Help.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-14T22:07:00+00:00

Well, do you know what the purpose of talking with a girl is?

To get to know her and to allow her to get to know you.

*Now why do we do this? *

So that we can evaluate how much we actually like her apart from her looks, and so that she can evaluate how much she likes us apart from our looks.

To see if we enjoy ourselves together, to see if we vibe, connect and have chemistry together, and to make each other feel pleasant sensations or emotions.

We want to allow her to see how we talk, how we behave, our sense of humour, out unique perspective on things and experiences, and how far we have grown as people emotionally.

She needs to see this in order to relate to you, and you need to see this in order for you to relate to her.

Without a connection, you will both feel uncomfortable, and things won’t progress between you.

Why do we want to feel pleasant emotions?

Because those form the basis of attraction, and allows us to feel positive that the relationship should escalate to the next phases (kissing, comfort, affection, support, sex, love,…) with that person.

Now how do we make each other feel in a club? And what exactly talk about to get to know each other?

You might be thinking: Movies? football? Tv shows? Fitness and health topics? The nightclub? Your favourite DJs? Or signers?

While you could talk about those, the problem is that they are impersonal topics. Impersonal means that you are not talking about stuff that involves her feelings, her personality and who she is.

Instead an impersonal conversation is more superficial meaning that what you are talking about doesn’t specifically involved her or you, it is not a deep boned it’s all based on trivial stuff.

*For example, have you ever talked with an stranger in an elevator? *

I bet the conversation went something like: “

“Good weather today? Huh

Oh yeah, pretty nice, i wish everyday was alike this”

“For sure, specially now that the restrictions of covid are ending, it’s gonna be nice to chill outside without a mask”

“For sure, all right this is my stop, have a good day”

“You too”

Do you feel like you actually know this person after that conversation? Do you feel like you could be best friends or something meaningful?

Don’t think so. It probably feels like you are never gonna interact with each other again, like you didn’t even try to get his name, or find out anything about that person.

All you talked is trivial stuff, the conversation wasn’t deep it was superficial, you don’t know how he is feeling, and he doesn’t know how you are feeling, you dont know if he has family problems, or if he is getting good news today…

Now, what about personal conversations?

That’s when you get into deeper more private or personal stuff, you ask how she is feeling because you care, you are not just asking “how are you” as a polite formality, you really wanna know how she is feeling. That’s more personal.

That’s where you want the conversation to go, into personal territory. Obviously don’t go into depressing mode or something because this is a club and it’s supposed to be a place to have fun, but talk about what drives you, what motivates you, how you feel about things in a positive manner… Same with her. How she feels about her passions, what drivers her? What motivates her? What are her dreams and why? What are her best experiences and how they felt?

This is all important to create the connection and feel like you both get each other to the point where you feel good that you finally found someone who understands you abs accepts, likes you, and accepts for who you are.

Meanwhile, you also want to distinguish yourself from any other genetic person, you want to show your humour, how playful you are, how funny you both are, or how witty or smart, or brave, or dating…

You want to show yourself as a unique person she isn’t used to talking, but not just for her but for everyone. This is called having a personality.

What is a personality and why it matters?

A personality is the identity you have that differentiates you from other people around you, if you didn’t have a personality you would be like a generic robot, which is no no different from the rest of the other robots.

Can you imagine if every human was a generic robot? All of them programmed to say the same things over and over? No way to differentiate robot number 1 from robot number 532?

That’s usually how many men come across to women, as generic robots that are all the same.

Girls can sometimes come across as generic as well, but because men are superficial as fuck, they don’t care initially as much, as they only care about their boobs for now.

But for women it can be a huge dealbreaker if you are like every other guy, and that’s something they can notice immediately in a club or anywhere…

As soon as you say a bunch of things to them they can tell if you are like every other guy, or if you are special/different.

So you want to display your humour, your weird things you do when you are comfortable or when you know no one’s judging you,…

This is all helps to be engaging, and memorable. Meaning she is likely to remember you and feel good because people with fancy personalities are fun to spend time with.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-14T22:29:27+00:00

We can't force you to not be a do nothing Bitch.

Title	Help.
Author	MonthTechnical
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Date	March 14, 2022 8:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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