So guys I understand that I might sound very stupid with this post but I definitely need your help this time.

Some background: I (m28) ended up around 6 months ago a LTR, in these months I hooked up with 3 girls on tinder for whom I had no romantic interest and I ended up having sex 1 time at the 1st date, 2 times at the second one. In any case I always closed the kiss on the first date with no problem.

This time however is different. The girl (F27) I'm going out with also exited a LTR 1 month and a half ago (it's still fresh I know). We met through common friends while we both had a gf/bf and I sensed a very good connection with her. She is smart, fun, good-looking and we have a lot of common interests. To cut a long story short, two weeks ago I asked her if she wanted to drink a beer with me after work even only "to get to know us better", and she agreed.

We had a beer together (the"first date") and even though the conversation was very platonic and there hasn't been any kind of sexual escalation from both sides we got along quite well I think. I asked her out on a second date with the intention to try to escalate more this time but even though she gave me some indicators of interests (at the end of the date she was quite touchy, she tried to be closer to me) I got extremely nervous and I didn't manage to kiss her. I guess I used my time very badly because we had a lot of interesting platonic conversations but then she really had to go home because she started working very early. In any case after the date I was so frustrated and completely convinced that there wasn't going to be a third date so I texted her right after the date saying that I had a very good time and that I should improve my dating techniques now that I'm single (implying that I really wanted to kiss her, I know super-beta move, don't judge me). She replied that she had a very good time as well and that she will be down to go out with me again.

This week I think I'm gonna invite her at my place to eat dinner (we already agreed that I would cook for her a dish that she likes, which BTW I have no idea about how to cook but that's a different problem LOL). Now my problems are these ones:

- The fact that we haven't kissed yet makes everything super awkward. I think she is aware that I'm into her and she must have at least a small interest for me if she agreed going out again with me. Now escalating things feels almost wrong and I'm so nervous at the idea of kissing her (again, with the girls from tinder I had no problem at all)

- I'm shy and she is shy as well. She never showed interest for me in an active way, just a passive one (for example by agreeing to go out with me again, texting me non-sexual stuff, liking my instagram storied). What's the secret with shy girls in your experience?

- I know that I must work on my inner-game. I fancy this girl but I also really wanna have sex with her and enjoy the physical aspect as well. Instead I felt completely asexual after the first two dates and now the idea of having sex with her makes me kinda nervous (and she is super hot), that's so wrong

I feel like I'm gonna screw up this one, need your help guys!