Not sure what temperament to have with girls in clubs / bars

Secure_SeaLab · 2021-09-01T19:09:52+00:00

Why not try being normal instead of creating a fake bar persona?

2021-09-01T19:23:20+00:00

Yeah just be normal or better yet take on whatever temperament resonates with your personality.

Where you’re already fucking up is that you’re trying to create persona for the sake of getting girls. Who are you? What type of guy are you? Start there and then you can build upon that.

Safe-Investigator271 · 2021-09-01T19:32:13+00:00

Is this for a beer commercial?

2021-09-01T20:25:55+00:00

You have to be like goldilocks. Too loud or big of a personality and you might freak her out. If you're too chill she may perceive you as boring. The best way to avoid this pitfall is add dynamics to your interactions. What the hell does that mean?

If you're telling a story, add some volume to your voice, add some hand gestures, and add expression to your face. Let here feel your enthusiasm for the story. Think big.

Next, talk about something sexy. Lower your voice, maintain good eye contact. Slow down your gestures but add in some light Kino. Put pauses in between words and phrases to build and release tension. "Because you can imagine Becky ... pause ... just how amazing it feels ... pause ... to feel all those feelings ... pause ... spread all throughout our body as you eat the best piece of cheese cake you've ever ... pause ... put in your mouth." (This takes practice and patients because it feels weird at first. But you master the skill of adding pauses and tone and women will not be able to resist you. It irresistibly sexy to women)

When she is talking, and this is so hard for men, SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LISTEN. Try locking into her left eye with your left eye and maintain the eye contact as you bite your lip until she is done speaking. Like done done. Then you simple hit her with a soft-spoken "interesting" or "tell me more about that." She'll keep talking, so you just keep listening and looking in her eyes. Also a little mirroring and matching helps. Give her the room to communicate with you. As she does this, avoid the temptation to interjecting your own stories, or worse, trying to fix or solve anything. After a few minutes, she won't even notice the rapport building inside of her - for you.

This is a tiny window into a much bigger picture but you get the idea. Just like music, film, or any other art form, the more you use dynamics, the more interesting you become. And you don't have to change a single thing about your personality or pretend to be something you're not. Learning how to be better at something is far different than trying to be something you're not. Communication is a skill we can all improve on. Good luck brother.

atomant88 · 2021-09-02T07:36:24+00:00

Just be yourself.

Title	Not sure what temperament to have with girls in clubs / bars
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Date	September 1, 2021 7:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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