Holding frame, kicking her out

RedMindBlueEyes · 2014-03-09T13:11:19+00:00

What you do depends on what you want. Do you want her in your life? No? Next her. Yes? Wait. When (if) she contacts you, tell her you´re not interested in spending time with people who behave like little bitches. If she wants to spend time with you, she´s gotta make it worthwhile for you. Tell her you will leave space for her in your life if apologizes for being a bitch and promise not to do it again.

If she doesn´t contact you, she´s out. If she doesn´t apologize, she´s out. If she doesn´t promise to behave, she´s out. If she acts like a bitch again, she´s out.

Meanwhile. Don´t sit around waiting for her to contact you. Do whatever pleases you. For now, she´s not there. Out of sight, out of mind.

virtuosus_ · 2014-03-09T13:26:14+00:00

And if she goes directly to an orbiter's guy friend's house after she leaves yours to bitch and moan about you while he white knights her? Should you be worried?

fucking leave her, i've seen this types of women - not really relationship material

GMotor · 2014-03-09T16:44:48+00:00

Assumption: you were being reasonable in what you said.

She was wrong and was behaving like a spoiled child. If she never contacts you again... what does that say about her view of your relationship and the value she puts on it?

So don't contact her.

If she contacts you make sure you stay in your frame... she was wrong and behaved like a spoiled child.

If she can't accept that... next.

Exactly_what_I_think · 2014-03-09T10:26:06+00:00

/r/asktrp

Do you not respond to her until she messages you?

How do you respond to nothing?

General_Fear · 2014-03-09T14:29:37+00:00

When a woman lays down the law. When she is trying order you around. When she tells you what to do. Time to dump her.

As Red Pill you tell the woman what to do. The woman does not tell the man what to do. Let the Beta follow orders. Are you a leader? Or are you a follower?

This is the problem with marriage. If you lay down the law as an alpha male. And she gets feed up with you developing a spine, she walks. She takes you for everything you got. If you don't push back, then she starts to perceive you as a wimp beta male. And again, she walks. No woman wants a wimp of a husband.

[deleted] · 2014-03-09T19:47:32+00:00

I would have handled that differently saying help cut the veggies or leave seems kinda strange.

I would have been direct and asked "whats up with the attitude" She will say what attitude and when she does it again just say "Drop the attitude or leave"

Now that way you were direct in your dealings with her and she knows exactly what the issue was. When you say help do arbitrary task here or leave you are really in the wrong for being so petty.

[deleted] · 2014-03-10T01:30:39+00:00

Neither. Find someone who isn't a bitch.

[deleted] · 2014-03-09T10:46:31+00:00

Find a better woman.

purecyse · 2014-03-10T16:55:36+00:00

I remember kicking my girlfriend out and sending her home without her doing anything. And that was the problem. The only thing worse than adding a negative energy to the room is adding absolutely nothing.

I got up, told her to get her things, walked her to the door, wished her a good night and told her to text me to let me know she made it home safely.

She was stunned because NO ONE had ever done that to her before. Now she knew that, should she ever return, I wouldn't ALLOW her to add nothing and I wouldn't hesitate to ask her to leave if I was displeased with her.

In conclusion, kicking her out is like a gift that keeps on giving. She will, most likely, NEVER forget it.

So, don't stress about it. Have the mindset that this is just what you do. And you'll do it again if you have to. Should she return, she will appreciate that part of you that draws a line more than you think.

drrtyfrrnr · 2014-03-09T12:23:44+00:00

It depends. I have done this two ways...

Wait for her to contact you. However, some women just don't contact you, they keep waiting for you to contact them.
Text her a couple of days after, essentially making light of the situation. If you ignore it, it's the elephant in the room, so you address it, and her reaction. Then when she pushes for an apology, you hold the frame that you have standards and you aren't going to apologize. She's the child that threw a tantrum and you're the level-headed adult.

Title	Holding frame, kicking her out
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Upvotes	7
Comments	20
Date	March 9, 2014 9:52 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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