So, you see pretty girls in public all the time, you want to talk but you just don't know what to say, you're worried it will get awkward or maybe you'll attract unwanted attention, maybe you'll get in trouble. All these doubts run through your head, anxiety takes over and your ego successfully scares you out of it....again!!. Later you are kicking yourself, why didn't you take a chance?. Why are you so scared?.

Well, what if there was a natural way where you eliminate any awkwardness (from you). Sound appealing?. Keep reading.

The trick is to day approach…is to not do any sort of game. Which makes most guys say “what?” if they hear this idea because it is totally counter intuitive to what they want to do.

But trust me on this one, the only way to get over your fear and to have awesome interactions with strangers is to remove the pick up element from your interactions.

You treat a pretty girl that you see the same way you would treat any other stranger. How would you behave if you were passing by an old man and wanted to make him smile?, how would you behave with a shop worker if you wanted to brighten up their day?. This is how you interact with her. You can be funny, friendly or polite, up to you, depends how you feel at the moment right?.

And this is the hard part for most guys to do…..don’t ask for for anything. Don’t ask her number, don’t ask her out, nothing like that. Have absolutely no agenda what so ever.

Again, guys will say “what are you talking about?? Is this guy crazy?, why not try? Isn’t that the point of talking to her?”.

Maybe it’s the point, and maybe this is the problem too. If you start an interaction with an agenda, you are putting pressure on that interaction before it’s even began. You don’t have an agenda when you make the old man or the bus driver smile, this is why those kinds of interactions flow smoothly while your interactions with strange women do not.

Pick up artists will hit on every girl they talk to, that’s ok in a night club, but in day time, it’s just not the same environment, public day life is a different pace and a different state of mind than private night life spots, you gotta adapt to the environment you are in.

Doesn’t mean NEVER ask out a girl or flirt with her in public, you can. But you will do this much less frequently than in a club because it’s not always appropriate or practical due to various social factors, and a lot of the time it’s just not wanted or approved, You know it can get awkward if the conditions are not right, so that’s why you talk yourself out of it, who wants to be awkward?. Nobody.

You take out all the awkwardness if you remove the agenda, you make your passing joke, your passing remark and you go on your merry way……most of the time. I say most of the time because you know that most of the time the conditions aren’t right, so why even bother talking it past the passing pleasantries?.

But what you are doing is exercising a social muscle in your brain that has gotten weak and docile from lack of use, the muscle associated with socialising with pretty girls, it’s right next to your social muscle for talking to the post man and the bar man, that muscle is strong though because you use it more.

You are now awakening this social muscle and creating a new habit, you talk to any girl in ear shot, any small talk you want, any joke you want, then “have a good say, see ya.” And after a while this becomes something you do automatically with out even thinking of it, and it’s always as natural as talking to a baby.

Now, sooner or later some of these interactions will turn into a conversation, if she wants to talk to you she will initiate conversation with you before you get the chance to to say “have a nice day”. Then she has invited conversation. Be careful here not to slip into pick mode again and start getting excited thinking of how to get her number instead of actually listening to what she is saying, this is such an easy trap to fall into because we get a boost of hormones when we realise we have a girls approval and the mind can slip into Hunter mode. Catch yourself on when this happens and snap out of it because you are about to make things real awkward again.

If she does initiate conversation, the only thing you should focus on is what she is saying , seeing if she is interesting or funny to talk to. Even now though, you don’t need to ask her out unless you feel there is some sort of connection.

I promise you man, if you just try this exercise, getting into this habit of talking to girls for no reason other than to be a friendly passing stranger and you do this for two or three months, by then you will have met at least one that wanted you to ask her out, and you’ll know when you meet her, she will make it obvious if she likes you with her body language and enthusiasm. Ask HER out, not any of the others.

Hope this helps