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[–]plantiful 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She told you she likes you. She told you she’s busy. In your post, you said you’ve only chatted a few times and that you understand that she’s handling a lot of stressful things at the moment and has good reason for not hanging out. Step way back. She clearly does not need more stress, which is what you will give her if you continue checking in. Don’t think of it as “making her” message you first, think of it as respecting boundaries that she’s clearly laid out (stressed, given legit reasons to not hang out). When and IF she wants to engage with you, she will. If you want to get to know her, you’ll respect what she’s told you, give her space, and she’ll either eventually pursue you or she won’t.
[–]Neo-Rio 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well if she's lying to you about being busy, there's no way you can call BS on that without making things a whole lot worse - so that's out.
The trick is to see if she's willing to find another time. No attempt to find a better time = not interested.
Also, you should never ask a girl out. Just invite her to something you're already going to be doing. This sneaks past the "OMG he's asking me out on a date" filter. You will already be at said place and all she has to do is show up - or not.
As for her ghosting - a lot of young girls usually lose interest in guys who already show that they're interested. You're just going to get that from young women.You basically have to learn not to be too impressed with women UNTIL you are sleeping with them. Treat women as being on probation until you find the few that show you - by their actions - that they don't deserve to be treated like that.
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