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1keentolearn12 · 2022-01-22T15:51:10+00:00

What do you look like

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-22T07:39:51+00:00

It's hard to say what's wrong with you based on your post, but here are a few tips:

Talk to everyone. This works to your advantage in a number of ways, but the main benefits are that you create social momentum that favors you meeting new people (it's much easier to roll into a conversation with a new group of people if you're already in one, and you'll likely find new friend groups to hang out with if you keep chatting), you look like a fun, social guy who belongs at the venue, and you have a huge bank of positive interactions to draw from if you get rejected. Think of it like this - if you've had 10 good conversations, and 1 bad one, you'll have an easier time keeping your mood up than someone who's had 1 bad conversation and no good ones, and if you're in a fun, social mood, you'll have a much easier time attracting people to you.
Don't be afraid to switch venues if you feel like the spot you're in is played out. You can generally get a feel for this after a few passes around the location, and a number of factors can contribute to your impression, but generally you'll have a sense of whether the place you're in is conducive to you being in a good mood and having a good time. If it's not, try another spot.
Make yourself comfortable. If you aren't having the best time, stop and check to see how you're feeling in the moment. Are your legs getting tired from standing? Do you not like the angle you're sitting in? Sometimes, the reason your experience is being negatively impacted is because you're doing little things to make your body uncomfortable, and correcting them can bring you back where you need to be.
Play to your strengths. If you're a good dancer, then feel free to hop on the dance floor, but if you're more of a talker, leverage that. Go to areas where you can actually talk and be heard, like by the bar or outside to have a smoke. If it's hard for people to hear you, don't lean in when you talk; instead, retain normal posture and project your voice. If the person can't hear you, then talk normally directly into their ear (and have them do the same if you can't hear them). Do whatever it takes to make your conversational skills work for you.
If you're making genuine progress with a girl you find attractive, don't leave, stick with her and her friends until you're no longer making progress.

Melinored · 2022-01-22T20:59:01+00:00

Jesus christ this guy is no better than a person like me who stays locked in his room and wonders why is he not getting any female attention.

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Date	January 22, 2022 7:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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