I used to go out drinking on the weekends and put so much pressure on my success with women instead of just trying to enjoy the party, the people and generally be carefree about the experience. I would have these nights where I got so miserable for absolutely no reason but really I was just too far in my own head, comparing myself to other people and how their social interactions measured up to mine. That was the wrong mindset and i now know that.

What people need to realize is that unless you’re a celebrity or you devote everything to hooking up, you’re most likely gonna have nights where you go home without someone and that’s FINE. I have spent a lot of time in I guess you could say “popular” social circles. I was in a frat in college, I have female friends that are actual models and lemme tell you that they’ve ALL been rejected, theyve all done the rejecting, they’ve all had nights at the bar with zero play, and they all have nights where they didn’t even want to have play and there’s nothing wrong with that, in fact it’s completely normal.

Last night a girl was hitting on me but I rejected her. I normally would have just taken her up and gotten play for the night but I now value more of the quality experiences with women in a more conversational setting (we were at like a loud club). I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with that because it allowed me to prove to myself that I have changed my toxic thought process about going out and hooking up. I know this is all over the place but I hope y’all get the gist.