"I really want to be friends but it's selfish to ask that when I know you want more"

fnordsnord · 2018-02-07T20:42:36+00:00

This is absolutely "Let's just be friends."

It's woman-speak for "I'm not attracted to you. I have never BEEN attracted to you, and I'm never going to BE attracted to you. You are, however, sufficiently entertaining and have enough resources for you to be allowed to spend time around me, help me with the obstacles in my life, and never, ever have sex with me."

Smile, say, "Sure, I'd like that. Let's be friends."

Then ghost. Do NOT give her time, energy, attention, or resources. If you are not getting what you want, why should she?"

BestSC86 · 2018-02-07T22:25:56+00:00

She is socially aware enough to understand and honest enough to tell you the truth. That is better than the ones who try to make you an orbiter by dangling the chance to see their pussy at some point way down the calendar.

And yes, it would be selfish for her to expect you to give her validation and the other BF stuff without providing what you want from the relationship. That is what a lot of the other chicks who use LJBF to keep guys around are doing....they want the validation, adoration and BF experience without providing the dude what he wants from a relationship(sex and otherwise)...which is very selfish.

SirKolbath · 2018-02-07T20:44:18+00:00

I really want to be friends.

Cool. I'll tell you if I find someone willing to settle for that.

It's selfish to ask that when I know you want more.

Damn right it is. You're asking me to give you an entire relationship based on friendship alone, while ignoring my needs and desires. You want your cake and a giant mouthful of it as well. No thanks. I'm not interested in being friends. I'm not interested in giving my time, attention, and money to someone who isn't interested in giving me what I want.

SeamusAwl · 2018-02-07T20:35:26+00:00

No, she is trying a "nicer" less guilty way of doing it.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-02-07T20:54:28+00:00

This is the hook line and sinker for "I won't fuck ya but I want your commitment anyway". How would I approach it? Straight up tell her " I'm not interested in being friends with you, give me a call when you change your mind."

You have enough friends in your life, it leaves the door open for her, and you know what you want. Women like that.

Title	"I really want to be friends but it's selfish to ask that when I know you want more"
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Date	February 7, 2018 8:26 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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