My LTR and I split about a month ago after she went through my shit and discovered I had been non exclusive during our "dating" days. I was obviously pissed the f off for her going through my stuff and felt like it was a violation that needed serious checking. Im 31, white, single dad(full custody), fit (lift 5 days a week) and divorced. (3 years ago).

Im a single dad, shes a single mom. I met her about 5 months after my divorce and she split with her ex when her baby was 2 months old. We were talking and hooking up for 6 months or so and didn't introduce the kids until about a year into it. (They are 3 and 4, and have a great time together. We have had some pretty awesome times as a family, and it hurts like hell to take that from my son because I know the long term risk involved)

She's quiet, submissive, soft spoken and willing to please on a daily basis. Sex is completely out of control good. Happens every time we are together and multiple times the nights we spend together. Her grandmother helps with watching the kids at her place once or twice a week and we will spend an entire night fucking each others brains out. I have a very high N count and she's in the top 3 easily. She was not great at sex at first but over time I got her to work at it and she's absolutely incredible in bed now. She lets me lead without question and she never speaks up when I am setting the tone of where/what/how we are doing things. She is occasionally jealous and gets insecure because I am confident and give off a "player" vibe when I flirt with work colleagues etc. A few times she has accused me of sleeping around on her and we would cut contact for a few days (I would not engage, and just cut contact and she would re-engage after a few days/week). She will get crazy and freak out and act like a bitch when she thinks i'm being dishonest or lying to her. Her accusations can be annoying and sometimes irrational. Sometimes they are spot on.

I do love this woman, and I love her kid too. For the time we split I had been seeing a few other girls, some very attractive, some amazing in bed but its just not what I wanted in my life. I don't have any interest in spinning plates especially as a full time parent.(Full custody). I cannot leave our city in a 100 mile radius, and I cannot travel much because of my job.

Many of my feels are coming from the fact that I am a family man and I really fulfilled being the father figure and leading everyone as the head of the household. We have not moved in together but our relationship is trending in that direction. I have told myself I would not cohabitate but I can see myself eventually backsliding on it. I do want more kids and this woman is a fantastic mother and feels the same way about having more with me.

After going through all my shit and finding out that I was non exclusive ( I slept around when we would cut contact for a week or so because I was under the impression the relationship had ended) she decided she needed to move on but within hours told me she absolutely does not want to do that. Wants to figure it out and stay together regardless. You all can understand my apprehension to do so. Not trying to sound like a bitch with oneitis but as a man I can be honest about my shortcomings and I can be honest about what I want in my life. I do not know if this is something that will get continually brought up, but the times that she tries even now I tell her we are not going to speak of it.

I have been reading TRP for two years and I understand the problems and potential danger a serious LTR with this woman can be, but I do not want to miss an opportunity to create a real family for my son and I, as well as hers. She has been pretty forgiving, and has stuck by through most of my bullshit. She could eventually cheat, we could have kids and she could try to fuck me over, she could try to get married (I have said I am 100% against marriage regardless).

TL;DR Torn between going back at the world single with my son and I, or to take the next step in an LTR with a single mother.