I don’t actually know how to talk to girls

RedLantern- · 2021-06-11T21:09:42+00:00

Look up “flirt” “escalate” “push pull” on this sub and another that I can’t say ;)

And just have fun with them dude.

AkuBerb · 2021-06-11T22:13:22+00:00

Its a dance yeah, not a preformance. So I guess what I'm saying is somewhere between 40-60% of the obligation is on you. If she isn't vibing then leaning in to 75% isn't going to change that from a 'no' to a 'yes'.

I don't mean this to sound harsh, but girls in their 20s (and younger) are sport hunting a lot of the time. Not a criticism, just the way things are. Consequently, the missing thing might be what you bring outwardly. I don't know what your situation is, but you gotta meet her where she's at with looks, fashion, intellect, or passions in life. There are beautiful girls that date ho-hum guys, but those guys the got 10/10 in some other dimenson of life. Your passions dont have to match, but you do need to have somthing in your life your passionate about and eager to share.

GracieFairmont86 · 2021-06-12T02:25:02+00:00

I think you can get a good start with the observational humor. (I just did a post reply about o.s.a you seem to already know about that), but that is to create familiarity, once you feel the girl is into talking to you, maybe flirting with you verbally or non verbally, escalation must occur.

I personally ain't a jerk by nature, I like giving compliments, but in a way that escalates. This can be done with a compliment that reverses the frame and doubles up as a statement of intent. You have to use the word "sexy." Example:"I must say that is a sexy looking tattoo, you trying to turn me on purposely? I ain't that easy next shot is on you!🤣"

Negative compliments are also good if u are feeling daring and it is within your personality. "I think you are very attractive, dont get me wrong, but beauty usually brings nothing else to the table🤔 I'm looking for good vibes, good outlook, good convos." Watch as she proceeds to qualify herself to you.

This stuff is mid stage escalation, for closing you need to find excuses for physical contact, but if u escalated well, she will be also looking for those excuses just let it happen. With that comes challenging. If you end up talking about spending time alone with each other, making a bet that she cant handle you tends to gets results.

aznkor · 2021-06-12T03:38:25+00:00

Look up Alan Roger Currie's "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're Really Thinking." He's a bit extreme, but it sounds like you're currently on the opposite side of the spectrum and you might find value in exploring how to be boldly flirty.

Title	I don’t actually know how to talk to girls
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Date	June 11, 2021 8:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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