Men who have been sexually assaulted by women, whats your story? How do you feel about societies response to your experience? (SERIOUS)

FartOnACat · 2024-01-05T01:16:51+00:00

Many times.

My female babysitter when I was a child. Frequently touched my penis. Nobody believed me.
In junior high, I didn't want to date a girl. She and her friends cornered me after school and sexually assaulted me. Nobody believed me.
When I was in high school I suddenly began passing what I didn't know at the time was a kidney stone. I know this isn't exactly your question, but the male X-ray tech kept touching my penis and testicles as I was on the table about to get an X-ray. I couldn't fight back or protest because I was in so much pain. I didn't tell anyone because nobody believed me the first two times.
I was making out with a woman in college. She began performing oral sex on me. I was OK with that, but we didn't have a condom so I didn't want to go any further. Even though I told her this, she hopped on top and forced me to have sex with her. I didn't tell anyone of course.

I've spoken about these experiences elsewhere on reddit and was told by the people there that I was making it all up. The only one that people will believe is the third one because the perpetrator was a man. I don't ever really talk about them because I've noticed the more woman-dominated a community is, the more anger people will direct towards me when I describe my experiences of being sexually assaulted and raped by women.

HoneyFuture3093 · 2024-01-05T02:34:04+00:00

I got very fit and muscular in my last two years of highschool after being fat all my life previously. Not long after I bulked up there was this group of girls who would grab and/or smack my ass every chance they got. They'd whistle at me, say lewd things etc. Nothing that I said or did stopped them, depsite the fact that I made it very clear that I wasn't interested. At times it would just be one of them, others it would be a group of 4 or 5 of them. Sometimes just getting to class required me to run a gauntlet of grabass. This went on for nearly a year before I finally lost my patience and violently cussed them out. Thankfully they did stop after that but then some guys who heard about me cussing them out started threatening me. I was always very tall and now I was also very buff at this point so they never did anything but posture and run away when I called them on it.

Another time was by my girlfriend. I had mono (I got it from her, but she was already over it) and could barely breathe. I was trying to sleep but she wanted to have sex. I kept telling her that I didn't have any energy and could barely get enough breath as it was. She kept insisting, despite me repeatedly saying no. Eventually she put her hands in my pants and rubbed my dick until I was hard and then insisted that I must want to have sex because I was hard. I denied that, repeating that I had no energy and couldn't breath. This went on for a while before she climbed on me and I just got tired of fighting her and let it happen so she would leave me alone and I could get some rest.

As for how I feel about it, for the longest time it never even occurred to me that I should feel anything about it. Eventually it started to sink in that what those people did was not right and if I had done (or even simply been accused of doing) anything similar then the consequences would have been dire. I was pissed off for a while once I realized that I was allowed to be mad about it. At this point I have accepted it and moved on. I will still bring it up online, though, because people need to know that there are plenty of men who have suffered through what a lot of people think is a uniquely female experience.

WeEatBabies · 2024-01-05T03:47:57+00:00

It happened twice, once on a beach in Thailand a prostitute simply walked up to me and grabbed my croch.

I just said : no thank you and walked away.

Another time in Vegas, at like 3am, walking off the club to my hotel, prostitute again, ask if I want some, grabs my ass, ... I say : no thank you and walk away.

She turns crazy, starts pushing me and chasing me, yelling at me along the lines of : "What do you mean, no thank you, I'm not good enough for you, what's your problem etc..."

I just started jogging and she left me alone.

denvercaniac · 2024-01-05T07:08:51+00:00

In my college days, 3 women tried sexual shit with me as I was sleepy. One, an ex, used me as a masturbation device even after seeing me be so exhausted I couldn't stand up straight. I am still livid.

Spins13 · 2024-01-05T11:20:55+00:00

I’ve gotten unsolicited fondling of my bottom and genitals (through trousers). I would say 50-50 men and women and about 10-15 times in my life. 70% in public transportation and 30% in parties. I would say nothing as a boy or young adult but now I usually make it very clear for everyone around that I am not ok with it

None of this has traumatised me but it was obviously very uncomfortable. The people I have told simply didn’t care

Kingbookser · 2024-01-05T16:33:58+00:00

This isn't "that" serious compared to other things, but in the situation I was really ashamed

In the 8th grade you always do a school trip and only recently the destination changed, but we went to south tirol to ski.

Anyways in the bus there were two girls who and the seat next to me to the right was empty, since I was somewhat a loner and really shy. Anyways, half way through the trip the two girls started to come up to me and one sat down right next to me while the other sat down in the opposide row. I was kinda confused and embarrassed seeing a random girl deciding to sit next to me. Emma (fictional name) was the one who sat next to me and Lena (also fictional name) sat in the opposite row. Emma started to ask me questions on why I am sitting alone here and other questions. I ignored her, since I hoped she would just leave and I thought they just tried to bully me (got bullied in elementary school with the same questions etc.). They proceeded to ask me questions and asked me why I'm not answering them. I was listing to music this entire time.

After a while they realized I won't answer anything and ignore them further, so they changed position and now Lena was next to me. She tried the "good cop" and the "being all cute" approach. I ignored her further with looking out of the window and after some time she asked "What are you listening to?", while leaning into me and her boobs touched my arm, while her hand took my left headphone out of my ear to listen to my music. I don't remember what she commented exactly on the music, but I know it was neither positive nor negative. Then she just let it fall (caple headphones) and I was putting it back into my ear.

After that she probably had enough of me ignoring her and started to grab my arm and shake it to get my attention. She tried more and more until she started to hug me all of the sudden. I was really confused, embarrassed and shocked about it, since back then I thought hugs are only for loved ones (relationships and close relatives), so I wanted to save my first hug with a non relative for my 1st girlfriend. I paniced and started to quietly (too shocked to be loud) for help. My friend was sitting right behind me and just laughed really loudly about the situation, while anyone else ignored it entirely.

After the hug they left for a while, before Lena was coming back and I instantly paniced. She was "mad" and asked why I was panicing before laughing at me. She said that I'm cute and that I should be more relaxed. Since I was still panicing she thought she needed to calm me down and in her eyes it was only possible to try and kiss my cheek. I dodged the kiss and protected myself with my hands, then she just sat on the seat, but still teasing me all the way until we were at the "hotel".

In those entire 5 days we went there, were there and the drive home, they both teased, tried to hug, tried to kiss me all the time, when they saw me.

Apart from those 2 the school trip was pretty good

shit-zen-giggles · 2024-01-05T23:56:05+00:00

here are a couple more such stories

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/wahaup/askreddit_men_of_reddit_who_have_been_raped_by_a/

make sure to check out the thread linked in the above posting, it has hundreds if not thousands of stories.

Additional_Insect_44 · 2024-01-05T14:01:52+00:00

A joke in high school, no one as usual cared, then tried to make me look bad.

ElisaSKy · 2024-01-05T07:35:09+00:00

Twice. Once by a classmate, who filmed it and was convicted of... "Invasion of privacy". Because jumping my bones without my permission using a threat of levying a false accusation if I kept struggling was A-okay, but recording me without my permission was beyond the pale. Go figure, huh?

Once by my egg donor, whom has used similar threats and has once gotten locked me up for 48 hours in a psych ward, including 8 of them tied spreadeagle to a bed. Of course, I "had it coming" because I was "out of control" when I refused to do what she asked me, and it was a good thing this cured me of my disobedient streak, but I also "was a pervert and a weirdo" when I did exactly what she told and the only way to not be a pervert and a weirdo was to... Have the disobedient streak that made me "out of control" and that it was a good thing I was cured of?

I just can't win can I? I don't do what my egg donor asks me to do, I'm "out of control" and that needs correcting, but if I do what she asks me, I'm a pervert and a weirdo and that ALSO needs correcting...

Forsaken-Pay8806 · 2024-01-06T06:33:33+00:00

Well, I will put my grain of sand here:

1.- When I was 16, I was in my cousin's house, there were other cousins there, including two female cousins that went from another country, at one point, my bigger cousins went to the kitchen to get some snacks, and my two cousins and I where in the room, then one of them asked me sexual questions and I was feeling uncomfortable, then these two girls hold my hands and feet, I was immobile, and then one of them (one was 15 and the other was 16) started to pull my pants out, they wanted to rape me.

I screamed and my cousins stopped them.

2.- When I was 12 years old, I was in a barber shop, and there was a female barber, she looked like a 25-28 year old woman, she started to tell me I was handsome and that I have a beautiful hair, while she cut my hair, she touched my ears and my neck strangely, she was enjoying this.

Then after the cut, she started to tap the chair wherr I was with her pelvis, I was like, damn.

So yeah, that was strange.

Puzzled-Walk9752 · 2024-01-30T11:52:31+00:00

I was 16 and came back from a different state after a long time and immediately went and seen my friends long story short they throw me a a little kickback and I get fuckin hammered and I had tunnel vision and fell to the floor is what they said I remember the tunnel vision but not falling and then one of my friends that was a girl went and showered me off apparently and anyways I wake up in the guest room to one of the other girls I knew not know but knew from the kickback riding on top of me idk if I was hard or not but I passed back out and woke up to my friend with my pants down she left me w my fuckin pants down in the bed of course dick out and everything but i don’t remember nothing of the sex if we had any (I was 16 at the time and she was 18)

Title	Men who have been sexually assaulted by women, whats your story? How do you feel about societies response to your experience? (SERIOUS)
Author	CompassionateInquery
Upvotes	79
Comments	19
Date	January 5, 2024 12:39 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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