is it more how you look like, how you dress, how you care yourself, how you talk, how many friends you got, your vibe check?

i'm struggling big time over here.

i can literally count the number of times i had sex

i can literally describe you the sex itself

i can literally remember the names of the girls i had sex with

the girls themselves don't even remember me, they completely forgot, they weren't drunk but they forgot

i can literally count the number of sex partners i had and describe them to you

what are your guys recommendations for a almost going to be incel person like myself

i think a lot of the problem is to do with S.L.B. (self limiting beliefs), ability to handle rejection, fear of failure, being made fun of, taking myself and her really seriously, balancing caring and not caring, etc. etc. etc.