Hey guys, So I am very familiar with the red pill and have been working on changing a bunch of bad personality habits (I used to be very socially inferior/inept) and trying to acquire and use game.
I think I am on the right track (passing shit tests, abundance mindset, alpha male personality traits) but have ran into some problems. Here's the thing, I am not sexually active because I don't really have time to put myself out there because I work full time and go to school. Other than work and the gym, I don't have access to hot girls, and most of the girls I work with are too young to hook up with. I will admit that I don't approach girls in the gym, seems too difficult and I do have some approach anxiety I need to work on. I am really good at pretending to be a player, and most of the people at my job see me like that, but the problem is, I am no longer wanting to prioritize sex because I just don't have access. There is this nice girl I work with (sounds like oneitis but please bear with me) that I kind of like and think she might be LTR material, but the problem is that I think she thinks I'm a player and isn't really as attracted to me as she was when I first me her. I also have a reputation for being an asshole (not to her) and I think that has been part of my problem. I have read a good guide on charm (https://www.trp.red/p/mattyanon/556) and want to go this route instead of the arrogant asshole route.
My logic behind all of this is this: It's a win win, either I end up dating her and can work on being in an LTR (never had one before) OR I don't date her (get rejected) and charge this to the game by practicing the abundance mindset and practicing my charm game.
Do you guys have any advice on proving to her that I am not a ONS type of guy and can still be in a serious relationship if the right girl (her in this case) comes along or is this just such a beta move it's not even funny?

TL;DR Want to stop seeming like an asshole player so I can successfully date a girl I have COME to like, while keeping an abundance mindset.

I already went on one date with her, she was 30 mins late and I checked her, she is VERY timid and agreeable so maybe that's why she said yes, (she did say "hi" to me after the date the next time we worked (seemed to show interest)) This weekend it will have been two weeks since this date and I want to ask her out again.
I'm trying my best to have an abundance mindset about this i.e. not giving her a lot of attention, waiting to ask her out, etc.