This is going to be a long ass post. TLDR about the important shit at the bottom. But essentially you'll get a background about me and maybe gauge why I'm treated like a kid.

Here's a bit about me. I'm 19M, financially independent. Pay for my own shit and for my pets (dog, reef tank). Still live with parents.

I have a stereotypical Hispanic Family dominated by women. Only stereotype that doesn't hold up is that my mom is the one with the pants in the family. So I essentially grew up being a kiss ass since my dad was never home and always working. Not knowing how to be dominant etc. Also my parents are Highly religious. I'm pretty much atheist but don't fuck with the ouji or shit like that.

Like I have to get their blessing every time I leave the house, I have to update them on where I'm going before I leave and ask if I can go before I leave.(This is just my mom. Tbh I'd be a diff person if my dad raised me. Because he's fine with me going out since I'm an adult. He gets it) This shit makes me feel like a kid. What time I have to be home by. What i'm doing. etc. And I'll be punished if i don't come back. I'll get my car taken away. At one point my mom even threatened to give my dog away if I don't listen to her. I put my foot down on that one saying I'll press charges since I have my dog registered under my name by county law. No response from them. No one fucks with my dog.

My Sister who is two years younger then me follows these rules but also has more power then me oddly enough. She has a higher social standing then me while I have literally none.

By more power I mean if she tells my younger sister to stop doing whatever it is shes doing she'll stop. If I do then the younger sister back talks to me saying "I don't have to listen to you" no respect.

Now. These past two years I've learned ALOT on dating. (I was raised that girls would only want to fuck me so I avoided them in highschool. My parents (mom) where overprotective, I didn't take sex ed. etc. So I just started dating at 18)

My bro is a charasmatic and social af. He can get anyone he wants if he wanted to but due to reasons he isn't allowed to and is also finding a way out of that life. I didn't know shit about dating and he taught me how to escalate and essentially change my mindset from "Lets see if she likes me" to "Will she be good for me?" when I date.

Then I hit up a friend I haven't talked to for a long time. I promised I'd watch a movie with her on HS graduation. Never did. So I hit her up jokingly about that and we talked about dating and shit.

She was surprised I talked openly about sex and never had someone do that. So then I got a female perspective on how to escalate. After I finally got a first kiss with a date I was on I felt like a king so I went back to this friend and tested out this escalating to a kiss technique. It worked. So I used her as a "testing" person to see what is and isn't good. She was fine with it.

This all happened between september of last year and now. (september being when i first started dating.) Not comfortable telling parents about me dating and what I do with friends even though they'd like me to be more open with them.

I work as an after school teacher. Parents sometimes confuse me for one of the kids or avoid me for some reason. I do engage with the kids most of the time of course and don't really engage with co workers much. Social Anxiety so I'm weird with people my age or older and i'm trying to figure out how to fix this. The kids don't even ask me for permission with things. They just whatever the hell they want. Idk how to control them. I did become close with the kids though so staff wants me to stay working their when i tried leaving because apparently I'm every kids best friend and I distract the rougher kids from doing stupid shit. I analyzed my co-workers behavior with the kids and my behavior and I am leaning more towards acting like one of the kids. Jesus.

When I date I always have an awesome first date. I make my intentions clear. I have a fun time. And it always ends positively. My text game is fucked. Even if their interested and show interest I always lose them through text. I can never get past first date. I can get a second date yea but the vibe I give off is always different. I blame this on my lack of social skills and being less dominant.

I stay fit, lift 5 days a week. Hygiene is a serious thing for me, I have a dog, reef as a hobby, I go to college, I parkour, I hike, I jog, overall I enjoy my downtime and just laying on the couch chilling. Kinda depressed and getting some meds for it.

I just want to change how people view me. I want to learn how to stop acting like a child and be a man. How to improve my social skills. How to maintain a relationship (I'd rather fuck one person then multiple.) And how to make more friends. Also I sound pessimistic according to family. Idk how to change that without sounding try hard.

TL;DR - I'm treated like a kid, I analyzed how my co-workers behave and how the kids at my work behave and I lean more towards the kids behavior. I want to improve social skills and be more dominant. Parents are overprotective and want me to update them on everything I do. Even referring to me as "nino" when talking to others.