hey everyone. I'm 18 and have poor frame control. This includes with my parents, friends, & girls - and essentially is becoming detrimental to my lifestyle

There is one deep rooted issue: I have always felt the need to please others. I don't know why or how this idea has stuck with me for so long, but I feel its rooted fundamentally in some way.

TRP has flipped my life upside down and after finally internalizing it about after a year I feel a lot of pain. It's like everything I thought I knew was a lie.

Nonetheless, i'm out there, gymming, cold approaching etc. But I still have really poor frame control due to the fundamental belief I have that I have the responsibility to please others. & this comes off as nervous, anxious, needy & clingy - (because this is exactly how I feel). I hate it. Advice would be much appreciated

Do I just need to practice more conversation? I always have a need to validate myself to others or else I feel i'm inadequate - and then the times I do stay quiet - I'm not recognized at all so I feel left out. it is quite a complex problem.