Two of the biggest reasons your interactions go no where is because you’re either not showing intent, or you aren’t leading the interactions or both.

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There will never be a point in the interaction where you get a huge green light to give you permission to keep moving the interaction forward.

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This is where guys get stuck in their heads, and they try and analyze her body language, the conversation and where it’s going too much and get paralysis by analysis.

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Sexual intent isn’t about being some weird, creepy pervert. It’s allowing yourself to have a powerful sexual energy that radiates confidence and openness that invites her in.

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This is not about forcing, manipulating or pressuring her in anyway. It’s actually quite the opposite.

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When you connect with your sexual energy and know how to release it in your interactions, your conversations will go from these hollow surface level conversations, to these deeper, more intimate interactions that feel fun and intriguing.

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If you’re feeling stuck and you just don’t know whether you should focus on your tonality, escalation, flirting, approaches, conversation, how to make it “man vs woman”…

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That’s because all of these problems are external problems.

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If you saw a tree, and you know the roots were dying. Would you continue to focus on the leaves if it needed new soil to grow? No, you’d focus on fixing the roots and the soil.

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It may help temporarily, but it won’t fix the main issue. And that is that you lack self-worth that you are attractive enough to give yourself permission to show her that you’re attracted to her, and it’s also coming from a fear of rejection at the same time.

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This is why I don’t focus on techniques. Because they can help. But they only help when you fix your “inner-game”, or self-confidence that will do 85% the rest of the work for you.

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This also expresses itself in other ways, such as poor tonality, and a lack of certainty where you should be taking the interaction.

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Which is also why you need to lead the interaction in baby steps, so you aren’t doing these massive uncalibrated jumps that may make her uncomfortable.

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This applies to every area when it comes to leading and escalation. Listen to her, adapting, and guiding the interaction that also makes it fun for her. Versus, just getting what you want.

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If you cannot sustain your intent, the interaction will fizzle out and burn out sooner or later. It doesn’t need to be super-intense all the time. But you do need to listen and know when to bring out more sexual energy when the time is right.

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As soon as you get that intent right, you will start to see everything else automatically fix itself by itself.

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And that’s because you don’t need 8000 techniques, just enough to show intent, lead the interaction forward, and know when to escalate with a very strong and powerful “frame” and sexual energy.