I sometimes read stories of the fucked up shit men do to women, and I think "good God, that guy can get a gf but I can't?"

There was one on relationship advice awhile ago where this lady's boyfriend was stealing money from her and going to asian massage parlors for hand jobs. She wanted to go to therapy with him to give him a 2nd chance.

My mom's friend was going through chemotherapy, and her husband wouldn't even pick her up from her Dr appointments so she had to take an uber... even though he's unemployed and fully financially living off her with a new car.

I'm sure we all had that friend in HS who would call crying about the things her boyfriend does, and then you scratch your head wondering why she likes him more than you.

So why do some, seemingly good men, struggle so deeply with getting a mate when it appears the bar is on the ground?