Met this girl at a friend’s party, she had a bf at the time. They soon broke up and we began talking on Instagram and met up with our mutual friend. Noticed she was very forward and outgoing, when the friend went to the toilet she said to me “if we were on a first date what would you ask me?”. Later on she brought up sex and asked us if we would sleep with her hypothetically.

We ended up going back to hers and drinking. I ended up chilling on the sofa and she soon laid along it with her head on my lap. My friend then left. Me being a tool didn’t initiate fully as I didn’t expect how forward she was and being drunk etc. During the night she woke and went to bed and a few days after I asked her on a date but got rejected “not looking for relationship atm”.

Skip forward a bit and we meet up again with a group and she says the same thing “would you have sex with me?” in front of the group. I presume it’s a shit test again so say something like “if you bring the candles/cuffs”, although it definitely caught me off guard. That night I remember smacking her arse at some point and wasn’t slapped back or anything so that’s good.

For her bday she invited me and the friend along with her girlfriends. I enjoyed it but there wasn’t really any opportunity to get her alone and to be honest I just wanted a good time. I asked her out a few days after and she said she couldn’t make that day and to do a rain check. I didn’t bother asking again as if she wanted to meet then she’d have at least suggested another date.

Throughout the time we message occasionally and she seems to give me shit tests: eg if I have a picture up with another girl she responds “are you cheating on me??”, or more recently I sent a pic in a hot tub saying she should join me with a bottle of wine (inside joke) and she said “how many other bitches have you sent this to?”.

I think when I didn’t escalate initially it showed that I was either rejecting her or didn’t have the minerals. I saw some video on “the point of no return” where it says if you get close to sleeping with a girl but don’t then it’s hard to make it happen after.

I just find it’s weird behaviour as she will give me shit tests and sometimes drunkenly FaceTime call me (I normally ignore as I’m out myself) but whenever I try and sort something she’s always busy. What do I do or is she just keeping me around for attention? I’m not that thirsty so there are plenty of other guys she can get that from.

Any tips?

Tbh I’m not that emotionally involved so don’t care how it goes. I’m seeing her with the group in a few weeks so maybe I’ll go for it a bit more.