in the Bumblefuck, so I live in a big European city. What's important to you? I definitely wouldn't take the job you describe as "kinda boring" unless you can…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 11:23 AM
1

Great answer, so I'll just piggy-back a few further suggestions onto this. Your game is weak. First of all, she knows she's cute. She knows you think she's cute. All you're doing by telling her is admitting that you're beneath her. Second, no emoticons. Girls use smileys. You should be edgy. Lastly, I'll reiterate the most important part of the above post: Stop it with the Facebook stalking. She shot you down. Move on.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 11:12 AM
1

I used to come very fast. Nowadays, in my mid-40s, it usually takes me a long time, or I can't come at all. Having experienced both extremes, here is my honest opinion on the matter: Go ahead and come as soon as you're ready, even if it's after just a few minutes. Act like it's completely natural and then proceed to round 2. As long as she gets her turn at some point it's all good.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 11:06 AM
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This would be my advice. Whether the storm like Ulysses strapped to the mast of his ship. Here are a few more cliches to keep in your pocket: -I'm truly sorry for how things worked out. - I truly wish her all the best and I know that she'll find someone who can give her the love she deserves. - I will pray for the strength to make you all proud of me in the future.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 11:01 AM
1

Proceed as if I just want her as a plate and let her contact me/ initiate with text? How crucial is it for me to refrain from texting her? Not crucial. She's already interested. You don't need to play games. Just don't be a beta startstruck chump. Keep text strictly about meeting up or is some flirting allowed? If so how much? A little flirting is fine, but yes, keep texting to a minimum. Actually, I would just call her. Women seem to like that more. Maybe I'm just from an older generation. Is i…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 10:43 AM
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Whatever happened before will happen again. Why did you break up?
/r/askTRP04/05/15 10:37 AM
2

What do you mean "make sure she understands?" She knows it better than he does.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 10:26 AM
1

It's a shame you're getting downvoted. I think you make some good points, and my experience jibes with what you're saying.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 10:59 PM
2

What exactly? That they went to get on your gravy train? The OP's date was clearly nuts. Are you saying they all get to where they're demanding an audit of your assets?
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 10:54 PM
1

Hey, it's the voice of reason. I've had the same experience with these women. Although I haven't been at it long, I've learned to read women very quickly, and even the ones who are past the wall can be decent company for an hour or so until I finish my beer. I've never had the experience the OP is talking about, but I have met a woman who was two years older than me, and still the prize, like you say.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 10:51 PM
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I live in Eastern Europe. The legends are true. I know it's hard to believe. I was dating a chick in her mid 20s until three months ago. When it ended, I decided I wanted to be single for a while, because i haven't been in 20 years. I had no idea what to expect. Well, I can tell you that I've stumbled upon some amazing women in their 40s. They are classy, sexy, and -- unlike 20 year olds -- can actually hold a conversation. Some of them haven't even had children. Also, unlike the 30 year olds, t…
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 10:28 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiNYmiM0Nfw Dude, what the fuck is wrong with German people?!
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 04:08 PM
1

Yup, happened to me recently. The crazy thing was it was the first time since I was in college that I dated a chick older than me. Those moments of weakness are like muggers waiting for you in a dark alley. Mine came after we'd finally fucked and I felt like a million dollars. I slipped up during pillow talk, going all beta and asking her what's it like to be so beautiful. Now she has no time for me even on a three-day weekend.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 03:41 PM
1

Yes, two kids. The divorce was rough on them, but my wife and I managed to stay civil throughout (she freaked out a few times at the beginning, but I granted her that, and the kids never saw it) and are now on good terms. My kids don't like traveling between our two places, especially on school nights, but otherwise they're as good as could be expected. Our divorce proceedings were easy because I gave up a lot in order for the whole thing to be done and to minimize how much we both sacrificed to…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 02:49 PM
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I went through the same thing. The funny thing is that I sat my wife down after she had finished henpecking me one night and I looked her in the eye and said "I'm not happy. If you don't start being nicer to me then I'm leaving you." For the next year she was on her best behavior, but it was too late. I hooked up with a 23 year old and moved out. That was three years ago. I am still single and the happiest I've ever been.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 08:55 PM
2

I don't see any shame in trying it, especially if it's not permanent. If your teeth got knocked out you'd get dentures.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 01:50 PM
2

Encounters with hookers is not real life. She is doing whatever she can to make you come as fast as possible. Anything she says to you is an attempt to make you excited. What she said was stupid and a sign that she doesn't understand the male psyche. Hookers are not attracted to the men the service. Don't kid yourself. She just fucked some other guy before you and there's another one waiting. Use her for what she is: a walking masturbation tool.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 01:44 PM
3

I'm guessing most people will adopt the narrative that you are a little bitch who was put in his place, and that people who don't know you in any other way will refer to you as "that smartass who got knocked out outside that the Alpha Beta party." It would have been better if you had lost a fight, but what happened to you was the equivalent of passing out and having your friends draw all over you with magic marker.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 01:23 PM
4

There is actually a school of thought that forgetting a girl's name, or getting it wrong, is a good thing to do and on occasion you should even do it on purpose display higher SMV. I guess it's a form of negging. Whatever you do, don't apologize for it.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:47 PM
3

Learn to stop intellectualizing women This this this! I'm guessing that you're talking to women like you're narrating a science documentary. Stop being smart and start being fun. Try telling a joke, the cornier the better. If she overlaughs then you are IN. From then on, prompt her to talk, with you only commenting occasionally with a quip or mock shock by something that could be interpreted as sexual innuendo. When you want to say something, touch her shoulder as if you're trying to get her att…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:43 PM
2

I hate being with rich chicks. You end up wasting all of your money just to feel like you're contributing, and on bullshit like eating in overly expensive restaurants. It's a no-won situation, because if she pays you feel like shit (and she will use it against you when she feels the need), or you pick up the check and spend all your money. You know, it's not like she puts you on an allowance. You still only have the cash you make after expenses. Her money is her money, or worse, it's Daddy's mon…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:21 PM
1

Can you give some more details about how she said it and what exactly she said? Was it matter of fact or teasing? I've known some women who think they're being playing but actually they're killing the mood. Some women think it's fun to make jokes during sex.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:14 PM
5

I think this is a good thing that you should take advantage of. Get shit done, advance your career, pursue your hobbies, meet some cool guys to hang out with, etc. As a 44 year old, I can tell you that your sexual appetite will return in weeks, if not days. Enjoy your moment of clarity while it lasts. And no, I don't think it's inherently beta to seek an LTR, nor is it beta to be attracted to this flirty, sexy tease. You're old enough and experienced enough to pursue whatever you think will make…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:02 PM
19

Who would have sex with someone they weren't attracted to?
/r/askTRP25/04/15 10:39 PM
34

Go to the party. When you get there, introduce yourself to every fucking person at the party like you're Bill Fucking Clinton. Move around and keep your momentum. College parties are like shooting fish in a barrel. Stay reasonably sober, keep your frame and meet guys and chicks alike. Be everyone's friend, ie don't be a dick.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:49 PM
1

I'd be surprised if a girl who is sleeping with you regularly and buying you shit would turn around and cheat on you just because she's done it before. The risk is always there, of course, but my guess is that you'd notice a decrease in intimacy if she got a wayward eye. Here's the honest question you need to ask yourself: do you enjoy being with her? Or are you with her just because you've developed a pattern of seeing her every night? What I would suggest is spending a few more nights apart an…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:40 PM
1

Does she enjoy being in the sack with you or does it feel like she's paying you forward for a commitment? I don't know, dude, I can think of worse things than getting high on the beach with a cute chick, eating her dinner and then banging all night. There's nothing wrong with the Feelz as long you're getting the better end of the deal.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:25 PM
9

My insight comes from my personal experience. It is not meant to justify guys who get off on back-dooring married women, but rather a reason to not judge some cases too harshly. What happened to me at the end of my marriage was that I barely fucked my wife the last 4 or 5 years before my divorce. I think the dead bedroom scenario happens more than most people realize, especially when kids are involved. I was suffering from an ever worsening case of ED, and I basically fell into a state of near d…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 09:55 AM
3

Oneitis is a curse. I get it even when I'm working on several girls at the same time. In fact, it may even be worse when I'm spinning plates (or at least trying to get them up on their sticks) because the difference between THE ONE and the others comes sharply into view. I'm not sure there's anything you can (or perhaps should) do to prevent the Feelz, but rather just be aware of it and your own susceptibility so that you can blunt the worst symptoms.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/15 12:47 PM
6

I like this a lot. It acknowledges that the art of pick-up -- like many things in our world -- is mechanical, not mystical. It's like anything. You don't learn a to repair a car by reading a book over and over again. You learn by reading a book and then popping the hood and getting your hands dirty.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 02:36 PM
2

It's a vague term that you should simply ignore. It's used similar to "daddy issues" as a catch-all phrase by lazy writers who just want to pile on some hate. When it's used well, it's best used to describe women who have reached the point where the effects of age -- wrinkles, crow's feet, varicose veins, loose skin, saggy tits, etc -- have severely reduced their SMV. To suggest that this happens to all women by the age of 30 is ludicrous, as you point out. In fact, some women maintain most of t…
/r/askTRP22/04/15 09:42 AM
1

that way I can pay off my debt AND for new shoes and shit that I absolutely need to keep my job. You want me to keep my job, don't you? Besides Daddy said I deserve these things from my husband.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 09:01 AM
1

Date 1 to Date 3 was a little over a week. We had been chatting on the dating site a bit longer than that.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 08:18 AM
2

There is no quick way to forget. Your mind will forget about her when it's good and ready. Personally, I would stay away from other girls. That's just going to transfer your distraction from one point to another. I would simply whack off in the morning and then hit the library until you get through your finals. Maybe let yourself wallow a bit in self-pitty by writing it all down in a journal.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 03:09 PM
1

There could be many things going on here, but the biggest positive sign is that she actually admitted to you that she watches porn. Any talk of sex is a huge green light. I agree with those who suggested that she just didn't want to look like a slut. Just last week I was with a woman I'd just met on a dating site. After one phone call of conversation I took her to a jazz club. After the concert we walked by the river and I tried to kiss her. She said she was uncomfortable. I said I just wanted h…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 02:59 PM
1

Yes, pick her up. Pay like it's no big deal. If she offers to buy the popcorn, let her, again: it's no big deal, just money. Opinions vary on this, but I find it's best to act like money ain't no thang. Build comfort and escalate straight through the commercials and previews, cracking jokes throughout. At some point in the movie, do the thing where you grab her right before a jump scene. She'll get fake mad but it's what any good wiseass would do. After the movie, just start walking. Again, foll…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 02:18 PM
1

Write it down
/r/askTRP21/04/15 02:10 PM
2

The best advice I ever read suggests using your imagination to demonize your vices. For example, every time you pick up a cigarette, you should conjure up a negative image of it, like you're about to smoke some rolled up dogshit. The article I read used examples of food, but it seems to work in other areas. Try this, go find some women who are really ugly examples of cosmetic surgery and think about them when you're looking at porn.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 02:09 PM
1

Amen. Go home, try to relax, stretch, make a Dear Diary entry, write out a list of things to get done the next day and hit the hay.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 01:58 PM
1

Same here. Memento is my favorite movie for a reason.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 01:54 PM
1

If a chick really wants to see you then she will move heaven and earth to make it happen. In this case, she was in effect breaking up with you in the most cowardly way possible: by simply stringing you along until you got the hint. I went through something similar. Love blinds us. The Red Pill opens our eyes. Another thing to be aware of: you handed this girl a gold-plated pussy pass. Her last two boyfriends were abusive? Really? Or they were sick of her flaky bullshit? There are good women out …
/r/askTRP21/04/15 01:52 PM
1

Great post. There probably aren't many dudes who can speak from experience in a case like this. It's somewhat comforting to know that even the guys who get the premium pussy get blindsided by women. A good lesson for all of us.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 01:34 PM
1

Good question. I suppose I threw that in there just to demonstrate that this woman has her shit together. The BMW is hers, not booty from a divorce. I'm actually not a car person at all. I get around on public transport. The larger message, I suppose, is that there is no reason to "avoid alpha widows like typhus" if you know what you're getting into. In this case, it was the third date, everything had been leading up to the big Saturday night, and I FUCKED UP big time by asking her about her las…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/15 02:56 PM
1

When I started backpacking through Europe I was like you and went through the same range of emotions. My suggestion to you is go somewhere and get a job to create some structure in your life. Be careful not to get tied down. Teaching English is great; even if you don't have any paper that certifies you as a TESL as a native speaker you can get private lessons just talking to business men in the evening. Get your own place!!!! Somewhere close enough to the party zone that you can bring the party …
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 02:07 PM
3

I fucked the hell out of an alpha widow last night. It was terrific. Three extended bangs and an industrial grade half-hour blow job. What's not to like. Gorgeous woman, beautiful face, hair, fit body, classy, good style, BMW, drives into town to see me. Am I going to marry her? of course not. I've got a date with another chick in an hour. My only decision is whether or not I should shower off the sex on my body.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 09:04 AM
2

I've had elbow pain for more than a month. The funny thing is that once i get into the workout the pain goes away and I'm fine. If I try to carry my gymbag (or say, groceries) in my right hand, though, I get a shooting pain. I really should be resting it but I hate the thought of skinny me returning (I have a slight frame and need to lift just to look healthy).
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 03:18 PM
3

I think it's really pretty simple: sex is a woman's gift to a man. If you don't come it's like not eating your birthday cake.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 02:52 PM
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... and what's a hundred grand for his college education anyways?
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 02:38 PM
2

The cliche is that opposites attract, but that's hamster daydreaming. All the evidence suggests like attracts like, as you claim. One factor at play is that beautiful people are expected to date beautiful people because that fulfills the vicarious dreams of the average people around them. It's the path of least resistance. Women are doubly affected because their status is so tied to the guy they're draped around that they'd rather be lonely than "pitied" for lack of a better term. Another part o…
/r/TheRedPill13/04/15 01:40 PM
2

What really sells the abundance mentality is reacting matter-of-factly. Not butt-hurt "oh yeah? Well, well, I'm going to find another girl and then you'll be sorry!" You answered her questions minimally, matter of fact, didn't take the bait, and made her squirm and eventually fold. Inspiring FR, well done.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 01:10 PM
2

It is kind of funny that men don't give a flying fuck who the chick is, just that she's hot and wet. Roll playing is needed when you're getting bored of your one and only and need to pretend she's actually someone else -- what your wife doesn't realize is that she could be anyone else.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 12:43 PM
2

Cut out the monologues and you should be okay. Try to sharpen your wit instead, responding with short pithy answers and a smart-ass grin. Obviously, if your boss wants a direct answer then give it to him. What you have isn't serious. You're a product of the "every child is a special snowflake" environment you were raised in. You need to beat it into your head that nobody gives a shit about your indepth knowledge of weather systems and traffic patterns, especially if you're intruding on their tur…
/r/askTRP10/04/15 11:39 AM
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That's not what he's asking. He wants to know how to do all this without making her think that they're a thing.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 11:23 AM
1

Her: Are you still mad at me? You: Not unless you got fat. Her: ha ha. No,. You: You're on Instagram. Prove it. etc.... My take is she's DTF
/r/askTRP10/04/15 10:24 AM
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It might sound silly, but you should be out living your life. I highly recommend meetup.com if you are lacking ideas. In a nutshell, you should be looking for things that you like to do that could potentially also be done with a girl you're trying to impress. Remember that you need to impress a girl early in your relationship for her to see you as high value. So get into something like spelunking, or motorcycles, or rockclimbing, or breakdancing, or guitar, or improv comedy, or anything where sh…
/r/askTRP10/04/15 10:13 AM
5

You need to unwind naturally before bed. No tv, no phone, no computer. If you don't know how to meditate, then lots of stretching. Your body isn't made to handle this kind of stress. There had better be relief in sight, or you should just shut down at 5 pm and go home. Don't be a sucker.
/r/askTRP09/04/15 09:03 PM
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His mistake wasn't just believing that he had a unicorn. The bigger error was thinking that sex would get better after they got married.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/15 11:26 AM
3

As I got back into the dating scene I realized that I needed to use my daily journal to keep track of all the chicks i was meeting and chatting with. I now understand what the cliched little black book was for, especially since many of them go by aliases online.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 12:30 PM
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I hear you. I just ended a two month drought and it did me a world of good. She was nothing to brag about, but it was good to get off the schneid. The funny thing was that I sent her a text today saying that although she is super cool (she is) it wasn't going to work romantically between us. I braced for some outrage but instead got an open invitation to come round whenever I want.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 12:26 PM
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Find the best chick you can, knock her up and be as red pill as you can. And then hope to hell you're one of the lucky ones who is merely beset by ennui and not full scale depression.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 12:23 PM
1

no, of course not.
/r/askTRP07/04/15 09:19 AM
1

sounds to me like other things were bothering her and you were there to act as lightening rod. I don't see anything you did wrong accept maybe that you accepted her assertion that you acted like a jerk. Could it be that she misses her your old beta self? If you want to make it work, you probably need to insert a little excitement into her life. Mix things up a bit. The exchange you described sounded like a couple who've been married for decades.
/r/askTRP06/04/15 03:20 PM
1

It's a skill like any other. Think of drawing, music, math, all of these things come easier to some people than others. It helps if you're raised in a culture that values these skills, like Jews with dark humor, blacks with dancing, the English with singing, etc. but you can get better at anything through study and practice. My advice would be to memorize a few good jokes. And when I say memorize I mean practice telling them over and over. Save them for the right time and spring them without ann…
/r/askTRP05/04/15 02:25 PM
2

Just to be clear: this is NOT what "playing hard to get" looks like. This is stone cold rejection. Your kino game sounds solid. My guess is that you misread how interested in you she was/is. You might want to brush up on reading IOIs. I don't believe that she's simply not over her ex yet or some shit like that. If she liked you then it would have been the perfect rebound.
/r/askTRP05/04/15 02:18 PM
1

Dude, you might have a hard time shaking this chick. You might want to think about going Full Beta to scare her off. Write her a really bad poem or a cheesy ballad. Probably time to open a new thread about how to shake off a crazy chick without having her spraypaint your car. To answer your question, though, I usually start the rough stuff by running my fingers through her hair close to her scalp. Natually, they get caught and I work my fingers out slowly, pulling her head in the process. It's a…
/r/askTRP05/04/15 01:59 PM
2

This right here. You approached a girl. She appreciated it and came back to you later. You didn't get a date out of it, but you talked to one more girl than the other tweebs in your class. You actually managed to make her boyfriend jealous. What he did is known as "mate guarding" and it's beta behavior. An alpha would have come in an introduced himself to you to show her that he has abundance mentality. Now get off the internet, go down to the common area and introduce yourself to 10 more people…
/r/askTRP05/04/15 01:39 PM
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It seems like you came here to get slapped around a bit. The others have scolded you, so I won't belabor the point. I don't think you've failed yet. You do need to get your head straight. Not because you shouldn't fall in love. That part's fun. Enjoy it. The problem is that you need to reign your hopeless romantic side. Steel your frame. Make sure the next time you meet her that your posture is erect, you're not fawning over her, you're making her work for your approval, and most importantly: yo…
/r/askTRP05/04/15 01:28 PM
2

No, I don't agree with what you're saying. I have a high degree of respect for academia. I look at the research they've done and cast a critical eye on their conclusions. I do the same here. I don't take anything on face value. I'd be happy if you provided some examples of the types of spurious reasoning in psychological literature you refer to. Are you talking journals? Most of these tend to be dry and heavily qualified. Textbooks? They usually seem pretty safe to my eyes. Lectures? There, sure…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 05:43 PM
1

I have to say that I was proud of myself that I sniffed out the fake dressing room troll before I even reached the comment section and the truth was revealed. While I was reading this thread I realized that the troll posts inevitably veer into rapey-ness, because at the end of the day their only line of argument is that our mysoginist theories turn innocent young boys into rapists. Of course, they can't find any geniune threads that would support their claims, so they create them and hope we'll …
/r/askTRP03/04/15 05:19 PM
0

But why not play along? I'm not saying do her homework, but agree to do it in exchange for favors. Or just say you're going to do it and don't? Or, and this would be best, do it, but sabotage it somehow.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/15 02:43 PM
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We should change AskTRP to AskWillie. He could end every single thread with "Be more careful next time."
/r/TheRedPill03/04/15 01:57 PM
2

My baptism by fire was soliciting memberships (read: donations) to a environmental org. Door to door is something every man should do once his life. My biggest takeaway was learning to approach and read people. Soon I was comfortable talking to anyone. You learn to recover quickly from rejection, gather yourself and do it all again after the next 30 steps. I got burnt out after 2 months, but it remains the most valuable skill I've ever picked up.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/15 01:40 PM
2

I think it would be a great idea. I'm often halfway through a large post before I realize that the author is in college and, well, shit, those were the days. The last thing I want to do is be the "back in my day" guy, but what else am I going to write? I'm over 40. Although I love young, firm bodies (I was dating a HB9 in her 20s until a few months ago), I'm actually attracted to some women who are "post-wall," but any discussion of a woman over 40 is going to end in wide-scale ridicule. There i…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 12:38 PM
1

To answer you question: it gets better, then it worse, then it gets better, then it gets even better, then it gets a little worse, then it gets a lot better, then something bad happens, then something else bad happens, then your day is just okay, then a nice girl smiles at you, but you blow it, and you go home and learn what you did wrong, etc. You need a system that works for you. I have my best days when I make a list of things to do and carry it around with me. These constant reminders keep m…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 12:27 PM
1

Yes, being bothered this easily by everyone around you is a sign of insecurity. Your rant leads me to believe that you need to work out some anger issues. I would definitely do some deep soul-searching before lashing out in all directions. It could very well be that you are surrounded by a Confederacy of Dunces, but you need to rise above them. Or give us some concrete examples of people who need to be put in their place and we'll give some feedback.
/r/askTRP03/04/15 12:17 PM
1

One thing you'll come to realize is that most conversations are not an actual exchange of ideas, but rather people expressing themselves or engaging in groupthink. In these cases no one is actually going to think about what you say. Rather they're going to try to "beat you" with their winning rhetoric. This shit goes nowhere and all you're doing is exposing yourself as someone who has unconventional views and therefore an "outsider". If you find yourself in an actual conversation with people who…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 12:02 PM
1

Do you best Joe Pesci and say "You're still here? I thought I told you to go fuck your mother."
/r/askTRP03/04/15 11:46 AM
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All jokes and kidding aside, you don't need a prostitute. You need a psychologist. You are making mountains out of molehills. Seeing a hooker is not a big deal. Go on the internet and find a decent one in your area. Set up a date and get it over with. As long as she's not a crack-whore she's going to make sure you use proper protection. Fucking a whore is much more sanitized than you think. Your bigger issue is that you're spinning your wheels. I can hear your gears grinding from here. You need …
/r/askTRP03/04/15 10:53 AM
3

Last things first: "should I tell her bla bla bla?" No, you shouldn't talk to her at all. If you run into her, do your best to act like she's just another entitled below-average chick. Your task -- your only task -- is to ace your exams. Lifting and finding new chicks should be secondary. Whack off repeatedly if you need to, but get your ass to the library and stick your nose in your books. Oh, and get rid of your video games: if it's a console then put it in the closet. If it's computer, then d…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 08:59 AM
1

I don't know how old you are, but I'm in my 40s. Because Tinder puts your age right there front and center I'm sure a lot of girls reject me out of hand who would otherwise be receptive to an approach in person. Anyways, I've been at it for a few weeks now and I've had a dozen matches. I'm actually picky when I swipe, so all my matches are women I wouldn't mind meeting. I met one woman for coffee. We hit it off, but I wasn't in a situation to move on her. I've got another date lined up. In short…
/r/seduction02/04/15 08:12 AM
1

Use your hands when you talk. Make large gestures. From time to time these gestures can end with your hand on her shoulder, like you're emphasizing a point or trying to get her attention. With practice this will seem completely normal, and subconsciously she'll be getting used to the idea of you touching her.
/r/seduction02/04/15 08:00 AM
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Read up on dishabituation. It's how psychologists help their clients deal with phobias and anxiety. The long and short of it is that you need to practice relaxation techniques and then apply these techniques in the presence of your anxiety.
/r/seduction30/03/15 01:07 PM
1

What they want to see is passion. If you're a lame-ass stoner who lies around on the couch all day then she'll be happy to push your buttons to get a rise out of you. She isn't looking for anger as much as signs of life. If you live your life passionately, then she'll see you ripping a guitar solo on stage, or competing in the ring, or on the court, and she won't feel the urge to get a rise out of you. Always maintain your frame and the abundance mentality. A woman who makes you angry is not one…
/r/askTRP30/03/15 09:12 AM
7

But that's precisely the point! You're not looking for a new phone, so this guy didn't have what you wanted. If someone came up to me right now, however, and tried to sell me boxing gloves I'd be grateful, because I happen to be looking for a pair. You wouldn't know that by looking at me, so you run customers/chicks through the pan to find a nugget.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/15 10:17 AM
1

It is to them.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 09:35 AM
-1

Come up with some kind of uniquely American experience. Like, take her to the batting cages and put her in the slow pitch softball cage. Then give her some tips on her swing (hint).
/r/askTRP26/03/15 05:14 PM
1

Your attitude should be the same as it always is: you do not give a fuck. Look at it as a good chance to work on maintaining your frame. Eye contact, controlled reactions, slow steady commanding voice.
/r/askTRP26/03/15 05:09 PM
2

Getting out in the world and meeting people who get things done -- which is what happens when you volunteer your time -- is one of the best things you can do. My memories of going out and getting drunk have faded over time, but I remember serving food in a soup kitchen 30 years ago like it was yesterday. I take my kids out to walk the dogs at my city's largest shelter every month or so. If you need a utilitarian reason to do good things then I can tell you that you will get a genuine feeling of …
/r/askTRP26/03/15 05:02 PM
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Because when you get right down to it there's nothing that radical taking place here. There are some unpleasant truths, like the fact that women will cheat, and lie about being raped, and flirt with their boyfriend's best friend, and choose the guy with the bigger biceps more often than not, etc. Society is an artificial construction that needs people to play by the rules to maintain order. Some of these rules contradict our natural instincts. Society's keepers of the peace feed people -- partic…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 04:48 PM
6

You're right that most people are trite and boring, and they suck you dry. But there are cool, interesting people out there. You just need to go find them and bring something to the party. Meetup.com is a great place to start. You play guitar, can't you find anyone to jam with? You're very young, and the world is cruel to young males. As for chicks, I truly believe that even a blind squirrel finds a nut from time to time. Again, your value as a man is just starting to rise. I went through a very…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 12:22 PM
0

Well, Nightwing is just a Robbin post-Red Pill, right?
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 11:45 AM
5

Not just that, but the comedian brought him up onto the stage, so it seemed like OP was an actual performer. The other women in the audience surely liked what they saw, measured Nightwing against their own date and Nightwing's date got a rush of pride. Hard to go wrong there. Who the hell cares if your hair got messed up? She doesn't, that's for sure.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 11:36 AM
2

Do you really think she cares if you "let" her sleep around? Unless she's caring for your child she's going to do whatever she wants and tell you what she thinks you want to hear.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 03:44 PM
4

This is the best, most fruitful post I've ever read at RP. I'm in my mid-40s, and after a divorce and break-up of an LTR I'm doing some soul-searching and thinking about whether I can handle multiple plates. Your post was right on time and extremely useful, not to mention well written. The difference between us is that I have two kids who take up roughly half my free time. My LTR fell apart partly because she couldn't deal with my kids. Your post really gave me food for thought. For the record, …
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 04:06 PM
2

Wanderlust. Illusions of becoming a writer, which meant I had to experience the world. Then I realized I fit in in Europe much better than in the States and I still feel that way.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 02:26 PM
1

Or even something as trivial as an OkCupid rating is a shit test.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 12:27 PM
6

I grew up in the US and now I live in eastern Europe, so I've got a pretty good perspective. The main difference is the level of entitlement in the west. This idea that every girl deserves a big fat diamond ring on her wedding day. My ex-wife (from EE) would get these looks of pity from other women when we were in the States when they saw her pathetic gold ring with a small inlaid rock. She thought their rings were gaudy. But one thing is true: there are plenty of betas (Momma's boys, to be more…
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 10:16 AM
1

I honestly wonder how women even work out these ratings in their heads. We know they can't do math. So what does it even mean if they rate a guy 2 out of 5 versus 3 out of 5?
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 09:06 AM
-2

No one who plays the race card should be complemented on their rhetoric.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 08:39 AM
1

If you're going to explore in this direction you certainly need to tackle the Soviet Union. During World War II, the Soviets put their women, even teenagers, to work, while the Nazis kept their women at home. Obviously, there are many variables, but it's hard to argue that the Reds didn't put their extra "manpower" to work, much as the US had Rosie the Riveter, etc.
/r/askTRP19/03/15 10:23 AM
5

I'm in a similar state with my apartment. I need bookshelves and some cabinets. I'm going to move on it this Saturday or else 10 approaches on Saturday night.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 04:22 PM
1

I think you nailed it. Deep down most chicks just want the evening to be completed without a hitch. Multiple orgasms are a nice bonus, but she wants to feel good about what happened. She knows her friends are going to take her orgasm report with a grain of salt, but they can see that the man has a high SMV, ergo the sex was "amazing" as long as it wasn't bad.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 03:09 PM
1

That all being said, the real question is, why would you not want to get good in bed? I think it's more about analyzing why she won't return your call. Was I bad in bed? Should I do something different next time? Why is it that my gf doesn't get excited anymore when I am doing the same things I always did?
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 03:02 PM
5

Online dating is good for exactly one thing: it convinces you to go out into the real world.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 02:35 PM
1

It's just conversation. They're living vicariously through you. Start having fun with it. "Oh, yeah, I met a great gal this weekend. I'm going to pop the question any day now."
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 02:32 PM
1

That's what happened to me. When I look back it feels like a train that was rolling down the track and I just accepted that this was the one true way forward.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 02:31 PM
1

Let's go through the list, shall we? Okay Prom night, 2002? Rape. He was a jerk and told all his friends I swallowed. New Year's Eve, 2003? Rape, no, wait, that guy was cute and he sent a text message. Consensual...
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 02:05 PM
2

Isn't that how every story should end?
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 02:01 PM
1

They regret everything they do! It's amazing they don't blame us for that bar of chocolate after lunch "just this once." That's what happens when you live by your emotions.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 01:37 PM
1

The best thing I've learned is to stop apologizing. I realized my speech was littered with "I'm sorry". Also, posture, eye contact and slowing down my walk and my speech.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:10 PM
1

Lists and schedules. When I'm bad it's usually because I don't feel like working and I look for distractions. I pull out my list and get at it.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:07 PM
2

Love is merely a euphemism for attraction. As with all terminology, women will use this word to disguise their true feelings. My favorite is when they write things like "I still love him so much, but I'm not attracted to him anymore." Translation: I want to fuck someone else, but I feel guilty about it because he's paying the mortgage and I'd be really pissed off if a guy I truly loved cheated on me."
/r/askTRP18/03/15 11:56 AM
1

You have had at least two girlfriends, so you're obviously not quasi moto. You can add bulk. You can also act more manly. You can also study martial arts to boost your confidence. You've had your "poor me" group hug. Now get to the gym. Oh, and chicks really dig the Native American thing if it's done right. Own it.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 11:32 AM
3

I'd guess you could translate it like this: "Just because I'm on Tinder and we matched doesn't automatically mean that this is a sex date."
/r/askTRP18/03/15 11:26 AM
1

That's my take, also. If he was going to start something with you he would have simply jumped you. There is a funny thing about the brain. Ever notice how there seem to be "talkers" and "doers" in life? People who talk about what they are going to do often fool their brain into thinking that the event actually happened. This is a perfect case of this happening. He got a lot of his anger towards you out of his system. He's still pissed off, but he feels like he got his revenge on you. The only re…
/r/askTRP18/03/15 11:21 AM
1

This right here. I did karate in college and it did wonders for my confidence, my body, and my status.
/r/seduction17/03/15 11:24 AM
1

Think of it as practice. Keep your expectations low because the best chicks there will be likely be fives and sixes, maybe a seven or two if you live in a bigger city. However, I wouldn't be embarrassed about going there. Think of it as practice. Try out some things you've read about.
/r/askTRP11/03/15 04:34 PM
1

That's some scary shit. I hope your friend gets a second chance.
/r/askTRP11/03/15 02:08 PM
3

Although I appreciate the words of encouragement, the idea was to get some case studies and worst practices.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 04:09 PM
3

Restrict the amount of time that you spend with her so that she does not associate you with boredom. Resist the urge to just "hang out" or ask "I don't know, what do you want to do?" Always be the person in her life who brings energy and excitement, and make her work for your affection.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 02:29 PM
0

The truth is good if it brings you some fruitful information. All you did was violate her trust and make yourself crazy, all to simply confirm what the Red Pill has made abundantly clear. What exactly have you gained from all this? I would not confront your wife with this ancient history. Deal with it however you need to. Like I said, I would go see a shrink if it's interfering with your life or sleeping patterns.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 02:24 PM
2

I'd take it as a huge red flag and tell her to get her own place. I had a similar rude awakening when my girlfriend refused to move in with me. Then I'd stop considering her a girlfriend and change her status to "plate".
/r/askTRP10/03/15 12:47 PM
1

Why would you bail? You're still attracted to your wife and your sex life is decent (or, at least, you seem satisfied). You are an idiot for reading her diaries and you got what you deserved. Go see a shrink to help you get over hang-ups (mine helped me a lot, so I speak from experience). As for her weight gain, that's a tricky one. You might have to simply drag her to the gym with you and get her a personal trainer.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 12:45 PM
5

She is 29 and sits in the desk next to mine. I should add that I just spent the last five minutes massaging her neck. ETA: I'm in Europe, so lawsuits are not a worry.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 12:33 PM
3

An important thing to remember is that many high-quality chicks will never be officially single because they simply can't bear the thought of being alone, so one who is flirting with you is as available as she will ever be.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 12:08 PM
1

Ballsy move. Said with a smirk or sincerity?
/r/askTRP10/03/15 11:59 AM
2

Tough one. I'd say that you should always be getting more than last time. But at some point -- and by that I mean some point soon -- she needs to be touching your dick. If you're not getting that far then next her. If she's willing to do everything but go all the way then you can still have a lot of fun and eventually she'll be ready.
/r/askTRP09/03/15 12:47 PM
5

When a girl tells you to stop, your reaction has to be to pull back, not "rip her pants off." That shit can get you in hot water, and in any case there is much better chance you'll get what you want 15 minutes later after you re-engage. Don't even think about making this girl and LTR. She is messing around with every guy she sees. Imagine how paranoid you'd get when she's not around. Like Soultrane said, you need to cut off contact. She may come back around if she really likes you, but probably …
/r/askTRP09/03/15 12:34 PM
2

I'm going tonight, but rock and roll dancing. I'll try salsa later in the week. Similar to this, and even more intimate, is a Tantra meet-up (I am translating this from another language because I'm not sure how it is written in English). Same idea as speed dating except it's slower and much more intimate, something between massage and erotic touching. You're not going to find many women about a six or maybe seven, but it's an enjoyable event, especially if you're in the middle of a dry spell and…
/r/seduction09/03/15 09:31 AM
1

You should have been escalating the kino the entire night so that there were no illusions about why accompanied her home. The moment the two of you walked through the door there should have been immediate passion and clothes coming off.
/r/seduction09/03/15 09:21 AM
1

Don't be an idiot. Find a skin doctor.
/r/seduction09/03/15 09:12 AM
3

She wants you to take her out and do something fun. You need to create some excitement. It sounds like you could lose her very quickly if you haven't already. You need to step up your game.
/r/seduction09/03/15 09:06 AM
2

That's your answer then. Slow....down.... Slow is sexy to women, and it will also help you to speak in a lower tone and to think more before you speak. This is something you can practice and improve.
/r/seduction09/03/15 08:53 AM
1

It doesn't really matter what you ask a chick. If you're awesome then she'll be responsive to even the most mundane shit. You need to improve yourself and then, at the end of class, look around for the chick who is lingering in the hopes that you'll approach her. Then you should tease the hell out of her.
/r/seduction09/03/15 08:24 AM
1

Be the guy who is always doing stuff. Find cool places and things to do and then start inviting cool, happening people to join you. Most people are followers (read: beta) and will be grateful that you take the burden of leadership.
/r/askTRP06/03/15 06:05 PM
1

Slap yourself. Not for fucking up with the text, but for thinking you have any chance with this chick. What is a stronger word than "next"?
/r/askTRP06/03/15 05:49 PM
1

Dry spells happen and then they end. Your value is high and will continue to rise for years. Deep breath and get back in the game
/r/seduction06/03/15 05:29 PM
3

This guy was either taken or not into you. As a girl you did the heavy lifting by engaging him. He made it clear that he wasn't interested. With guys they usually decide if they like a girl in a matter of seconds so if he rudely pulls out his phone after you approached him then it is a pretty clear sign.
/r/seduction06/03/15 05:25 PM
5

Giving complements, trying to be smart (go for fun instead), failing to find fun things to do
/r/seduction06/03/15 05:12 PM
0

Dancing. Always go for the active date. It removes the pressure of constantly having to generate conversation and it feels like something is happening
/r/seduction06/03/15 05:08 PM
1

The legends are true. You are entering your prime as a potential mate in the eyes of nubiles of all ages.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 04:27 PM
1

Pessimistic? I threw in an extra chick at no extra cost! But it sounds like this exercise helped you decide on what you wanted, so call it a success.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 11:54 AM
1

Dedicate more time to girl #1. Fuck her as much as you can in the hopes that you get sick of fucking her so that it will sting less when she leaves you. Girl 2 gets the scraps. Girl 3 is fun and exciting, better than either of them.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 10:19 AM
1

I can see you're completely enthralled by her company. I would skip the LTR stage and just flat out propose.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 09:32 AM
1

That's why I keep a journal. I dump all my insecurities in there and it feels like I've told someone. I wallow for a while, until it gets boring, and then I start making lists of things I want to do. When I'm good I write an essay. I do a lot of writing as part of my job, so it's also a good way to keep my writing skills sharp.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 09:30 AM
1

I've heard the book is even harder core. Anyone read it?
/r/askTRP26/02/15 09:24 AM
1

You have probably read that weed isn't addictive. It's not in the sense that you can stop smoking without huge withdrawal symptoms. However, it is a habit, and right now you need to establishing good habits. If you're not the type to kick cold turkey then treat yourself on a weekend night. Like others have said, stay away from shrooms unless it's a super special occasion.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 09:10 AM
1

It's just her personality. Some/most cute girls realize that they can have men eating out of their hand. It gives her a thrill. She's manipulating you, and if you hid in the bushes you'd see her doing it to another guy within five minutes.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 09:04 AM
3

Kino, my friend. Kino, and all will be revealed. Read up. Edit: and discretion. Stop giving your friends field reports.
/r/askTRP25/02/15 10:02 AM
4

She wasn't your girlfriend. She was a chick who was wasting your time.
/r/askTRP25/02/15 09:58 AM
1

I find that charting out my day helps me get more done. Try making a list every day and keeping that list on you. One thing you might try to break your bad habits is mental association. They teach this to addicts. Basically, every time you think of doing something pleasurable yet unhealthy, picture the object of your desire in your mind and then distort it so that it becomes grotesque. So if you are thinking of eating a Twinkie then imagine that twinkie turning into a pile of orange dog shit. Wi…
/r/askTRP25/02/15 09:28 AM
2

Not to mention, DON'T IMPREGNATE A LUNATIC
/r/askTRP25/02/15 09:16 AM
1

I don't think it's the fapping so much as the visual stimulation that fucks with guys. Fapping is healthy, porn is not. The trick is that most guys at this point go online when they want to jack off. De-coupling the two is critical.
/r/askTRP25/02/15 09:05 AM
2

You're right, and you're doing everything you should. You're getting this woman out of your life. She should stay out of your life. But you don't need to be a complete asshole. End things with dignity. I would take the call from her mother. Mom is probably concerned about her daughter. Reassure her that the break-up is for the best and the situation is irreconcilable. Tell you ex your the same. Get off the phone quickly if the conversation devolves, but be an adult.
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:48 PM
1

Back off. It's not your problem. All you're doing is backing him into a corner. He's going to get defensive and block you out. People make big changes in their lives on their terms. Give him space. Be honest to him, but only when he asks. At most you should present him a better vision of his own future than the one currently facing him.
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:40 PM
2

I would answer the same as when someone asked me what they can do about back pain: preventative medicine. By that I mean that the best way to cure back pain is to strengthen your back so that it doesn't get tired when you're sitting for long periods of time. It's the same with stress. Meditate in your free time and work on your breathing. When a stressful situation arises you will know how to control your breathing and relax yourself. Stress is, of course, mental, but its effects are manifested …
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:33 PM
1

Own it. Your mates may give you some shit for it. So what?
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:28 PM
3

Sounds like she's good to you and that she is love with you. As long as you keep your frame then this orbiter shouldn't be much of a threat. Try to keep your emotions in check. I wouldn't consider her a potential wife. Can you plate her? Sounds like she's already doing your bidding.
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:24 PM
2

Don't be surprised if this woman stops answering your calls, but you can try again with her. With luck she'll believe that the next time will be better, but don't get your hopes up. Women hate guys who can't come through once they've agreed. Try not to beat yourself up. The cliche is true: it happens to almost every guy. Lay off the porn and get back on that horse. The next time will be better.
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:18 PM
3

Save all your money and move to Japan. You can teach english there and make enough money to get by and learn the language. Once you master Japanese the whole world will open up to you.
/r/askTRP24/02/15 03:14 PM
2

Put it this way: would she be SHOCKED!!! if you made a move?
/r/askTRP23/02/15 03:56 PM
3

I think you're forgetting how many dead marriages there are. I could imagine a lot of guys simply no longer care what their fat-ass wives do as long as they have to listen to less of their bullshit. I was in a dead marriage. I bit the bullet and got divorced. Left her the apartment because of the kids and started over with nothing. I got no sympathy for the chumps of this world who refuse to remove themselves from their sorry states.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 10:29 AM
2

My take exactly. A score like this should be a major boost in confidence, not a reason to beat yourself up. We are talking about a hot chick who has no problem matching up on Tinder for an ONS. Easy-cum-easy-go.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 08:33 AM
2

Look for clubs and activities. There are people doing things, but you need to hunt a little to find them. Shouldn't be that hard on a campus. To answer your question: a little socializing goes a long way. There is little benefit to getting high and playing Fallout.
/r/askTRP22/02/15 10:59 AM
2

Dude, trust me, she "got it". You're a talker, so she talked to you. Your social butterfly status is good. keep it. Contrary to what you may think, you want girls to think that you're with all the girls. They will say it like a negative thing, but it's actually positive because it displays your value. What you need to work on is reading IOIs. Then kinoing and escalating. Hone in on the girls who are receptive to you.
/r/askTRP22/02/15 10:56 AM
1

Put it this way: if you don't go to college, then you'd better be ready to bust your ass as an entrapreneur. It depends what you don't like about high school. College is different. You aren't stuck in classes all day like in high school, which is often more like day care than education. College is also the biggest selection of quality poon you'll ever see in your life. Someone mentioned learning a trade. I think this is a fantastic idea. Become an electrician or a plumber and start up your own b…
/r/askTRP22/02/15 10:45 AM
1

It's a girlfriend so yeah, try everything. As long as you're clearly physically superior to her then I don't see why she would lose respect for you. In any case, who cares? I actually believe that raunchy bedroom stuff is a sign that you're losing attraction for her (or the other way around, or both). It's like taking drugs to make your everyday life more exciting. When I'm truly attracted to a woman I want to get down to business. The bondage stuff is exciting, in a way, but I don't find it ver…
/r/askTRP22/02/15 10:28 AM
66

The Red Pill doesn't exist to deny the fact that the warm fuzzies are real. Puppy love is great. Enjoy it while it lasts. The Red Pill exists to answer the question "hey, what is happening between me and my girlfriend? I used to enjoy holding hands and staring into her eyes for hours on end, but now it's not the same and I feel like I'm wasting my time and that she is kind of looking around for someone else." It's good that you're questioning Red Pill philosophy. You should question everything. …
/r/askTRP22/02/15 10:15 AM
1

I'm sure there's some truth in what you say, but my case is so different that we'd be getting way off topic. I'm 44, divorced with two kids. She's a 26 year old bombshell who fell in love with me when i was teaching her a course at a business school. The sex is out of this world, even after 3 years. I don't want to marry her, and i don't want more kids, so the way I see it I'm playing with house money at this point. She breaks up with me now and again and (thanks to Red Pill knowledge!) I act li…
/r/askTRP21/02/15 10:13 AM
1

"Well, look at the time!"
/r/askTRP20/02/15 04:08 PM
2

If you're a bright guy who is self-motivated then you should go down the entrepreneurial path. How you get there is for you to figure out, but you should definitely get out of school if you're only there to become a comedian. You don't need a degree to do that. Chicago is a tough place (i grew up in the suburbs) if you don't fit in. There's no shame in leaving town, with your tail between your legs or otherwise. With that said, don't be surprised if you encounter a similar level of frustration w…
/r/askTRP20/02/15 04:05 PM
1

Are you addressing me or the OP?
/r/askTRP20/02/15 03:52 PM
1

There are many central European countries that are in the EU that have phenomenal chicks littered all over their cities. Hungary and Poland are the two best. So don't discount Europe on the whole just because Germany and Austria are full of dogs.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 03:01 PM
0

"When she was 22, her future looked bright. but she's nearly 30 now and she's out every night." An ironic song that actually got it right.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 02:46 PM
2

Come on, man, don't be so pessimistic! A few hundred million would probably suffice.
/r/askTRP20/02/15 02:12 PM
1

Acting. It's a skill that will you will employ every day of your life. Women love performers. The confidence to perform in front of a crowd will carry over into your social endeavors.
/r/askTRP20/02/15 01:55 PM
3

Swimmers are famous for having great bodies, especially their shoulders, so I'm not sure that adding mass is going to make a huge difference in your ability to score. You'd be much better served, IMO, working on your social skills, dressing better, buying a car/motorcycle, etc. Come to think of it, the studliest athletes where I live currently are the water polo players. Those guys have the chicks eating out of their hands. Can you get into that? Lifting weights is great advice, but it's much mo…
/r/askTRP20/02/15 01:51 PM
0

Are we really using a beta bux as our example of a guy with a gf? I could link to dozens of RP posts where guys don't buy any gifts for their plates. This is apples to oranges.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 01:38 PM
8

The argument that you pay a hooker less than a girlfriend doesn't hold any water. You pay a hooker by the hour, whereas a good gf will spend an entire weekend with you and the sex is better because you believe it's real (yes, go ahead and throw your tomatoes, but good real sex beats great fake sex). Get married and buy the girl a huge diamond and a house and a car? sure, that gets pricy. But that's apples to oranges because a wife is going to bear your children. I've been paying whores for 20 ye…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 01:34 PM
3

Also known as "no contact". I've gone into "no contact" with my recent girlfriend, who had actually no contacted me first ALL 4 TIMES that we broke up. Every single time I thought it was over and that no contact actually favored her because he natural inclination was to go silent every time she was unhappy. All 4 times she came back to me (maybe I pinged her once or twice. I honestly don't remember) after a week to 4 weeks. The point is that your no contact ploy may actually be working and you d…
/r/askTRP20/02/15 01:18 PM
1

It's how you imagine it to be. Lots of oil, lots of caressing. Good stuff if you like to have long sessions. As I get older I shoot less often, so this type of stuff is gold.
/r/askTRP19/02/15 12:26 PM
1

People talk and engage for many reasons. Unfortunately, it is rarely to exchange knowledge. In general, try not to argue with people even if you disagree with what they're saying. Think along with them. Smart people who have real insight will take you somewhere cool. Ride along and absorb everything you can. Stupid people will hang themselves with the rope you give them. It's all about tact and keeping yourself in an uncommitted position until you have a clear play.
/r/askTRP19/02/15 12:07 PM
2

I would push to meet the boyfriend. See how they interact. See how the two of you stack up. Be his bud and act like the girl isn't all that. If he's cool then you have two new friends. If he's a stud then you bow out gracefully. But if he's a lameass beta...
/r/askTRP19/02/15 11:55 AM
1

I'd become the most selfish motherfucker who ever lived and not give two shits about it. Everything from that point on would be on my terms and I'd demand as much sex as I wanted. And when she got boring . .. oh, right, she's a unicorn, she never gets boring. my bad. Since she's a unicorn I'd hang on her every word, soaking up as much knowledge as I could before venturing out into the world. What exactly is the question? Kind of like how I live now.
/r/askTRP19/02/15 11:24 AM
2

She's like this after two fucking weeks? Dude, she's not stable. I know you worked hard for this action and want a return on your investment, but you need to next this chick. Your future with her will feature some sex and a shitload of drama. You have been warned.
/r/askTRP19/02/15 11:11 AM
1

yes, on all counts. Video games give you a false sense of accomplishment. All of the things I listed will drain your energy in unproductive activities. But hey, I sympathize. I am like a crack addict when it comes to Crusader Kings II. You asked why you don't feel motivated and my answer is that you're probably letting unproductive activities leach away your motivation. College life is awesome. Go get a buzz reading through an interesting section of the library. Then go to a common area and find…
/r/askTRP18/02/15 10:32 PM
2

Yeah, I've got a woman like that too. She's awesome. Yesterday we broke up for the 5th time. The Red Pill helps me understand what's happening, why, and why I should let her go without a fight. She'll either come back or she won't, but it will be on my terms because I already have two kids from my first wife and I'm not interested in any more of either. Am I being misogynistic? Or am I a realist? In my times of weakness, Red Pill knowledge keeps me from throwing my life savings at this amazing w…
/r/askTRP18/02/15 04:10 PM
1

I would try a few things if I were you: 1. Drink less 2. Smoke less dope 3. Sleep a little more 4. Give up your other sources of artificial stimulation, such as video games and porn Then see how you feel. And drop the "I'll be happy working 9 to 5" nonsense. That world exists less and less. You need to be setting yourself up to succeed by gaining as many valuable skills as you can.
/r/askTRP18/02/15 03:57 PM
3

Try pulling back and see what happens. If she flakes on your upcoming weekend then it's over. Otherwise, I wouldn't jump to conclusions. You never know for sure what's going on behind the scenes. Just be Joe Cool and let her show you what's up. Never be a source of drama for women unless you need to enact some dread game.
/r/askTRP18/02/15 03:23 PM
2

There is a short (and skinny) guy in my office (I'm roughly average height) who absolutely kills it with the ladies. We went out together to a concert in a club and I got to see him in action. As soon as the music started he was pulling any dame he liked onto the dancefloor. One said no, the other two danced and he was in. You don't have to be the life of the party, but you do have to approach. Stop looking at how other guys are getting the ladies and figure out what works for you. And whatever …
/r/askTRP18/02/15 03:15 PM
2

Think about the great alpha dogs in history? How many of them were of great physical stature? Sure, the early tribal leaders who led men into battle. But it's much more important nowadays to be charismatic and to have a vision that you can get people to buy into. This goes to the heart of what the red pill is selling: figure out who you are and what you want and fucking go balls out to obtain it. So many men today have succumbed to the system. They are taught to heal at a young age by a society …
/r/askTRP18/02/15 10:12 AM
1

Looks like everything is going all right. Just be sure that you take nights for yourself regularly. Make it clear that you have interests that are your own and she should respect that. It becomes too much of a burden to with someone (anyone for that matter) every day.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 04:31 PM
8

Dude, run away from that crazy broad. Spending all her husband's money to take you to restaurants? WTF? Next time she calls tell her that you're busy looking for a girlfriend.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 04:25 PM
-1

Assuming that you want to keep her, you need to put a little fear into her. It's time for some strong dread game. She believes she can spout off to you -- ie treat you like shit -- whenever she wants and there won't be any consequences. Now I'm not saying you should argue with her or intimidate her. Just the opposite. You need to pull away from her and make her believe that you could dump her for a better chick any time you wanted. Less communication. More time away from her. Then sit back and s…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 11:51 AM
2

I'm in my 40s and still have my hair, so you damn well better believe women are going to see it. I think that would be my advice: if you have hair, then grow it and style it. Maximum points if you can grow it long and still look macho. You always want to stand out.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 11:42 AM
2

I feel for you. It's hard to suffer fools. I would just make it clear to the person who brought her along that she's annoying and shouldn't be invited. It's not like she is hot and someone's trying to get in her pants. I don't think there's a good answer. I tend to get really sarcastic towards people like that, but I'm not sure that's the right thing to do. One guy on these boards said that one way to deal with annoying chicks is to call out to the group "Okay, who brought their little sister al…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 11:34 AM
1

Having a reputation as a player is a good thing. If a girl truly wanted to be with you then she'd find an excuse to look past your reputation. She'd try to change you, or it would be a "just this one time because I'm drunk" hook up. By the way, younger chicks are neither better or worse than older ones on the whole. They just have more value and therefore they can get away with more bullshit. My girlfriend is 26 and she's much wiser and more reasonable than most women in their 30s and 40s.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 11:23 AM
1

Yup, some asshole wants to push his weight around and so he looks for the easiest target. On the other hand, it really is a no win situation for the bigger guy if the fight actually goes down. He is expected to win, so the only thing that can happen is that he gets embarrassed by a little man. You need to learn how to fight. Confidence in your abilities will help you keep your frame in these types of situations. Sparring will also teach you to not fear a fight as much, even if you're clearly ove…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 10:45 AM
1

It's not about being demanding, it's about understanding what happened. You were just a pit stop along her journey, a nice safe haven where she could get some cheap intimacy while looking around for a more promising guy. She may ping you during a moment of weakness. Don't burn the bridge if you liked what you were getting from her. Basically she was a fuckbuddy. You can get away with that if you're serious alpha motherfucker. Otherwise, you need to put more effort into making her life exciting. …
/r/askTRP17/02/15 10:19 AM
2

First of all, don't tell her you love her. There's no upside there. You've only been together a month and there's no going back from that. Second, the fastest way to get into her pants would be to pull away. Some dread, some push-pull, you need to make her nervous that she's going to lose you. The fear for her is two-fold: one, some other chick will take you (a status hit for her); and second, then she has to start over with another guy (inexperienced women crave that comfort level). Like others…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 09:51 AM
2

I've been there. Our stories are almost exactly the same. Listen, you need to get yourself a good sex therapist. You are past the point of simple fixes. You can try upping the dose of your cialis, but you don't want to stay on that the rest of your life. What worked for me with my girlfriend (although I am still not sure how I would do on a ONS) is a lot of relaxation exercises. Meditation, yoga, etc. I can now have sex with my gf whenever I want without meds. Also, a big step was to take the fo…
/r/askTRP16/02/15 03:06 PM
1

You listen to the Smiths on an endless loop...
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:55 PM
2

If I told you that I hit on a girl at work by buying her a teddy bear would you tell me I'm some super Alpha who is surely about to get in the girl's pants?
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:53 PM
2

The only thing you did wrong was to get sucked into her fairy tale. It was never going to work, but you decided to ride the wave until it crashes. Well, it crashed. Find a new wave.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:38 PM
2

It bothers you because you like her. You shouldn't try to avoid every instance of discomfort in your life. Maybe it's me, but I believe that the goal of swallowing the red pill is not to flush every semblance of emotion out of your life. It's to be aware of what is happening and take control of (and responsibility for) your actions. In this case, you want to eat your cake and have it to. You're aware of this contradiction, but you don't want to face the consequences. Personally, I would keep her…
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:31 PM
1

I worked in three restaurants when I was a teenager. In two of them I banged a hostess or waitress. All of them resulted in drama. But I don't regret a thing!
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:23 PM
0

Oh, Internet how I love the! Simple yes or no question answered and he gets -4 score. How dare you respond with the improper opinion!
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:19 PM
2

That was my reaction as well. Dadoma, she is a 6. On your scale. A 6 is a chick that you fuck if you do not have access to anyone better. She wants you. She just doesn't want to feel like a slut. Yes, you can buy her a drink. Yes, you can take her back to your room. Yes, she will let you kiss her. From there you should escalate, but don't be surprised if she stops you at some point.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:13 PM
14

She's moving on. She has told you in so many words. She really likes you, but she has decided to end it. You know this is true, you just don't want to believe it because it hurts. Let it go. Take a break from women for a while because it will take a while for you to get over the big love of your life. It will sting for a while, but you'll get over her in a few months or so (my guess). Here's the hard part: you need to cut off contact with her. She'll cling to you because you are a source of secu…
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:04 PM
2

Or he's asking for the number before properly laying the groundwork. He's approaching, spitting some average game and then giving the girl an out by asking for her number.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 01:54 PM
2

Are you sure you're not shying away from the girls you truly like? If so, that's a natural fear of rejection that we all have to get over. If you don't then you're always going to sell yourself short (unless you get extremely lucky)
/r/askTRP16/02/15 12:10 PM
3

you need to read up on kino and escalation. A girl who goes back to your room may want you to try and maybe she doesn't, but she knows it's in the cards and therefore there won't be any surprises, just acceptance or rejection. Always keep in mind that she's probably as clueless as you are at this age.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 12:06 PM
3

Nonsense. You just surprised her and she didn't understand what you said. Eastern European women are the best in the world by far. They are approachable and feminine. Dates are far cheaper here and entitlement is far lower. Game is game. Language and cultural barriers present their own challenges, but on the whole the pickings are far better here than in the States.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 03:46 PM
1

Take a deep breath, relax, and remember that there are lots of successful people in the world who were lost like you at your age. I strongly suggest building skills until you figure out what kind of career you want. Learn Spanish. or join a theater group (acting = public performance, is a great skill), do some volunteer work to buff up your resume. I went to Europe to teach English 20 years ago and I'm still here. One thing I can tell you is that the women are much better. I happen to like the l…
/r/askTRP13/02/15 02:51 PM
1

None of this sounds too decisive. I'll let others decipher it for you. However, I would strongly recommend you to stop mentioning drugs in your messages. Lots of downside, no upside. I don't care what any chicks say, they don't want a guy whose plans for the evening are "hitting up my dealer".
/r/askTRP13/02/15 02:44 PM
1

It's a new job and everyone's excited. Relax. Be cool. Let her show everyone that she's a spaz. You're cold as ice. Nothing phases you. Don't neg her. Stay out of office politics -- at least until you have a clear play to make. You're acting like you're in high school. If this chick acts immature in your presence, just make eye contact with the others, take a deep breath and continue like she isn't there.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 02:35 PM
1

You need to hit the eject button like yesterday. Nobody in your life should be calling you a piece of shit. Nobody. Get out and don't look back. It's not only that you're unhappy - she is also unhappy. She has lost all attraction towards you, and therefore respect. What to learn from this? Well, start with the old cliche that "people treat you how you let them treat you." You need to man up. Second, be with people who lift you up, not tear you down. Third, don't argue with women. Agree and ampli…
/r/askTRP13/02/15 02:27 PM
8

You were obviously bent out of shape. It's not unusual, but you're only kidding yourself if you think it wasn't obvious. Your "I'm not upset" texts were defensive. Beta. Understandable but butt hurt. Then you assumed a condescending tone. I would never do that because I would never want to be in a relationship where I had to treat my woman like a child. However, there are some around here who think that's how you should treat your lady. Your call. IMO, if you can't trust your lady to hang out wi…
/r/askTRP13/02/15 02:04 PM
1

You're rusty and going through a dry spell. Your lack of confidence is holding you back. There's no reason to panic. I suggest that you focus on socializing more than gaming until your conversation skills are more fluid. Get your mojo back and stop putting so much pressure on yourself. And remember: being single has its advantages. Do the shit most girlfriends will keep you from doing, like going with the guys on a road trip.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 10:10 AM
1

In our minds we all come up with the perfect response. In the field, however, things are different. I often wonder if the best response, if you can't come up with something witty, is silence and a staring contest.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 10:03 AM
2

So true. We spend a lot of time ranting about useless bitches, but not enough time talking about shedding negative bros as well.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 03:46 PM
4

I don't even care if this really happened. You made my day.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 03:41 PM
6

Sob Don't you just love happy endings?
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 03:39 PM
6

You're forgetting one crucial detail: a man's value rises with time, while a woman's drops, especially once she starts pumping out kids. I married a solid 9 (and had to deal with a lot of external pressure from other men orbiting her), but I eventually left her when we both turned 40. She kept enough value to secure another guy our age, while I moved on to a young honey.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 03:33 PM
1

Whatever you did, own it. Your frame and value are much more important to women than any indiscretion. Women forgive unfaithful men all the time. Stand tall. And get past the oneitis. She's just one chick. The fact that you're bowing down to her will not serve you well.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 03:23 PM
1

I can't believe I'm actually writing this, but at some point you need to deck one of them. If this will end up with you getting pummeled then you need to learn how to fight. Or get new friends. But you need to hit the gym and learn how to fight regardless.
/r/askTRP12/02/15 02:48 PM
1

This is a very important and real possibility. Many awesome people are also suffering from depression. She's getting counseling, which is good, but this might be something that plagues her (and therefore you) the rest of her life. Saying yes to her means accepting this possibility.
/r/askTRP12/02/15 02:26 PM
4

In this case teasing is wasted on her because she has already rejected him. There should be no illusions: this was a rejection. If she liked him she would have moved heaven and earth to be there on time and dressed to kill. Hard next. Don't be rude or butt-hurt. Her loss.
/r/askTRP12/02/15 02:08 PM
1

Monk mode for me is committing several hours a day to isolation with a good non-fiction book (often philosophy) and a notebook so that I can get my thoughts straight. Our world is full of short-term decision-making and distractions that can turn you into a zombie. It's one reason that so many guys get married at a young age: they don't stop and think about what they really want. They simply get pulled downstream by social forces. It's why so many guys can't even tell you why they got married. "I…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 01:42 PM
8

And they wonder why on earth we would resort to negging.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 01:56 PM
1

I didn't know James Dolan owns a pizza restaurant, too.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 01:42 PM
1

Yeah, or maybe say nothing at all.
/r/askTRP11/02/15 01:17 PM
2

Maybe try looking at it as research. You need to gather a statistically valid sample size on different approach methods. It's going to take time to tease out all those pesky variables so you'd better get started. Like all good researchers, you need to make sure you're not influencing the results, so be sure to practice outcome independence.
/r/askTRP11/02/15 12:58 PM
3

In all situations you should control how you express your emotions. This does not mean you should suppress your emotions. You scored a great chick and fell in love? Hallelujah! That's the goal, isn't it? Enjoy the warm and fuzzies! Should you celebrate this love by composing a 12-page sonnet and splurging on a wedding ring? Hell no! In front of her, and anyone else for that matter, you are the same cool cat you've always been. You treat her right, you call the shots, you play your role as the ma…
/r/askTRP11/02/15 12:50 PM
1

The simplest way to put it is that the Red Pill offers straight talk. Civilization is full of coded messages because the social contract has created artificial conditions under which you are better off telling people half-truths rather than what you really want to communicate. For example, a man asks a woman "why won't you go to bed with me?" Does the woman respond with a straight answer? Assuming she can even put her finger on the truth and express it eloquently, the answer is "probably not." R…
/r/askTRP11/02/15 11:41 AM
2

Although it's borderline defeatist, I have to agree with this assessment. I would casually give her your contact info and an open invitation if she's in town to drop you a line. She might ping you some day. But all signs are she's not looking at you seriously.
/r/askTRP11/02/15 11:14 AM
9

This topic has been in the news for years in Europe because Sweden really rocked the boat with these laws. Most European countries have criminalized pimping and street-walking, but leave "independents" and their Johns alone for the most part. In most cities, there is still some street activity, but most of the hos have gone online. It works great for everyone because it's much safer for the ladies, while the men set up review sites that give you consumer knowledge. These women are clearly NOT vi…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/15 03:52 PM
1

I'm not sure you can change her behavior. Some people just feel an obsessive need to babble. They literally fear silence. I'll bet that when she's alone at home she has at least one TV on the whole time. My ex-wife was like that. That had better be some explosive and highly frequent sex.
/r/askTRP10/02/15 02:22 PM
1

It depends how you define "rat race". Are you talking about any gainful employment or high pressure, long-hour, race to the VP floor career tracks? AFAIK rat race refers to the latter. I can tell you that there are jobs that are not slave-to-the-grind. However, if you want to climb the corporate ladder, then you need to start young when you have the time and energy to put in those long hours to even compete. After my first fulltime job as a cost accountant you could say I exited the rat race. I …
/r/askTRP10/02/15 02:17 PM
6

View less porn. Jerk off none. Have less sex with girls who don't do it for you. Not sure what else to tell you. A real orgasm is triggered in your mind by arousal, both mental and physical, but the less it's mental then the more you will rely on physical stimulation. In short, and at the risk of winning Captain Obvious of the Year: if you're not enjoying sex then you should have less of it, or look for a better partner. Maybe it's a result of my age (44), but I actually enjoy getting a girl off…
/r/askTRP10/02/15 11:44 AM
1

Any intro to psychology book would give you a lot to chew on. Concepts like homeostasis, biorhythms, and layers of consciousness go a long way help you understand what's going on behind someone's eyes. A good foundation in psychology will help you weed through the PUA and RP concepts with a critical eye. I learn a lot by reading through this sub, but only a fool would take it all in as gospel.
/r/askTRP10/02/15 11:31 AM
1

Find the best library you can and spend all your spare time there. Plunge yourself into the books (stay away from any computers that you could access) and read anything that interests you. Bring a notebook and write down notes, thoughts, plans, anything and everything. Think of it as a cocoon. That's the best advice I can give you.
/r/askTRP10/02/15 11:21 AM
2

That and the fact that I'm as lazy as an old dog in August. My larger point would be that playing office politics is tricky and it can backfire. The moral highground (eg playing team, refusing to undermine your coworkers, etc) has its advantages. Targeting a co-worker as an enemy may sound prudent but it is also distracting. A lot can be said for putting your nose to the grindstone, building positive vibes around you and leaving the office behind when you leave work. Looking for another job is a…
/r/askTRP10/02/15 10:51 AM
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First of all, you are not in a situation of actual scarcity. You live in NYC. The pickings are not going to be better anywhere in the world. Second, here's what you should do: continue with your therapy (I'm assuming it's a psychologist or psychiatrist) until you're right in the head. You're not alone and you're going to get better, but it will take time. It's not fair what your father and grandmother are doing to you. It's hard enough to be patient without the people around you putting even mor…
/r/askTRP10/02/15 10:32 AM
2

This thread is going exactly how I pictured: one or two voices telling the OP to stay focused on his own stuff and everyone else telling him to suit up, lock and load and shoot for bear. I'll just +1 everything unluckypenguin is saying and tell one story: a few years ago I went from the non-profit world into a small start-up. Another guy who joined the team at the same time zeroed in on me as his competition (he admitted this to me after I'd gained his trust) and played office politics every cha…
/r/askTRP10/02/15 10:23 AM
-4

Good. Don't ask. You're better off not getting into it. Let her cry on the shoulder of her gay friend. My point is that there could very well be a rough experience in her past. You're getting free blow jobs. In case you're unclear about this: free blow jobs qualify as good. You know that she's your blow job girl. Call her when you want one.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 04:54 PM
2

It totally works on men because it's a sign that you're thinking clearly. Here's the honest answer: for men, after a brief rise in value, relationships always run downhill. So getting back together with an old gf always results in a brief euphoria, some great make-up sex, and then a realization that actually, she's not that great. It's always better to just move on. We like to choose the short-cut to sex. There's a better chick out there waiting for you. Go find her. Leave this one behind, or na…
/r/askTRP06/02/15 04:49 PM
1

Don't shit where you eat is more of a guideline than a rule. If I were to make an exception it would be to fuck a hot 20 year old intern. She's young and she'll leave soon. As long as you keep everything discrete I think you can move on her.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 04:06 PM
1

If lifting is boring then find a place to box or do MMA. It's about confidence as much as looking good. You need to find a routine that you'll keep so that you don't even question going. It's hardwired into your schedule.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 02:20 PM
1

It wouldn't even be closure. You'd just turn into little bitter bitch whining "But how could you do that to me?" and you'd hate yourself even more.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 02:16 PM
3

I don't think the situation is that dire. Sounds like your friend is a little bitch, and if that's true then others will likely see it also, so I think you're safe to hold your ground. Even more important than hiding unpopular opinions is to OWN the opinions that you do express. I would respond to your friend with curiosity. Find out what she said.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 01:21 PM
1

Exactly. You simply shouldn't be in heated arguments with your girlfriend. If she really makes you this upset then she shouldn't be part of your life. If you want to correct her behavior then tell her with conviction that she needs to change XY or else your ass is on the next.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 01:04 PM
3

I love this game. It's even better if you create the contact (before handing her phone) by giving her a funny first name like sex kitten or Brunhilda.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 12:58 PM
0

Hey, this sounds like a cool chick. Here's the plan: 1. You give me her number. 2. I fuck her relentlessly and send you video footage. 3. You admit that, you know what? maybe she is a slut. Because AWALT. 4. You buy me some new bookshelves for curing you of your oneitis. What do you say?
/r/askTRP06/02/15 12:50 PM
1

This is good advice. I would suggest reading books by funny people about being funny. You need to make the world look like a big fucking joke. I'm not saying that you should become a sarcastic hater. Rather, embrace the absurdity of it all and go with it. Read enough psychology so that you can quickly read people and the mood they're in. This will allow you to float down their stream and then surprise them with a funny quip. What you're really after is wit. The pinnacle of this skill is dropping…
/r/askTRP06/02/15 12:43 PM
4

TRP would be thrilled as fuck that he didn't have to listen to his gf's whiny bullshit all night. However, he certainly would reassess his relationship with this girl and his own uber-betaness. You need to alpha-up, dude.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 12:33 PM
1

My guess is that it's a bad experience in her past. Maybe she got pregnant and had to get an abortion. Or she caught the clap, or even just a really bad yeast infection. Or maybe some guy donkey-dicked her so bad she couldn't walk for a week. Or maybe she nailed some guy who blabbed all over school and the other kids tortured her for it. If you're really curious you could get her to open up to you, but then she's going to get attached to you emotionally. Be careful what you wish for.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 12:28 PM
2

I think you're being accused of pulling a Bobby Peru: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUtn7e05C8M
/r/TheRedPill06/02/15 12:15 PM
1

I sharpen my game but in small amounts and usually when it's just one to one situations. Practice things like keeping a solid frame and being (or at least looking) busy. It's a good place to work on a few chicks that you "could" get if you wanted, which should help you strengthen your abundance mentality. since you asked: I don't high-five anyone. I don't use cheap chances to kino chicks, even hot ones, but I don't shy away from physical contact.
/r/askTRP04/02/15 01:50 PM
1

I think it's safe to maintain contact, but at the bare minimum. Don't play her games. She might start flirting for a little fix of bad girlishness. Don't give her that fix! Make her beg for your D. My guess is you'll get a drunk call at some point and that will be your opportunity. No point in burning the bridge, but chasing her will likely be counterproductive. Keep in mind that she's embarrassed as fuck about what happened.
/r/askTRP03/02/15 10:46 AM
1

Try to look older and do more mingling until you are more comfortable around women. Keep the frame of mind that you are prize and you are interviewing her as a potential gf or fuckbuddy. Keep things light and fun.
/r/askTRP27/01/15 09:20 PM
1

I agree with most of this, but I also think there a strong element of slut shame at work. Unless you are BMOC or are ready to take her on as a gf there is a good chance you're going to lose her to someone who is.
/r/askTRP27/01/15 09:14 PM
1

This post may be irrelevant, but it also might help you gain some perspective. When I first met my wife she was a solid 9 (a 10 if you liked tall, thin dark types with luscious hair). She had that glow about her that attracted attention from everyone when she entered a room. I had to deal with the guys grabbing her wrist in a bar because they just had to talk to her. Another time some old fart actually offered to pay her for sex while we were at the baths. Her affection from others actually blin…
/r/askTRP23/01/15 03:54 PM
1

Dude, you need to go back to your psychiatrist and tell her to up your dosage. Seriously, you need to get a grip before you shoot up a McDonald's. The world has many, many problems, and it's far from a perfect place, but what's happening to you is beyond the pale. It's hard to be effective when you can't think straight. I realize you're just dump-ranting here, but if you're not sleeping then you're on a slippery slope into madness. The war effort needs you, but it needs you calm, cool and collec…
/r/askTRP22/01/15 03:22 PM
6

Answer: you don't. Actually, many women can keep it together through their 30s, and a few into their 40s. Childbirth is worse than the years, but yes, you're right that it's very real issue. There's a reason there is a cliche about the "mid-life crisis man leaving his wife for his secretary." It happened with me. Your options: A) continue to exclusively fuck a woman you are no longer attracted to; B) step out on your wife by weaving a web of lies; C) step out on your wife while being honest with…
/r/askTRP22/01/15 02:37 PM
1

It's very red pill, very alpha, and you're reaping what you sow. She feels like a slut. Her friends are telling her she's crazy and you're not treating her right. She doesn't tell her parents much about you because she's ashamed. But when you're together there's real sexual energy, and she's hooked. If you're being honest then it's ethically justifiable. Whether you're being a good person is up to the person (or god) who is judging you. To me she sounds pretty great. Smart girl who is DTF. But t…
/r/askTRP22/01/15 02:23 PM
2

I think you need to up your game if you're going to do the meet-up and fuck route. These girls are already embarrassed about having to use the internet to find their Prince Charming. In their minds, they need to be hyper-vigilant about filtering out creeps and AFCs. You either need to be LTR material in their eyes or a "just this once" ONS. You're obviously going for the latter, so your game needs to be tight. Short pithy text game, attitude of abundance, nice bachelor pad and easy logistics (ei…
/r/askTRP22/01/15 02:15 PM
1

You should be out getting as much as you can. Just don't knock anyone up.
/r/askTRP22/01/15 10:42 AM
3

She's in her late 30s. You could do whatever you wanted with her. This is how women get when they lose the fear of slut shaming. She wants you, she lets you know. Is she a stalker? I doubt it. But she's going to get clingy fast if you escalate.
/r/askTRP22/01/15 10:40 AM
0

delayed ejaculation that's most likely the grip of death. Lay off the porn for a while and see if it improves.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 11:20 AM
9

Honest question: does your dick work?
/r/TheRedPill19/01/15 09:10 AM
1

More like dangerous. How many boyfriends are going to go find the guy who done it and make him pay? And then who goes to jail?
/r/TheRedPill12/01/15 11:59 AM
2

I have a few comments about the different subs. My main point is that there needs to be a better harmony between TRP and AskTRP. TRP is for presenting knowledge, while AskTRP is for asking for advice. The problem is that very few RPers venture over to AskTRP, so few posters get more advanced questions answered. Second, the AskTRP doesn't have the stress on reading the sidebar, so almost all the questions become complete noobery, like "I talked to this girl at a party at 3 in the morning and we m…
/r/TheRedPill12/01/15 10:11 AM
2

Neither. I find that I've been missing massive IOIs my whole life. TRP helped me understand that women work differently from men. For us, it's either yes or no: we know right away if we are willing to fuck some broad. For women, an IOI is merely the first hurdle of many. Women are more receptive to me now because I'm less of a jackass AFC. One thing I can tell you is about age is that it matters much less than we all assume. Sure, online most women will filter out older men, but face-to-face is …
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 01:14 PM
1

First of all, I want to say that I’m as happy now as I’ve ever been in my life, and I’ve made it a point to catch myself when I start lamenting the things I “should” have done. I’m 44, recently divorced, have two fantastic daughters, and am in an LTR with 26 y.o. Russian chick who has a body I never would have believed existed. I get along well with my ex, who was a catch when we were both in our 20s. With that said, my best advice to young men is to take a good, hard look at where your life is …
/r/TheRedPill08/01/15 04:22 PM
1

It's the entitlement. The very idea that a man is gauged according to the number of carats on his wife's finger is insane.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/15 03:54 PM
1

The RP textbook says that you should engage push-pull thrusters upon encountering hesitation. I've been experimenting with push-pull a lot lately and the results are fascinating. Pulling away slowly triggers a switch in her brain that she may be losing you and she needs to go into attack mode. It's definitely a tool you need in your shed.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/15 02:48 PM
1

To be more precise: it's only creepy if she doesn't like you
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 12:04 PM
2

Exactly. Teachers, my friends, are banging the students (yes, yes they are). A grad student is a student. Even easier. You just have to keep the veneer of intellectual curiousity facing the world while you set up dates on the sly. It's all about discretion. Shit, you aren't even breaking any laws! You might get a slap on the wrist if word gets around, but as long as you're cool and don't run around breaking hearts then you're gold.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 10:45 PM
3

A bicep squeeze is free kino and draws attention your way. I'm taking that. Flexing is for monkees. I ain't playing that game. Edit: Unless I can pull the old "it's over there" bicep pose. I'm a sucker for that one.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 06:38 PM
3

Dude, you don't need to go the US. Hungary, Czech Rep, and Poland are swimming with chicks and pre-marital sex is everywhere. Are you from the former Yugoslavia? EE has been chick paradise for me, so maybe you're just being a bit defeatest.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 06:21 PM
1

The gf in the OP's post had probably lost attraction for him long long ago. So many couples just get stuck in a dead-end relationship. TRP helped him shake himself loose.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 06:15 PM
2

It's all just a question of discretion. If you have your own place and a little bit of game you should be able to score more or less as often as you want. They just don't want anyone to know. Sororeity girls look out for one another, but they also provide confirmation. A lot of chicks in college just want some experience before they go out into the "real world."
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 06:07 PM
4

I'm at the point where I've given up understanding what people mean by "daddy issues." It seems to be a catch-all phrase used to reverse engineer what's wrong with a certain girl, where the problem is evident and the cause is inferred. But at that point, why bother trying to understand the girl if it's clear she's not right in the head? If she's damaged she's damaged. Some guys say it's because she has no father, others maintain he was abusive, while still others say he was Lyndon Johnson and yo…
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 03:48 PM
1

af505, thanks for sharing your experience. I feel for you. This could have been me, more than once. I have been extremely lucky through the years. However, are you sure you want to suggest to guys who find themselves in your situation to forgo a qualified lawyer? If it's one thing I've learned over the years it's to lawyer up any time you are in sniffing range of a courtroom.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 03:28 PM
0

Life is full of compromise. How much money are we talking about here?
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 12:43 PM
1

There is someone else in the picture. It's sure. You did right. Keep in mind that she may come back to you. It happens. No need to burn any bridges, and if you do see her again you should let yourself stay a little angry at her (only on the inside, don't let her see it), which will help you keep the proper frame.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 12:17 PM
2

You can remind the haters that it was co-written by Tom Stoppard. Then wait for them to ask "who?"
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 11:49 AM
1

Nagging comes from a general feeling of malaise, whether it's the husband's fault or not, she's just not a happy person. It's a subtle form of lashing out. In general, I would hazard a guess that betas get nagged much more than alphas. My wife was nagging me for a long time until I sat her down and told her that I wasn't happy, and that if she didn't start treating me with respect I was going to leave her. Her attitude did a 180 and fast.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 12:42 PM
2

First off, congratulations on being this articulate at age 17. Second, take it easy. Your parents are strict, but they're good people. You're going through the standard rebellious youth period of your life. Cool, but don't get carried away. You have a long life ahead of you and your parents are probably going to send you to college. Take what they give you. College is awesome and you'll get away from them when that happens. Third, like others have said, you can work out at home. Push ups and sit…
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 12:06 PM
1

It's just an excuse like any other. Not rich enough. Losing my hair. Short legs. You are 6' tall. Even in Holland you could score. No excuses. Get out there and fail like a man until you succeed.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/14 04:12 PM
2

Not just in a Detroit ghetto. Anywhere. You see it even with simians. Boys need to be taught to heed. A byproduct of this social indoctrination, however, is that men lose part of their masculinity. TRP helps them recover it.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 03:04 PM
1

I grew up in Illinois and moved to Hungary when I was 24. The difference was night and day. My self-confidence was so low from getting rejected by sixes and sevens in Chicago that I didn’t let myself believe that eights and nines in Europe were sending me huge IOIs. The difference? Competition. In Eastern Europe the girls are killing themselves to look good, and the result is that sixes become sevens, sevens become eights, etc. America seems to suffer from female collusion whereby they all agree…
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 02:56 PM
1

Eastern Europe is much closer to home. Give it a try.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 01:27 PM
1

You will be amazed by how easy it is. I'll make a separate post, but rest assured that you will do very well.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 01:22 PM
4

Yes, exactly. I think that at a young age we're taught to conform. So much of our early lives are filled with adults crushing our spirits in the name of social order. Sit still in class. Do what the coach tells you. Don't fight. Society needs its citizens to fight their urges, but in the process young men end up suppressing their masculinity. Logical Song by Supertramp is a great example, and movies like Fight Club take this notion to its extreme. How far you revert to your animal nature or come…
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 12:42 PM
0

And men like me who need to pawn their wedding rings. I still have mine in my sock drawer.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 12:05 PM
1

Girls date men they can be proud of, guys they can bring to Thanksgiving dinner to get their parents off their backs. Guys who won't fuck them over. Girls who are horny or looking to gain experience fuck guys who look like they're fun to fuck. These are guys with animal magnetism. Surely you've read about how chicks love "bad boys," the guys who just don't give a shit. Girls believe that these guys have multiple girlfriends and are liable to do or say something explosive at any time. These types…
/r/seduction04/12/14 09:16 AM
2

There is only one way: be the guy that they just want to fuck. Big strong alpha bad-boy. My ex-wife once said something to me that opened my eyes. We were talking about one of our friends and she said "he's the type of guy you spend one night with." I've been this guy on a few occasions, but it general I'm more of a boyfriend type. The other part of the equation is to have your apartment set up so that she can arrive and leave discretely. As I said, I'm not really the type of guy that I describe…
/r/seduction03/12/14 01:40 PM
1

Dude, it's not you and it's not Tinder. It's that fat-ass city you live in. Seriously, every time I go home to visit my folks I remember why I moved to Europe. I couldn't get laid to save my life in Chicago. And don't get me started on the Burbs.
/r/seduction03/12/14 01:06 PM
2

Cocky is good, but keep it subdued. Head back, small shit-eating grin. Make her earn your validation. You are not a puppy.
/r/seduction03/12/14 12:29 PM
1

This is all a game to her. It's a safe game because she knows she can toy with beta-boys like you. She gets a kick out of it. Rest assured, she does it with plenty of guys. Does that make you angry? It should. And that edge that the anger gives you will actually help you with her. Like many have said, she enjoys manipulating you. Put an end to it. If you do decide to hang out with her again, make sure that there is another girl around that likes you. That's your only play. Shut this tease out, t…
/r/seduction03/12/14 12:16 PM
6

Monk mode. Study, read, save some money and --most importantly -- spend time with your dad. This is the time for self-improvement. You'll be back in the game soon enough. Maybe find a project to do around the house.
/r/seduction03/12/14 11:44 AM
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I agree with this. There are just too many possible variations at play here to find a fruitful generalization. Maybe the girl is hot and all of her "friends" are jealous because the girl gets all of the attention. Maybe she had brothers growing up and developed interest in guy things. Maybe she is a slut who burned all her bridges with female friends. Maybe her good friends moved away and she's having trouble finding new ones. One other thing to keep in mind is that a girl who says this doesn't …
/r/seduction03/12/14 11:29 AM
2

An 18 year old chick doesn't know shit about shit, least of all what she wants from a man. Most of her actions are governed by social pressures from her peers and family. A seven-year difference in age is nothing, and a three-year difference? That's almost too little. I'm 18 years older than my current girlfriend and we started dating when she was 23. Do you think her friends and family were encouraging her to see me when they found out? Of course not! Women are different from men. We are lookin…
/r/seduction03/12/14 10:36 AM
1

Great post. Thanks for sharing that. My experience suggests that if you are over 40 you should definitely lie so that you are under 40. In the real world these numbers don't matter -- there are two chicks (solid sevens) in my office in their late 20s who I could have in a heartbeat if I was interested, whereas online those women would screen me out. There were some fascinating eye-tracking experiments done with men and women looking at online profiles. The men looked almost exclusively at the ph…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 03:41 PM
6

My problem with monk mode is that I end up spending all my money on whores.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 01:26 PM
1

What happens if you try to get in good with the brothers?
/r/TheRedPill28/11/14 01:54 PM
1

There is still some honey left in that jar. Start making greater demands. Tell her to change her hair, tie you up, lick nutella off you, wear a mask, cook you dinner, and eventually a threesome. If she balks then you have your pretense for looking elsewhere if you still have pussy fever. Just know that unless you have serious game that the likely shortterm outcome is a step backward in action.
/r/askTRP27/11/14 10:40 PM
1

I concur. Think of it like playing basketball. You can still play and improve, you just need to adapt a different style, like when Jordan developed his killer baseline fadeaway. Stop hating women. Stop hating people. Stop hating yourself. Get out into the world and live your life.
/r/askTRP26/11/14 11:49 AM
2

Very well put. You need to pick a style and own it. If you're a PIMP then you have no choice but to treat chicks like this. You also have to realize that certain chicks will respond to this more than others. The ones who do will also likely throw it back at you at some point and then you are forced to escalate (correct me if I'm wrong).
/r/askTRP26/11/14 11:44 AM
1

Good friends are hard to find, but you definitely don't find them if you default back to your old friends every time you want to go out. You talk a lot about your smarts and money, but I didn't see much display of your personality. You might be behaving a bit stiff with the women. How is your pad? Do you come up with interesting ideas for dates? Do you mingle in different social circles? How high are your standards? Getting women entails more than looking good and flashing cash. At some point so…
/r/askTRP26/11/14 11:33 AM
1

I recently stripped the wallpaper off my new apartment and painted. I did a horrendous job, got paint on the ceiling, there's streaks and gouges showing. It was the first time I'd ever done anything like that and I expected to make mistakes. The next time I do it I will do a much better job. That's where you're at. You're going to fuck up. Come to terms with that and let that knowledge allow you to relax. To use a cheesy expression: "don't that scare you, let it free you." The first time I kisse…
/r/askTRP25/11/14 03:53 PM
1

Just spit-balling here, but maybe learn sign language? There must be at least a few hot deaf chicks out there (or chicks with deaf brothers, etc). I suppose you could try to be suave with a notepad. I realize that's not exactly what you're asking, but your value is ultimately going to bump up against the impediment, so I think you'd be better served seeking out someone who can relate to you.
/r/askTRP25/11/14 01:36 PM
4

yes, she's at the point where she is saying "what's wrong with me?" It would kill these chicks to admit that there's something to what we're saying, so they convince themselves that they "should" find a way to love their caring (wimpy-ass) boyfriends.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/14 02:41 PM
2

You're right about everything except one point: I don't think that it's inevitable that she will seek a divorce. Some women are perfectly happy becoming ever expanding earth mothers. My marriage went cold and it sent me into a whoring, ED tailspin. Then one evening I was walking to a bar with a buddy and a 19-year old HB8 walked up to us and asked where we were going. I ended up making out with her on the dancefloor. The experience was like having the team doctor wave smelling salts under my nos…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/14 10:16 PM
0

Tell us about her.
/r/seduction21/11/14 06:32 PM
1

I don't like movies at all on a date unless you identify a common taste, like a love for Tarkovsky films. Definitely eat at the table. You can then move to the couch, or balcony/patio. If you are picking up IOIs then your after-dinner activity is taken care of. If the conversation is going better than the escalation, then chat until you get bored, then end the date.
/r/seduction20/11/14 02:44 PM
8

Well played. I've had to use the no contact game four times in the last three years with my LTR, who is 18 years younger than me. She is a cool chick, but I think the social pressures of dating an older, divorced man with two kids gets to her occasionally. What I think happens is she starts listening to the voices who tell her she needs to find a proper husband her own age who will put a bun in the oven. She then works herself up into a lather, overreacting until she decides she wants out. The f…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/14 12:22 PM
2

I had a similar reaction to the post. Looking back at my high school and college self I realize that I often played the clown because the alternative was being invisible. Neither got me any women, but being the clown at least got me attention. At a party of my friends I got guys laughing and saying "he's crazy," while in an unfamiliar setting (bar, unknown party) I ended up driving women to my stoic wingman, who was rightfully grateful, but the result was my ego was further damaged. Probably wha…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/14 11:47 AM
1

That's good advice. The one thing I would add is enjoy life in the big city. I moved to Chicago after college and it was both awesome and brutal. I scored two chicks over the course of an entire year and one of them was a 5 at best. Then I moved to Eastern Europe and it all became so much easier. It still is, but that's a supply and demand question more than me improving my game. Looking back, I probably could have turned things around in Chicago, but no regrets. I had a hell of a time.
/r/seduction15/11/14 04:32 PM
1

"Don't worry, I'll look away when they start poking through your bra."
/r/seduction15/11/14 03:02 PM
1

My guess is that you're trying too hard to impress the girls. Weird is fine as long as it's a fun weird and not a nerdy weird. My mantra is "be fun, not smart." And when I say fun I mean confident smart-ass teasing fun, not pour a bottle of ketchup on my head fun. The other thing about university is that it's an artificial atmosphere that favors women over men because everyone is the same age. Women want to date older men. Period. It's just a fact. Of course, our actual age doesn't matter as muc…
/r/seduction15/11/14 02:56 PM
2

Frame, frame, frame! Know who you are and stick to it. Be prepared for shit tests and don't let anything phase you. Smile like you just stole their underwear. While you're talking, maintain your posture, make them come to you. Avoid serious conversation. Always be joking and teasing in a fun way. Come up with some games to play with a girl like "guess who she dates," where you point to another girl standing away from you and try to guess what type of guy she's dating. Also, don't get stuck. As s…
/r/seduction11/11/14 12:41 PM
1

Are you sure you want to be less in love? Some people would say that's the good part. Others have mentioned making your life more interesting. True dat. But you can also learn to calm yourself down, which will serve you in all aspects of life. Meditation and yoga are great ways to learn to control your breathing and reduce stress. Your body is a machine that you can learn to control, and you'd be amazed how controlling physical aspects like your heart-rate can make you relax mentally.
/r/seduction11/11/14 12:31 PM
1

Sounds to me like you just need more reps. Why not look for activities where you're forced to interact with people? Dance class? Speed dating? Travel in a tour group? The best job experience I ever had was a job going door to door to solicit donations to an enviro org. It forced me to talk to all kinds of people and actually listen to them. After that summer I was much better at approaching strangers.
/r/seduction11/11/14 12:25 PM
8

you just told us all how rich you were. A weekly appointment with a shrink is not going to bankrupt you. Get some help.
/r/seduction11/11/14 12:13 PM
2

Right on the money. Look, you can't expect a fuckbuddy relationship to be a bed of roses. She's human, and you're human. Look at this this way: if you had NO feelings for her then the sex would be boring, wouldn't it? My suggestion is to just deal with the jealousy. It sounds like she wants more but knows you aren't down for that, so she's going along with the plan until something better happens. This was a small bit of revenge for her. Let her have her revenge from time to time. If it gets to b…
/r/seduction10/11/14 12:41 PM
1

Does not compute. Fuck that bitch. I couldn't agree with you more.
/r/seduction10/11/14 09:54 AM
1

I can attest to this. Tons of chicks in my crossfit class. (Too bad one is my girlfriend.) The best part is you get to see the goods before you buy.
/r/seduction07/11/14 03:07 PM
3

This is good advice. You have to keep moving forward or you'll lose momentum. They gave you a chance, you didn't make anything of it, and they made it clear your time was up. If you give more details we can probably locate where and why the energy dipped. Here's my guess on what happened: five chicks out to have fun. Within their group there's a difference of opinion on what that means. You approached (half the battle!) and one of them took a liking to you, or to one of your friends and invited …
/r/seduction07/11/14 01:54 PM
1

Sometimes it's just that easy. All you have to do is not fuck up. One night I was at a party and had good sex with a chick after everyone else had crashed. Whether she had me targeted the whole night (I'm pretty sure we barely spoke the whole evening) or I was just the last man standing I'll never know because I never talked to her again.
/r/seduction07/11/14 11:26 AM
3

I suggest an outdoor activity, maybe a walk that ends at your place. The idea is that it's always good to come in from the cold, take off (half) your clothes and warm up together under a blanket, sipping hot wine. That's all I got.
/r/seduction07/11/14 11:21 AM
1

It sounds to me like your mistake was in thinking there was an opportunity at all. She came over because she had nothing else to do. You put the moves on her and she gave you little bird pecks just to be nice. The whole date was doomed from the start. You need clearer signs before you even get to that point. You should have kicked her out when she started chatting on her phone or just gone off and done your own thing. Getting upset was understandable, but that's not the right response. The corre…
/r/seduction07/11/14 10:13 AM
1

You forgot to mention that your sex drive tapers off. For me, I still love looking at women, flirting, and having great sex, but I'm no longer a walking boner. The patience that comes with getting older is both a blessing and a curse. I don't have that incessant drive to chase tail around, but I'm much more composed when I am dealing with hot chicks. There was one time in college when I was clearly about to get some action by this fit Japanese chick. She was sitting next to me and my motor start…
/r/seduction06/11/14 10:05 AM
1

I like to think of it like surfing. Once you're on a great wave you stay on that wave until it crashes. Then you paddle around looking for the next wave.
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:59 AM
1

A good catalyst. It got me to turn my miserable life around. Now instead of being a beta provider with ED I'm the envy of all the dudes in my office. I'm trying to be a good father and stay on good terms with my ex-wife.
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:53 AM
4

I'm 44, divorced, with two kids and happy as hell because I'm banging a 26 year old HB9. The fear is being a 40 year old loser, not a 40 year old playboy.
/r/seduction04/11/14 11:00 AM
1

This is half of the equation. The other half is casting a bigger net and sorting the fish into those that are attracted to you and those that aren't. You have to look at who you are, who you want to be, and then OWN the shit out of that type. If you want to be the wiry surfer dude, then commit to that type and find the chicks (plural!) that respond to you. Once you learn to spot the signs of attraction you will realize that you have more options than you thought when you were stuck in oneitis. T…
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:58 AM
1

or paid someone else to do their mandatory service
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:50 AM
4

no way I would have shared something this awesome with the world.
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:27 AM
1

According to some recent research, the sexiest look is the smart-ass half grin, head cocked slightly back. Clooney is good at. Brad Pitt.
/r/seduction03/11/14 04:02 PM
1

I hear you. Can I ask why you don't just get a girlfriend? To me, that's the path of least resistance. You have to put some energy into some activity once a week or so to keep her happy and you get sex when you need it. You don't get the diversity or the bragging rights, but at least she cooks for you.
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:52 PM
1

If you're getting signs of attraction, then some flirty innuendo with a shit-eating grin is a nice way to get some sparks flying. However, it seems like she has already rejected you. She's busy all next week? No, she was telling you it ain't gonna happen. In this case, it's good to be a gentleman because it's always good to be on good terms with cute chicks for later socializing opportunities.
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:36 PM
1

I wouldn't say the situation is hopeless. In fact, you may have done yourself a favor by staying away from her party. Best case scenario is she was waiting for you and then was forced to conclude that you were going to look for other women. This is a good thing. You demonstrated value. Whatever you do, don't apologize. The one universal truth about PUA is that it is better to come across as a jerk than a whimp. Just move on. Ask her out again. If she says no then you blew it. Next in line.
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:30 PM
1

I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. You were coming from work and so was she. As long as you weren't a colossal retard there's no reason to think she has counted you out. Maybe she blames herself for being boring, or for having a huge zit on her forehead. I'd say the next date needs to be active. Something fun, like a dance, or a concert, laser tag, rock climbing, house party, something more than "hey let's get a drink."
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:14 PM
1

Do you have a car? Then drive to some larger cities and work your magic there. Dating is a numbers game. If you're fishing a small pond then you're looking at bluegill for dinner.
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:00 PM
2

Okay, this is a rambling response. Take from it what you will. I'd be willing to bet that your intro is not your problem. The world can be tough on a 23 year old male, because you're sleezy/creepy guy if you hit on the girls that you are actually in your wheelhouse, meaning college age chicks. Women in their 20s are looking at older men who are established, know the routine, have a deeper wardrobe, etc. I know that I moved to Chicago when I was 23 and it was the coldest winter of my life in term…
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:51 PM
1

It means she is a crazy ass bitch. You did the right thing.
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:30 PM
2

Come across as being super fucking busy, but you've got a few minutes for her because she's awesome and she brightens your day.
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:28 PM
1

Have fun while staying sober
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:21 PM
1

For the really striking chicks, I can believe that they get approached pretty much non-stop in public. For the second tier, however, it depends completely on how they present themselves. My ex-wife would float through a room and half the guys would start revving their engines. She just had this aura about her that told the world they were welcome to spend some time with her. She would refuse to be rude, so guys would hit on her even after she made it clear she had a husband and kids. At some poi…
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:09 PM
1

My guess is that pumping iron by itself will not improve your chances with women significantly. You have what you need to pick up chicks. I go to the gym because I'm thin and I need to pump up to look normal. If you have a solid frame then you should get over the looks hurdle with most chicks. I recently read that in a void, women are more likely to be turned on by a slimmer dude with a sixpack than a power-lifter with a gut, if that helps. So, no, I don't think that a significant number of wome…
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:49 PM
1

sounds like a shit test
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:41 PM
1

If she's at a front desk then she is getting a lot of attention, especially if she's cute. If you think she's giving you the green light then I would ask her out ASAP before an AFC works up the courage.
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:40 PM
2

Maybe you just weren't that attracted to these women. Or were you scared you wouldn't be able to perform?
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:33 PM
2

To be blunt, you did everything wrong. Here's the consolation: welcome to the club! First of all, give up on this girl. You're not ready for her. Instead, you need to improve your comfort level when talking to chicks. Do this: start talking to all of them. Mix with them. Stop looking for a girlfriend and start being a socializer. Make friends with girls and then introduce those girls to your shy friends. Once you've gotten better at talking to them, now you can start looking for signs of attract…
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:21 PM
1

You might try topics related to the body. What kind of sports has she played? Does she go to the gym? Does she dance? then something funny, like "Ever been JoBlo Disco? I'm not allowed to anymore." "why not?" she asks. "I kept knocking chicks over with my hips. I said, 'it's not my fault the dance floor is so small. I need space for my moves!" Yes, it's obviously a stupid thing to say, but with women you don't want to be smart, you want to be fun. Then see how she reacts. You want her to be thin…
/r/seduction03/11/14 12:52 PM
5

That's good advice. The key is to slow down, enjoy the process, make it part of the sex rather than an obstacle. Girls need time to get ready for your penetration so you need this time anyway. Unwrap the gift slowly.
/r/seduction03/11/14 12:44 PM
1

The younger, curvier one. Get the hot sex while you can. Hell, you could probably even stay friends with Lisa and maintain your conversations via email. A good problem to have.
/r/seduction03/11/14 12:41 PM
3

This is my take. There's no reason to make it a "yes or no" question. Red flag? Oh, yes. Don't fall in love. But it's a low-stakes game at this point. OP should practice his game, reduce contact, push for a meet-up, reduce more, then ask if she has any cute friends (she will have single friends, but 9 out of 10 will be ugly). There are more angles here that can be exhausted before deleting her.
/r/seduction03/11/14 12:00 PM
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It would be an interesting tactic to try out where you go into a bar, scan the place for the hottest chick, and then deliberately go up to her and diss her. Not sure how you would pull this off, but it's an interesting ploy to demonstrate value.
/r/seduction03/11/14 11:50 AM
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I think the inclination to appease hot chicks is a behavior learned at an early age when hot chicks really were a rare and exotic species. We learn to pander to pretty girls at an early age at school when all we are desperate for a few moments of face time with them. We break this habit when we have a girlfriend because we don't want to piss off the gf. This is a decent start, but at some point you need to truly believe that you are as good as the chick standing behind you in a bar.
/r/seduction03/11/14 11:48 AM
1

It's no secret that smoking pot eats away at your drive and ambition. I just asked like a doctor would upon first seeing a patient.
/r/seduction03/11/14 11:37 AM
17

The second way. No question. As long as you're not seeing signs of depression then solitary time is to be cherished. Look, pick-up is for guys who are missing something in their lives. It's for guys who are yearning for intimacy. Some guys want a harem. Some want LTRs. Some guys have never had good sex and want to find out what they've been missing. A lot of them feel inferior and want to prove something. If you're beyond all that, then you're in a good place. There's no reason to socialize if y…
/r/seduction31/10/14 05:13 PM
3

How much pot do you smoke?
/r/seduction31/10/14 05:01 PM
1

Probably just a feedback loop. Fail, lose confidence, fail because your confidence was low, lose more confidence, etc. If you really hit on 25 chicks last night then you are WAY ahead of the game. I doubt most guys hit on that many women in their entire lives.
/r/seduction31/10/14 05:00 PM
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Say no more. What you have is this girl's opinion of you. Substitute "I" for "people" and you have all you are going to learn. This girl liked you and still likes you, and this is the way she expresses it. Odds are that she is not the only girl who likes how you look, so I'd say you're in good shape. Now you just need to act the part. Forget what she says about your personality. Work on your inner game and let your confidence shine through.
/r/seduction31/10/14 04:31 PM
1

Well, you don't really give us much to go on, but my guess is that this comment tells you more about the chick than about you. What's your history with her?
/r/seduction28/10/14 02:53 PM
8

Exactly. It was a classic "it's not you, it's me." Don't ask her. Ask us why you're not relationship material.
/r/seduction28/10/14 02:47 PM
4

Being single is much better than being in a shitty relationship. What I would do is sit down and plot out your plan for world domination, the first step of which is becoming a bad-ass motherfucker. You're focusing on women. Focus on kicking ass in the real world. The women will follow.
/r/seduction28/10/14 02:43 PM
1

High school is a bitch. One thing to work on: give people a reason to be happy to see you. Never show up to a party empty handed. But again, like the OP says, you can be the guy who shows up to the party with the chicks. Since most parties are sausage fests, they can be any chicks, just bring them along. Soon you'll have that reputation and guys will invite you. Or be the guy who drives. Hell, bring the munchies if nothing else.
/r/seduction27/10/14 01:47 PM
1

You would think, and I always assumed it, too, but my experience suggests otherwise. More than a few times in my life I've had much taller women make it crystal clear that I only had to say the word. The last one I dated was in 7th grade. Since then I've politely declined because I'm a wuss, and also because it honestly weirds me out. I can say, however, that my ex-wife was only an inch shorter, so when she put on her heels she towered over me. I have to say I didn't like it, probably because sh…
/r/seduction27/10/14 01:33 PM
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Whatever your mates say, you have to own it. Virgin, gay, small dick, doesn't matter. You have to take it in stride and make her think everyone is just having a laugh and it's your turn to be the punching bag. Roll with it. Use your spare time to come up with funny retorts to being called a virgin. Something like, "it's true. I've never had two girls at once."
/r/seduction27/10/14 01:15 PM
2

I think I understand what you're asking. Here's my answer: be funny, but don't be a clown. Because I was short when I was growing up, I always felt invisible in social situations, so I started being the crazy guy. I was loud and obnoxious, and never scored the hot chick. I got way too drunk and by the end of the evening everyone was shaking their head at me. Cool guys can be funny. They just wait for the right moment rather than shout over everyone else. Energy is good as long as it's contained …
/r/seduction27/10/14 01:08 PM
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Study after study after study confirm that a man's looks do not matter that much to a woman. Yes, they matter, but not nearly as much as confidence and status. I'm short. He's fat. That dude's bald. Doesn't matter. No way in hell I'd go under the knife to straighten my nose. Use that money for a new set of sheets and a gym pass.
/r/seduction27/10/14 12:56 PM
1

Art museums offer the best ratio of stylish chicks to men, but you'd better bring some game and be prepared to do all the heavy lifting. You'd also have a good plan for where it's going next, because you're obviously not going to escalate in the middle of a Rothko exhibit. I like art museums because I think that's a popular destination for single chicks with a brain (I'm picky that way) that don't go out at night. You also have the benefit of plenty of time to size her up, plot her course, and w…
/r/seduction27/10/14 12:52 PM
1

They say 10,000 hours to become a master, and only so many of those hours can be spent in the library. At some point you have to go into the field.
/r/seduction27/10/14 12:32 PM
1

Surely you've noticed by now that there isn't one holy bible for PUA, and if you stop and think about it you'll realize that there really can't be, because part of being attractive is breaking from away the herd. You have to be yourself. Forums like this one are great for giving you rules of thumb, pitfalls, and case studies. It can't tell you which hobby is going to inspire you, or where you're going to find your passion, or even which women will turn you on. We're here to think things through,…
/r/seduction27/10/14 12:30 PM
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Game in college is all about confidence, looking good, and hosting parties. I had almost no game at all and the pickings were slim where I attended school (central Illinois), and yet I was still getting something (after Freshman year, which was a disaster because, well, Freshman year, and I have always looked younger than my age). My point is that your opener doesn't need to be anything special. "Hey what's up? You got plans for Friday? Well, you do now. Come to my party." Invite tons of chicks …
/r/seduction27/10/14 11:56 AM
1

Yes, you did. You took a step. You had a new experience with a girl and obviously enjoyed it. Enjoy these moments and don't be in a rush. Now go and read a bit about how to kiss a girl. How to set it up and how to do it well.
/r/seduction27/10/14 11:45 AM
4

not my style either, but you have to admit it adds to the "bad boy" aura.
/r/seduction27/10/14 11:31 AM
1

Nice report. thanks for sharing. What was your text game like?
/r/seduction20/10/14 03:35 PM
1

If people are engaged in conversation then I tend to leave them be. If they're alone or passing by, then say hi. With your teamates, maybe reduce your greeting to the bare minimum "hey" and then be on your merry way. If they're jerks then civility is the ceiling. High school is a bitch. Your best bet is to work hard on your appearance and be a hit with the ladies. The betas will see this and make you a local alpha.
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:11 AM
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Nice post, thanks. I recently broke up with my girlfriend and tried online for the first time ever. I decided to be completely honest, just to see what would happen. It seems I got disqualified quickly for being over 40, only 5'9", and with two kids. I met one attractive woman who was still living with her husband even though they were separated. It was cool to hang out but nothing happened. Then I got back together with my hot 26 year old HB9, LOL. If I ever do online again I will lie about my …
/r/seduction27/09/14 08:05 AM
1

I have never been a pick-up artist, but I've had several successful LTRs. You sound a lot like me. I'm 44, divorced with two kids, and I'm dating a hot 26 year old. You've probably read a lot about the importance of self-confidence. Well, friend, I'm here to tell you that you are, as you point out, a good catch, so stop being nervous and start believing (because it's true!) that you deserve a hot, intelligent, SANE chick on your arm. My concrete advice is to top worrying so much about your pick-…
/r/seduction24/09/14 03:13 PM
1

I really like that attitude. It's like searching for the best peaches at the grocer.
/r/seduction18/09/14 03:35 PM
1

I was in a winking stage about two years ago. One time, I was leading a tour and there was a pretty chick (a rarity on one of our tours). On the second day of the tour she was sitting with her family, including her husband, during some free time. I went up, said something and then winked at her out of habit. I walked away and thought, "oh shit! I just winked at that passenger in front of her family!" A few hours later I saw them again, I was feeling sheepish. The chick said something to me and w…
/r/seduction01/09/14 02:40 PM
2

I would say accept the offer and here's why: you're clearly having a hard time reading these women. You have probably read some articles about how to interpret the signals that women are sending you, but you haven't been able to internalize them yet. I know that because an experienced guy would see the difference between a chick who is taking the lead because you're shy (are you?) and one who is simply trying to end a conversation with a guy who stopped them on the street for a friendly chat (mo…
/r/seduction01/09/14 02:11 PM
1

With school? Fuck them all. The funny thing is that as soon as you date one of them, the rest will fall in line. Just make sure the first is above average. With work? I used to work in restaurants and banged three chicks who worked there. I couldn't keep my mouth shut (that's actually the biggest rule, but nobody seems to follow it) and shit got uncomforatble. Since then I have a strict no date policy that I have only broken once and I ended up married to her for 13 years. That's what happens wh…
/r/seduction21/08/14 03:07 PM
1

Exact same story, except that I did a three-year stretch. My parents are visiting from overseas, so I have a week to get psyched for my first night out. Unlike you I've never been a PUA, so consider yourself a seasoned vet.
/r/seduction21/08/14 01:27 PM
1

nice. thanks for sharing
/r/seduction21/01/14 01:21 PM
1

That's not my conclusion. Your comment "Ykno I'm just catching up on some studying" was lame. You can do better than that if you want.
/r/seduction21/01/14 01:14 PM
1

the world is changing. My current girlfriend and I have been chatting through gmail for 2 years non-stop. If you can be witty and fun without pouring out your soul then I would say give it a try. Use the rules about making sure she writes more and more often than you do, but I don't think there's any reason to avoid it entirely.
/r/seduction21/01/14 12:28 PM
1

I disagree. How good could it be if you know you're leading her on and it's going to end tragically? Maybe if I hadn't gotten any play for a year or something. Otherwise, you need to cut bait.
/r/seduction21/01/14 11:48 AM
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Hell ya, I would hit that. Clearly she's not getting what she needs. He's either a loser or he's got his own game on the side. As long as she's got a good head on her shoulders -- i.e. no Fatal Attraction shit coming your way -- I think you can show her a good time without too much damage. Just make sure the relationship stays light and you take maximum precaution.
/r/seduction21/01/14 11:26 AM
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Don't apologize when you see her, but do STAY SOBER! You can redeem yourself in her eyes if it can all be chalked up to "that one crazy night." You have already been labeled a dope-head, so you need to shake that label ASAP. Unless you are a rockstar, you will not get far as a dope-head.
/r/seduction21/01/14 11:22 AM
1

Cooking classes, dance classes (you'll be one of the few men, so you can drive up the jealousy factor, plus you'll always have a fallback date of going dancing), cross-training and other athletic stuff both of you can do like wall climbing, art exhibitions (do a little homework beforehand, but don't try to be an egghead), improv comedy.
/r/seduction21/01/14 11:14 AM
3

She blew you off. Next!
/r/seduction21/01/14 10:41 AM
1

yup, you should have called the shot rather than leave the ball in her court. This is a classic case of not being prepared. You should have either not moved at all (since there is a good chance you'll see her again on campus) or asked her out on a specific date. Instead, you're stuck in no-man's land. I'd say you'll have to ignore her a while unless she gets back to you. Then take control.
/r/seduction20/01/14 04:31 PM
3

I don't think it's worth the time to judge cheaters. It's like downloading music or smoking dope. At some level it's wrong, and we all know it's wrong, so it's more interesting to examine it as a phenomenon. At some point you need to come to some sort of agreement with yourself about how you want to respond the next time you have an opportunity like this. I cheated on my wife and she cheated on me and after 18 years together I realized that neither of us loved each other. The lack of genuine int…
/r/seduction20/01/14 04:22 PM
1

Any big city in Eastern Europe. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/seduction20/01/14 04:08 PM
4

Um, maybe you're putting too much stock in a chick who would grab a guy's junk in a club? Otherwise, I would say it's just a numbers game. Sometimes the coin will come up heads several times in a row. You're due for tails.
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:53 PM
1

I'm going through something similar, so I feel you. I basically have the girl of my dreams right now, but she is consistent in saying she will move away next year. Everything is amazing between us, but she is young (much younger than me) and can't pursue her career where we are now. I'm tied to where I live now because of my kids. What I try to do is just live in the moment and stop dwelling on what may (or may not) happen a year or two from now. I make sure that from time to time she sees me im…
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:40 PM
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Good points. I would add that you should take her places where you are more than a beginner. Take her to the rockwall if and only if you are already Spider Man. Those kinds of activities are great because you can show a lot of your character in how patient and NON-condescending you can be. And, let's not forget, you get a look at her goods as well. Nobody can hide their body on a rockwall.
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:20 PM
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