Yesterday I was reading" no more Mr.nice guy" book and when he talked about validation it made me think a lot when I realized that I have this problem deeply. I started therapy few months, although there are much stuff I talked about with my therapist, but I have not discussed with her some sensitive issues like porn addiction. Even she is a therapist, we had so many sessions together but still I could not talk about these things because I know she will have a different opinion about myself. Only then I realized I have a serious issue with seeking validation.

Also it is important to mention that I had been living for many years in psychological pain and I had no idea what was the reason, until i shared for the first time with my BFFs my porn addiction and i felt loved and accepted unconditionally, only then the pain was lifted, and I figured out that i was seeking validation and love but because there are certain parts of my life that never been shared with anyone , I never felt loved and only when i felt that the psychological pain was gone. But Still I don't have the courage to share such things with even my therapists, it took me 8 years to share these things with my BFFs.

I have to admit, I had being conceived as “nice guy” and I think there is so much to have to change. Hope to hear some opinions.