I'm about 5'10.5-5'11ish, in shoes about 6 feet. I'm also South Asian, so brown. I'd say I'm decently handsome to pretty handsome, getting in the gym recently, nothing too serious. I'm also kind of awkward, kinda shy.

Anyways, it seems like the blackpill was WRONG about women. I'm in college, and ever since I lost weight, get constant more attention from girls, looks constantly, some messages, like tall ass girls! It's crazy to me, but anyways. And I don't even do any of the cold approach BS, as I said, I'd faint if I had to do that.

I DID believe the black pill stuff when I was dozens of pounds fatter, because no one really paid me attention, neither guys nor girls. On top of being brown, not dressing well, being shy, I guess that all killed me.

Anyways, my question is, I've been exposed to so much fresh and fit, incel, andrew tate BS, wheatfwaffles and its still ingrained in my head. I still agree with some of it, but for me it all comes down to 3 things: height, race, and social skills.

I don't worry about fitness, face, or money, because you can change fitness, money, and I'm grateful for my face, and even that can be changed through losing weight, small surgeries, and skincare, and haircuts.

For race, I've heard even Fresh and fit make fun of brown guys despite them supposing to not be incels, and themselves being POC and not fitting the white beauty standards. I've seen so many people hate on South Asian men, but now as I see REAL LIFE, I just don't think its that true anymore. It's more of a mental thing, I just have this chip on my shoulder because of it.

It's similar to height, you can't change it. And I know y'all will say omg you're 5'11ish why are you complaining. Well its because of the constant obsession. I see loads of guys shorter and taller than me on a daily basis. Incel forums and even social media discussions make height out to be huge. So even if it doesn't matter, it's ingrained in my head now... idk. I guess I'm worried over nothing. However, I suppose I just want to be fully loved by a woman.

I guess what worries me is that guys who are 5'6-5'9 constantly bitch and complain about their height in relation to women. If they didn't care, I probably wouldn't either. If someone is like 5'3 and complains it would make sense, but these dudes between 5'6 and 5'9 literally make up 60-70% f all men yet constantly complain even though all of their male ancestors were the exact same height and still were able to reproduce. Also a 5'8-5'9 man is only up to my eye to hairline level, so I guess when they get insecure, I feel it too. On the bright side, I'm just barely below a 6 footer.

Anyways, I'm wondering if any of you have any advice for me in regards to these two unchangables: race and height. The incel charts on this have depressed me in the past. They'll be like, if you're brown you have to make 500k more to attract the same woman a white man could get. And then I see brown men irl with girls doing just fine and happy (I will admit they probably have a rougher time than white dudes in college and high school.) And they'll post a stat showing men who are 5'11 to 6'3 all get interest from women, but when it goes from 5'11 to 5'8, it goes from high interest to zero interest.

I'm like bruh... I get that 5'11 is visibly taller than 5'8, but how is 5'8 even short?? like its not even that deep.

Sorry for ranting~ I'd love your thoughts, be honest, but also helpful. I'm tired of the dark spiraling.