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Never initiate commitment

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August 11, 2022

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Title	Never initiate commitment
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	6
Comments	20
Date	August 11, 2022 2:44 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/wlt4z6/never_initiate_commitment/
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I agree with this, there are ways to say things and there are ways to say things. But I have to ask, what kind of man seeks to settle down and have a long term relationship with one woman?
I don't know if that is true. At the point of wanting a relationship most couples have already done the deed and at that point the woman feels comfortable enough saying and expressing herself more comfortably, again most of the time. I would also say that majority of women like the idea of working to secure a man. Think of it like taming a wild beast or a criminal which are usually the extreme representations of the dark traits that women want in men, so like taming an animal.
Stable women offer less sexual stimulation. Part of the appeal of those toxic women is the emotional turmoil translates into sexual appetite..
Too much yes, but in the right amount it could actually help personal development and growth since you learn and practice how to handle people like this and develop a thicker skin.

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I think there are advantages and disadvantages to categorizing people. Its always important to keep an open mind and know the pitfalls that yours\others behavior can lead you into. So if we answer the question what kind of man is going to initiate a relationship? lets add usually and likely as words to keep our options open. Usually its a man with no many options or the kind of man that is at the end of his sexual peak...The reason I ask this is to figure out why many women are disgusted by that behaviour and what sort of indicators it brings up to them? That way one can decide either to calibrate himself or not. This idea is based on the fact that there are certain traits that signify some things and some traits that signify other things...
There are exceptions to the rule but the rule is the rule for a reason. There are certain biological tendencies and hormones that are released that give people a certain sense of comfort and openness...
Interesting notion. But I dont believe this behavior is exclusive to younger girls, if you have ever been on a dating app and tried to talking to older women they seem to seek the same type of men if not even more extreme versions of them. And I wouldn't say that younger men want the same thing. This seems to be more of a female oriented desire. Claiming dark traits are immature seems like a cop out. Having abundance of dark traits while being able to socialize properly is an extremely powerful weapon. Having the ability to be vicious and ruthless is just as important as having empathy and kindness.
Whats a Ven Diagram?
I don't know if its taste or just acceptance. I think people tend to mask their inability to have something with whatever moral virtue they select. The young, hot, toxic women tend to be the ones that are pursued the most. I think it is possible that one would make a claim that their taste changed because they no longer can obtain or compete with the younger guys. So my question here is don't you think that people base their taste on what they are good at? or their lack of skill? so if someone is not good at lets say football they would claim "eh I dont like it" but do they actually not like it or they feel inclined to justify it that way so they don't feel bad about themselves?
That is why those kinds of relationships don't last too long and usually ends up in one side or even both sides getting hurt. Its very dramatic. I never tried to insinuate anyone should head to a certain direction. Not even talking about any direction that I am heading to lol
It does. Like everything. I think stable relationships get boring fast as well. that is why I am encouraging the idea of diversity. A little bit of this a little bit of that. I am not even talking about dating at this point...I think life is short and its exactly why you should never give up. If we are talking about people generally, then diversity is great. If one seeks a long time partner then stability is important. If one seeks an adventurous, turbulent, sexual experience then the crazy route is the way to go...Diversity could also manifest itself within a certain relationship with a woman. You could have a so called "stable" girlfriend but decide to spice it up every now and then.
Very true I agree. Its a dangerous game and that is why people eventually get out of it. I think most people are manipulate to a degree but not all of them are shitty. Some people want your best interest but I think its fair to make a claim that all people care for themselves first. Its also fair to think that good people are boring to an extent. Order, rules, respect which are associated with positive traits require certain consistency which some may find either boring but could also be very relaxing and addictive in its own way.
Im actually curious about what you said that certain behaviours screen out healthy well adjusted people. Can you elaborate on that?