So, I’m good with girls. I’m in sales luckily so I know how to talk to people well and have a past record of picking up girls that I’m quite proud of. All of these girls were met at work, school or Tinder.

However, I’m obese currently. Obviously no fault of anyone but my own. I fell down a bad rabbit hole when COVID happened, smoked an ungodly amount of weed for the next year and half, and as a result of that ate a shit ton of food.

To put it frankly, I’m incredibly ashamed of my body. To rub salt on the wound, I’m a formerly licensed personal trainer. I have every single bit of knowledge possible needed to lose weight. However I did this to myself so that makes me feel even more bad about it.

So basically, at this point I’m sober now Thank God and I’ve been going to the gym consistently and I’m gonna continue to. However I’m still obese. To put it into perspective, 5’9 235~. Last time I got with a girl off Tinder, I only had old pictures (pre Covid) where I weighed about 30-40 pounds less. We had an 11/10 connection, texted all day etc for 3 weeks. Then we had sex, and the next day, she basically broke up with me via “it’s not you it’s me”. So that destroyed me inside because I still have no idea what happened. The sex was good from what I could tell, and I specifically asked her if that was it, she said exactly “if the sex was bad, we would’ve stopped having sex.” And she is that kind of girl so I do 100% believe her on that. Plus I do my best to please the other party during sex plus have past experience so I really don’t think that was it. So I think it was my accidental “cat fish” but that’s just a theory. I also have gynocomastia (skinny or fat, I have man boobs basically) and getting surgery in 6 months. But that makes me even more insecure, on top of being fat.

Anyways, so my question is, I wanna get back in the game, I can do it, there’s nothing stopping me, but if I would be ashamed to even take off my shirt, would it even be worth it? Or should I basically wait till June where I’m 100% going to be under 200 and confident in my body? What would you guys do?

I also still don’t have any new pictures from post Covid world as I never really did like pictures and haven’t been going out except to work, plus I don’t plan on staying this way so I never bothered to take new pictures.

If I did get back into the game, I’d have to take new ones I definitely did not have the intention to cat fish anyone, ever as I completely understand how shitty that could possibly be. What would you guys do???