if we operate under the AF/BB paradigm, and from what I understand about TRP.

If I am the bad boy (AF) a woman will use me for short term validation and to "get me out of her system" and think that I am not longterm material.

if I am the nice guy (BB) a woman will use me to secure her needs and will think that she settled down for me and that she is better and can do better.

so I end up being used either way? WTF?