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Kundalini-Electric · 2022-08-14T00:31:57+00:00

I think they mean don’t do things you don’t enjoy just for the sole purpose of meeting Women because you’re not going to have a good time and Women will be able to sense a mile away.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-14T04:12:12+00:00

I have told this story several times, but I'm an old school guy. Got into seduction back in 2000's when it was just a single online forum for guys exchanging pick up lines and places to meet women.

As time went by and the community grew, you started getting all kinds of weirdos including Mystery and his ilk of virgin nerds. Those guys popularized going out for the purpose of picking up women. A little know secret is that mystery could never get any girls. He got a bunch of phone numbers but girls would never call back or go out with him.

The things is, I took after that for a while. Going out for the purpose of pursuing women. Being too aggressive, approaching every interaction with my agenda of trying to get the girl to sleep with me or at least give me her number, etc.

So one day I was at my favorite day game spot having my coffee and cig and I see these 4 wanna be pickup artists all decked out in peacocking gear run around and harass girls on the street. From afar it was pretty clear to me what they were doing. And girls were cringing hard. They were going like "am I on hidden camera?". That's when I told myself "god, please don't tell me that's how I come across to women, please god!".

It's them that I realize just how weird it is to go out for the purposes of picking up women and to try and angle every interaction with a woman into you trying to get together with her. Thing is, normal, well adjusted and sexually successful guys never have to do this. They just go out to have fun and have normal conversations wjth women and they don't over analyze every interaction or try to work every angle to get her in bed. They just have fun, flirt, banter and women like them for who they are. And then they hook up.

You probably haven't gone out just to have fun in a while, you are probably so obsessed wjth pickup that every interaction wjth a women feels fake, forced and unnatural. STOP IT! Get to know them genuinely and fucking express interest in them as human beings. You don't have to lie to women or pretend you are something you are not. I've had the most success when I told women I'm what I am. Not cut out for relationships, no exclusivity and I'm kind of a perv. And they were like "okay, yeah that's kind of what I want too let's do it".

The downside is they all end up falling in love with me.

python834 · 2022-08-14T03:39:47+00:00

Just because you like cheese pizza doesnt mean you want to change your life just to eat cheese pizza.

great_account · 2022-08-14T04:56:52+00:00

The thing is, you're at your best when you're actually interested in something. If the music at that club is cool, you'll have a blast dancing and people will naturally gravitate towards you. If you are really into basketball people will gravitate to your energy when you're on the court.

Meeting women is a hit or miss game. If you're not on one night, then you'll get down on yourself and you'll stop having fun. Go to the club cuz the music is cool. Go to that coffee shop cuz you really like their beans. People like people who enjoy themselves.

2022-08-14T05:23:05+00:00

Well… As far as downside to go, that ain’t bad.

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